Loralora Posted March 23, 2017 Share Posted March 23, 2017 Hi everyone! My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5months. He broke up with his ex and a year and a half ago. 7 months after they broke up we started dating. They had a very hard break up due to a few issues. They were together for four years. Some issues that I know of and some that I don't. In the beggining we used to talk about his ex all the time maybe because I was interested...but he just didn't want to go to deep into the reasons they broke up. I mentioned it a month ago and he got mad and told me I don't need to mention her anymore. I kind of have this feeling that he might not yet be over her why else will he get so angry when I mention her. I mention my ex and it's no big deal to me if he mentions my ex. Well he had a car accident about a week ago didn't get injured but his friend did. He had another accident a month before this. It so happens that the accident that happened a week ago was on the day of his exes birthday. So after he had the accident on his exes birthday I confronted him after I made sure he was okay, I asked him if he was over her, and told him were you really depressed is that why you keep having car accidents and especially on her birthday. While confronting him I told him that he had left his fb app open on my phone one day and I read a conversation with his ex and learned that his ex (before being with him) had dated his best friend. I wouldn't have mentioned her again since I know he hates it but I just had to! I care about him and wanted to kind of help him to not be sad by telling him that it's best he broke up with her because even though they dated for 4 years it would have never worked out because of her dating his best friend in the past. I think that is the reason they had many problems. He told me I am invading his privacy and taking it too far and that I don't care about his feelings and I only care about my self and eventhough he told me a thousand times not to mention her I keep on mentioning her and making him re-live the past aces. I told him I'm not making you relive the past you're making yourself re-live them by not unfollowing her on instagram. He continues to follow her on instagram. We usually go out in a coffee shop. EVERYTIME I mention her he putts his head down doesn't look at me and stops the conversation and tells me are you done, are you ready to go. He doesn't want to continue staying with me anymore or talking. I told him I won't mention her anymore he told me you will because you said you wouldn't mention her last time either and you did again. He went on to say that if I mention his ex again we won't be together anymore. To me this isn't a normal reaction. Eventhough he did later say he over-reacted a little. I'm trying to find out if he is over her and if I should stay with him or not? On my opinion this isn't a normal reaction and he isn't over her. Thanks for your help... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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