dank1123996 Posted February 26, 2017 Share Posted February 26, 2017 Man where do I begin? First of all let me tell you I never thought I would be in this situation and I just don't know what's the right answer. I'm not asking anyone to tell me their opinion of the right answer but maybe you can share some wisdom that will help me make a decision. To start. I'm recently happily married with a 4 month old baby and have an excellent job, you could say things are going well for me. That being said, I have always felt a void since my ex and I split 5 years ago. She was and I may still believe is the love of my life. Her and I have know each other for years and went to grade school together. I've never been in a more passionate relationship than with her but it did end, due to my choosing, which I blame on being 24, emotionally immature and at the time I was taking a lot of testosterone, which definitely didn't help things as I used to do some body building. Anyhow, after we broke up I essentially ruined my life chasing after her trying to get her back. I also left The best job I've ever had at the time and blew every dime of My savings on drinking my pain away along with doing drugs. I eventually hit rock bottom and had to get my life together moving in with my parents. My ex was in a new relationship and I was a mess. To sum this all up better it took me a few years to get my together but I did it. I met someone along the way to become my wife after 3 years of dating and now a child. Recently after our marriage and our son I reached out to my ex stupidly in some kind of hopes to put things in the past and move on because I feel like I couldn't without closure that I feel I never got. That somehow evolved into her confessing her undying love for me, the real problem is I felt the same way she did and told her so. She explained to me on the phone that she has been in the same relationship with the same guy since me and doesn't feel nearly as much passion as she did with me and the she still get a butterflies talking to me, as I do her. She's has also told me that I still have her heart and she thinks about me all of the time as I do her. I just don't know what to do because I cannot tell my wife about any of this and I feel that I am emotionally cheating, which makes me feel aweful. At the same time the feeling I get for communications with my ex makes me feel as if I'm on cloud 9. My real problem is I love them both so much but I feel the love I have for my ex is much greater than the love I feel for my wife. My biggest concern is my son and I don't want to ruin his happy family but that is at the cost of settling for less than what I believe is my soulmate. Any advice would be greatly appreciated Additionally, please be delicate as this is nothing to poke fun at, this is real life and there are many hearts involved in this decision making. I'm aware the grass is always greener but I legitimately think about my ex several times a day and probably irresponsibly got involved with my wife before I was ready to. What's done is done and I need to make the right decision moving forward, pleas help lol. Link to comment
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