Jfunbug Posted December 10, 2017 Share Posted December 10, 2017 Hello all, I have been with my man for about 7 months. We were set up by his cousin, who is my friend. He asked her to set him up with me. He has been in few committed relationships and he has been allegedly cheated on by all of them and confided to his cousin that he needed a good woman. I relunctantly agreed to be set up with him and although he is no Brad Pitt, I liked him. We had a good relationship. We had/have good communication, good sex and he immedialtey introdueced me to friends and family as his girlfriend. The only issue we had was in the beginning where he would go clubbing every weekend with friends. I went with my friends as well, to which he seemed to have an attitude about it. I told him I would rather be with him on weekend but if he is to be clubbing with friends I will do the same. He cut down clubbing to one weekend night and we saw one another the other night. Things seemed to be going good and I went back to the states for the holiday to see family and although he was invited he choose did not go. I came back and felt something was off. I asked him and he said everything was fine. I asked him again a week later and he said he was stressed out by work, school and family issues. We continued seeing one another and communicated through text throughout the day. I noticed recently he began attending his family functions and not inviting me like in the past, but it was only a few and did not think anything of it. We have a big circle of friends and were out last Saturday night. One of my friend’s steady who was there made a comment that I am waisting my time with my man because he is “Not that into you and you two are f**%buddies.” I was appalled!!! I ask my friend and she said she had a “hunch” about it and confided in her steady but never thought he would tell me. She said she didn’t want me to get hurt. I spoke to my man a few days later and told him what was said. I told him that if this is how he feels then I would need to know because that is not what I am looking for. I said “I am not accussing you but is there any way this came from you.” He said no and changed the subject. We did not see each other last week as he was busy with work and school. We had a date for last night and I was working until 4 and he had a family function to go to at 3. He called me while I was at work and said that the family function was pushed up to 4. I just got news my manager was letting me leave at 3. I told him this and he said I can meet him at his house for our date after his family function. I said, “So we aren’t going to go to the family function?” He took a deep breath and let it out and said, “I need a break.” I freaked out and began crying, asking him what I did to him. He said, “You did nothing, you are a rock star, it’s not you it’s me.” He then said he “Has a few issues with me but it might be just him,” and he wanted me to meet him at his house for us to talk. I asked him if he loves me and he said he doesn’t know. I told him I will not be meeting him if we are breaking up as he can tell me what his issue is on the phone and if we are breaking up there is no need to meet. He kept insisting we meet. I said ok and hung up. I got my bearings togheter and called him back to tell him that I am not going to meeting him and being humiliated. I went off on him and said, “What ahole breaks up with his woman when she is at work?” He began stammering and I said, “You have yourself a good life,” and he began yelling, “No, no, no, we’ll talk tomorrow!!! We’ll talk tomorrow!!!!” I said goodbye and hung up. I have blocked him on cell and social media. I don’t know why I am writing this and what I am looking for. Just need to write all of this down I guess. I called his cousin and she is really upset with him and tried to make excuses that he is having problems with work and school and that his family is f**&ed up. She wanted to know what the “few issues” he had with me but I don’t know and she said if he was upset with me he should have told me. Link to comment
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