MrBrightside15 Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 My girlfriend moved across the country to DC last summer. In a nutshell, we broke up two weeks ago (her decision) because of the long distance. Still have lots of feelings for each other, but the situation is just too difficult for right now. I'm currently still heartbroken, but doing fine. On Day 13 of No contact, but hope to get back together one day. My question is if I should send her a text asking if she's okay (because of the huge blizzard on the east coast) or not. The point would be to let her know I'm thinking about her in this crazy weather, showing her I still care about her. Does this qualify as a time when breaking no contact and reaching out is a good thing, or should I just let it go? I'm getting differing opinions from some of my friends, so I'm asking you guys. Link to comment
shessofly Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 Personally I would not break nc for that reason, especially after being dumped. Link to comment
mhowe Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 No it doesn't qualify as anything but a flimsy excuse. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 Agreed, it's an excuse to contact her. No contact means just that. Distract yourself with something when you start thinking about her. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 What would you do? Doesn't make sense. Stay NC. Most of us are indoors, and I'm sure she is, too. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 No - I agree that's too flimsy. I suppose if you lived close by you could check whether she needed anything and then have someone bring something over - showing that it was just for her benefit. But you do not so.. no. Link to comment
greta96 Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 That would be the poorest excuse to break no contact in the history of poor excuses! It can't get more transparent than that. She wanted to end the relationship, respect her wish. You no longer have to check on her, she is no longer your responsibility, nor does she want to be. Keep your NC and focus on healing, not on finding ways to re-establish contact. Link to comment
sara-pezzini Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 No don't! My ex used some similar excuse last year to contact me after 3 months of silence after i left him and really all it did was annoy me! Didn't appreciate that he apparently cared and clearly saw it for the excuse that it was and i really wish he hadn't. So bad idea! She'll be fine Link to comment
MrBrightside15 Posted January 23, 2016 Author Share Posted January 23, 2016 Haha okay everyone, it's clearly unanimous - will not contact! Thanks for the verification. Link to comment
Snny Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 As long as she is well prepared she will be fine. Do not contact. Source: I am in the blizzard. Link to comment
Blue_Skirt Posted January 23, 2016 Share Posted January 23, 2016 Nice try MrBrightside15, but it’s better to not break the no contact. Link to comment
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