suspect G/F of cheating

[gunny7677]

I recently came home early in the morning to find my girlfriend laying in her bed clothed with one of her male friends ( she said that she was so close to him because she was tryingto hear the music through her I pod. I went back to work and came home to find the asleep in her room. At that point I accused her of cheating on me and asked for her underwear to test for the prescence of semen. It's been almost 2 months since me and her have been intimate with each other and I know that there is no way on the earth that my semen could be on the panties in question. So I tested and they came up positive for semen, as did the panites that she was wearing the day before. now she tells me that there is no way that she's been with anyone else and that the semen is somehow mine and wants to give my DNA to prove that the stain belongs to me. I don't think that I can wait the time that it is gonna take just to find out what I already know. my question is with the evidence that is presented do you think that she has cheated on me and also should I submit to this testing and waste time on my healing process? andy replies would be greatly appreciated

[avman]

If you two trust each other so little that you have to resort to DNA testing I don't see how your relationship can be saved. I think it's time you two parted ways.

[MetallicAguy]

Oh hell yeah. Like she hasn't washed her panties in 2 months...? Lol, that'd be disgusting. Yeah, she definitely cheated she's a tramp. Like avman said, I think it's time you parted your ways.

[melrich]

Wow, that seems a pretty extreme step to take! I didn't know that such tests for semen were available to the public in such circumstances...or DNA for that matter. It must be very expensive.

 

Anyway to your question, after what has happened you guys might have difficulty re-building the trust in your relationship. I think you have to ask yourself how badly you want to save the relationship and if there is any other way you guys could sort this out without resorting to forensic testing.

[gunny7677]

The test are available to the public but as you may have thought not cheat in the least she is willing to shell out 500$ to prove that the semen is mine which confuses me could this just be another one of her lies. a year ago I found out that she had been doing several drugs behind my back. she constantly was out and doing her own thing. Also she has confided to me that she has cheated on every other man in her life but me. My trust with her has been gone for some time but I stayed in the relationship and tried to rebuild trust in her. Now it seems that there is no trust and no way to get through all the BS that keeps happening. I thank you all for your advice and think that ending this relationship is for the best since it seems that there is no trust on either side.

[MetallicAguy]

This could have been pre-meditated, just thinking outside of the box but maybe she had some panties after you 2 had sex or something and kept them so when she screwed this "friend" she could bring out the old panties and test those. lol.

[DN]

No trust - no relationship. Save the money on the testing and find someone who is trustworthy.

[MetallicAguy]

Ok gunny, so she admits she's cheated on every guy in her life. Supposedly not you (like that's true lol). Ok so basically what do you think the chances are if your not 100% sure that she's cheated on you? I mean she's a loser, she screws just about every friend (probably) she can get her hands on, and she does drugs. Did you know about these things when you were just getting to know her?

[gunny7677]

I didn't know about them until after I uncovered the whole drug abuse thing then the info flowed. uncovering the drug issue was hard enough. I knew what she was up to and only after a postive drug test and hours of drilling her about did she finally admit to me that she was regularly using drugs. Also I know that the panites that she was wearing that night were clean as I was the one who washed them and saw her put them on and take them off so there is no possibility that they were tampered with in any way

[MetallicAguy]

Well depending on what drug she does, I think it'd be hilarious like if she did pot because she would get that underwear analyzed and since she has really bad memory due to the weed she won't know if they will turn out negative or not. Lol, that'd be great just to see the guilty expression on her face lol.

[Poupee]

I cant believe she'd take a guy to your place to sleep with him,thats beyond disrespectful.At least if shes gonna cheat she should do it elsewhere!

If my bf would be laying in bed with a girl and then fall sleep with her even after I've seen them (not that I'd put up with that,cause I wouldnt ) he'd be gone in a flash.

She should at least give you some more respect,dont you think? Its obvious she's not right for you,so I agree with the others in not wasting any more time with her.

[Desired1]

You guys have no trust. Maybe you should just try and sit down and have a discussion NOT AN ARGUMENT. Try to listen and see what she has to say, and likewise you say what you have to say in a NICE and CALM manner.

Good Luck

[chai714]

=D> Applauds to you for getting those tests done. If you have access to those kinds of resources, why not use them?

 

I'm sure you know there is very little chance that it was your semen. She's been cheating, and was caught. A word to the wise: there is a safe distance for her male friends, and there is an unsafe distance. Laying on a bed IN YOUR HOME nonetheless, is an unsafe distance. What is the root of the issue here though?

 

Two months without sex? I see communication as a problem here. Weigh out the factors of whether it's worth saving or not. The highest level of trust can never be re-established with her. What do you want to happen?

[Iceman26]

Get rid of her dude, unless you like all this drama. No need to get CSI on her. The fact that she lays in a bed with another dude period is reason enough to drop her.

[justsweetgirl]

I think it is best at this point to go your separate ways.

[miracle29]

Am i the only one who feels that the semen test was not needed since he caught her in the bed with another man? She should have been tossed out with the trash for even trying you right in your face. It just goes to show love is so blind, and i feel for you, and suggest you find a woman where no semen test is necesary. I also applaud you for getting the test, but simply didnt see the need to go any further once she had another man in her bed. Point period, point blank. Good luck. Lose the trash and find some class. trust me there are plenty of faithful women out there looking for a faithful man. I promise.

[apollocreed71]

Disrespectful. no way should a man be in your house with your woman when you are gone, and in bed. automatic sign she cheated on you. YOu must be nice, because it would

Godfather time. crash and burn, may God have mercy on their souls.

[Cecelius]

Another chiming in from above. Other than absolutely proving that she was doing you wrong, what do you get out of it? In fact, she'd probably think it was weird and tell her friends about it.

 

A good woman does nothing that is shady, and is reasonably on the lookout to avoid situations that APPEAR shady.

 

I wouldn't have needed to find him in the bed at all -- in the house at that hour is shady, and I would have shown both the door.