Starrdeal1 Posted January 14, 2018 Share Posted January 14, 2018 I've been with my soon to be ex-Fiance for over 4 years. His brother has a woman now his wife who has had a thing for him for years. She has spread rumors about me and treated me very strange to where now after all these years she wont even sit next to me in church and will make a huge issue of letting me know she's moving. For example just two weeks ago he husband my fiancés brother sits his book bag next to my seat during church. I felt my stomach sink because I already knew what game she was going to play. She comes over and gives me her usual fake hug and simply waits until he leaves and than takes the bag and moves away from me. Mind you, I have never done anything to this lunatic. I've tried to confront her, she wont admit to anything so that was a waste of my time. I have tried to get away from her because the vibes are off and she still plays her games and sadly now he actually isn't seeing what she's doing. She's even lied on me and claimed I'm jealous of her but I never had anything against her until she started plotting on my fiancé. Also others in the family told me she hated me and it shows. So clearly she's been verbal about her hatred. Telling everyone I'm crazy. How can a woman hate me when I've done nothing to her? I offered to have coffee with her and she wouldn't meet me. I wanted to talk about this. She didn't. She has manipulated the situation so badly that her husband doesn't even know what she's been doing behind his back and its so awkward when she comes around. I wanted to tell him but I am convinced she's already set that up in her favor so I would be wasting my time. She has bent over in front of my Fiance showing her panties and even tried to ask me if she can have a private chat with him when she was going through problems with his brother. She will also text me and when I have responded she wont respond to the text she initiated for hours. I'm so over this! She's like obsessed with messing with me. Its weird. Some of his family actually believes she innocent when I know she's not. She is not telling them the correct story. She's flipping it on me when she's the one who started this whole saga with her awkward actions. I have dealt with weird texts from her and her lies and rumors for years. I'm disgusted and want nothing to do with this woman. I don't even want to be near her. She's really evil and its so sad. I reacted too much in the past and have previously gotten too emotional in the past after she would set me up and I'd fall for it every time. I used to complain to him and say "see what she's doing" see!" and he never did. My friends know she's evil and some others but its gone on so long now she looks like the victim and me the over reactor. Today he had the nerve to give her a ride somewhere because his brother asked him to. Normally I wouldn't mind this at all. But knowing her intentions and how he did this knowing it would make me very uncomfortable is actually possibly a freaking deal breaker for me. I have expressed in millions of ways that this is not ok and he did this while I was at work anyway. He didn't ask me, he didn't inform me, he waits until I've worked a 12 hour shift to tell me "now don't over react because that's what the Devil would want you to do, but I have to confess something before she tells you". BEFORE SHE TELLS YOU! See in my honest feeling he only told me because he knows of how she loves telling me when he's talked to her or done something for her. He only told me to cover his butt. This doesn't feel right. He tells me she needed a ride and he gave it to her. HE GAVE A RIDE TO MY ARCH NEMESIS. To a woman who has tortured me for years playing games. If I had done this with a male he hated he would have had an out of body. I cried so hard when he told me and I couldn't keep my cool I literally lost it. I said why didn't you tell her no? He says "because it would have been awkward". Awkward? Wait so me crying and being in pain was manageable but him making her get a ride from anyone but him to a location less than a mile away (she could have walked). I see, so telling her no was too painful but making my heart ache and making me sick to my stomach was something he could deal with. I took off my wedding ring. I took it off because I feel like this isn't going to work. I can't trust him to even stand up for me when I'm not around. I can't trust him to believe in my observation of this evil girl. I've poured out my heart. I've shown him evidence and he still doesn't take me seriously. I can't depend on him to have my back. I told him and he snapped at me and called me delusional. I knew right then that he believed her and was actually on her side. I cried my eyes out today. I am furious and I will probably leave him. This is too much. I feel he prioritized her feelings over mine and that's not marriage material to me. Him calling me a mf and telling me to shut the f up and get out of his face I lost it. I said "its over, I'm done" and he said "bye" and I finally snapped and said "I feel sorry for your brother. you're in love with his damn wife." I have always felt this way. I felt like the two of them have had some weird thing for years. I've tried to ignore it but this took the cake. I know some of you will take her side too and say I'm over reacting. But until you see a woman flashing her panties in front of a man and begging for his attention. I don't think you'd be too happy. I'm not even the paranoid type. I'm crushed and I'm disgusted by him. Right now I'm in a separate room and not even speaking to him. I think this is probably the most hurt and betrayed I've ever felt. Link to comment
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