neverknowwhy Posted February 23, 2015 Author Share Posted February 23, 2015 Come on. You were curious. You wanted to know. You made the decision. Stick to it. What's the worst thing that can happen? Stop putting yourself down for it. x Yeah, I'd rather know than not. Can't go back now. I just have a feeling I'm setting myself up for disappointment. I don't want it to set me back. I was doing well the last few days. Time will tell. I'll let you guys know. Link to comment
jimthzz Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 If you are not Number One in her life, what's the point of sticking by her? if you behave like you will take any shred of affection from her, then she will continue to act like this. Stop responding to her middle of the night texts. Focus on what makes you happy. I don't think a girl who ditches you for another man will make you happy just because she returns her gaze on you. Look for a new girlfriend who respects you. Link to comment
neverknowwhy Posted February 23, 2015 Author Share Posted February 23, 2015 If you are not Number One in her life, what's the point of sticking by her? if you behave like you will take any shred of affection from her, then she will continue to act like this. Stop responding to her middle of the night texts. Focus on what makes you happy. I don't think a girl who ditches you for another man will make you happy just because she returns her gaze on you. Look for a new girlfriend who respects you. I agree with everything you said. But I'm going to see what she has to say. Link to comment
lostandhurt Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 She is pregnant with his baby but wants to come back to you so you can help her raise him/her. Just kidding. The best possible situation would have been for you to be fully healed from the breakup and on steady ground so anything she says couldn't set you back but these things never seem to go the best they can do they? let us know what happens Who knows maybes she just wants her phone charger back... Lost Link to comment
chamachama Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Pregnancy would be the only viable reason to be in contact with her. She is completely disrespecting you with ANY other reason. And that includes "Oh I am so sorry I decided to get throttled by another dude instead of you. But he ditched me, and now I want to go back to you until I find another dude to bone me again.". The only reason to converse with her at all is if she is preggers with YOUR kid. Other than that, either ignore her reply or reply "Do not contact me again. Thank you.". And if she is pregnant, ask for a paternity test result. And only talk to her if its your kid. Other than that NO CONTACT! In fact, I would have replied with this "Are you pregnant with my kid?" If she replied "No". Then I would tell her "Do not contact me again. Thank you." Link to comment
DepthOfField Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Who knows maybes she just wants her phone charger back... If so, that's just a malisicous attempt at wanting to contact you and somehow hoover you back or lure you into her world of craziness. Trust me, my ex did via unreturned tupperware. Link to comment
mhowe Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 If so, that's just a malisicous attempt at wanting to contact you and somehow hoover you back or lure you into her world of craziness. Trust me, my ex did via unreturned tupperware. Was the Tupperware a family heirloom? Link to comment
chamachama Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Was the Tupperware a family heirloom? lmao! Maybe it was that expensive Glad kind. Link to comment
DepthOfField Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Was the Tupperware a family heirloom? It wasn't just any ordinary tupperware, it was "Glass" Rubbermaid tupperware. It was such a ploy to stay in contact with me. Link to comment
chamachama Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 It wasn't just any ordinary tupperware, it "Glass" 700ml rubbermaid tupperware. Ok then Rubbermaid is an entirely different level of Tupperware. You're lucky she didn't take you to court for that stuff man. joking of course. Link to comment
chamachama Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Ok I am calling it right now. It is either "Hi, I want to ask your advice on something with my new guy." OR it is "Hi, I can't take you not being in my life and I need you to be my friend pal best buddy bff now Or "Hi, I am preggers..." Of the three, only one (preggers) should get you to contact her again. The other two I would be super pissed off at, and I would make sure she never contacts me again (block on everything). Link to comment
neverknowwhy Posted February 23, 2015 Author Share Posted February 23, 2015 Ok I am calling it right now. It is either "Hi, I want to ask your advice on something with my new guy." OR it is "Hi, I can't take you not being in my life and I need you to be my friend pal best buddy bff now Or "Hi, I am preggers..." Of the three, only one (preggers) should get you to contact her again. The other two I would be super pissed off at, and I would make sure she never contacts me again (block on everything). She still hasn't read my text yet. She might be at work, I don't know her schedule anymore. If she sent "I need to talk to you" just to see if I would respond... that'll piss me off. Link to comment
chamachama Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Maybe redeem yourself and text her "Unless you are pregnant with my child, then you don't need to speak to me. If you are not pregnant with my kid, then do not contact me again. Thank you." If she does't contact you then you know its something stupid and not worth your time. Get it out of your head that she wants you back, She doesn't. And if she says she does, its only because Captain Bonestrom left her for dead and she wants to use you until she finds another dude... So take that completely off the table. Once you do you are left with only one possibility that would get you to speak to her again... Link to comment
boltnrun Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 She texted you at 2 am because 1) she was drunk or 2) she was too chicken "stuff" to text you when she knew you were awake because she's afraid of how you'll react. I'm voting for the new guy dumped her and she doesn't want to be alone, so she's trying to come back to her old stand by. If I had a dollar for every one of my exes that did this...I could retire. If it was a drunk text, don't expect her to respond now that she's sober. Link to comment
Zuri Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Fixed: "Unless you are pregnant with my child or recently tested positive for an STD that you could have unknowingly had while we were together, then you don't need to speak to me. Otherwise, do not contact me again. Thank you." Link to comment
neverknowwhy Posted February 23, 2015 Author Share Posted February 23, 2015 She still hasn't read my text. She's on her phone the majority of the day and she didn't read it. K. I'll update if something happens. Link to comment
Lady Amalthea Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Sounds like she was fishing for your attention... ignore any future contacts, this was certainly rude. Link to comment
neverknowwhy Posted February 23, 2015 Author Share Posted February 23, 2015 Sounds like she was fishing for your attention... ignore any future contacts, this was certainly rude. I'm not going to jump to conclusions yet, maybe she's at work still. I honestly have no idea what she's up to anymore. I bet if I checked her instagram though there'd be something new. Not going to check though. I have a feeling though that this was said purely to get a response from me. Maybe her messaging me was a way to make me not forget her. No idea right now. Link to comment
chamachama Posted February 23, 2015 Share Posted February 23, 2015 Dude at this point, when this turns out to be a bunch of sh**.... Block her from your phone and all social media. Remember this feeling. And when it turns out to be for absolutely nothing, absorb the feeling you have. And remember how it feels when she screws with you like this. And stop her ability to hurt you further by blocking her and moving on for real... Link to comment
neverknowwhy Posted February 23, 2015 Author Share Posted February 23, 2015 Dude at this point, when this turns out to be a bunch of sh**.... Block her from your phone and all social media. Remember this feeling. And when it turns out to be for absolutely nothing, absorb the feeling you have. And remember how it feels when she screws with you like this. And stop her ability to hurt you further by blocking her and moving on for real... It's going to be a very interesting night. She may reply, she most likely won't. If she doesn't, I'll block her. Because that means she was just playing a f*cking game with me. If that's the case, I'm going to be mad for responding. Now I'm left staring at my phone like I was at the beginning. Link to comment
dmjord Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 Don't give her too much time to respond. You'll just be left hanging. Decide a cutoff time and block her. Link to comment
Zuri Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 if it was THAT important she would have replied already. I will bet her text was seeing if you would reply. She knows she has you in some way because you did reply. Block her NOW then you will stop checking your phone. Link to comment
jennylove Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 Block her! Hardest thing, yet, the best thing to do!! You will feel so empowered. Don't wait, do it now. If she had something "important" to tell you, u would have heard back by now. Link to comment
sadchick83 Posted February 24, 2015 Share Posted February 24, 2015 If someone NEEDED to talk to you, they would have at least looked at the text. I've fallen for this too at one sad point in my life. Analyzing a butt dial for hours on end. I would go with Shal's response. It's not too late to save face. Link to comment
neverknowwhy Posted February 24, 2015 Author Share Posted February 24, 2015 I'm not sure what she was trying to get out of this. To get a response to see if she still "had" me? That's a sh*tty thing to do. I actually thought she was going to say something. Anything. I don't know if this is her way of getting the power now that I made the last contact. Maybe because I ignored her previous ones, she sent something she knew would make me respond, and now that I have, she feels we're even or that she has the upper hand. I'm overanalyzing this. I'm going to give her the night to respond. When I wake up and there's no text, that's it. Link to comment
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