Chloe9117 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Share Posted March 7, 2013 He is a nightclub owner so I guess for girls there is a lot of novelty, he also travels a lot... That is the thing I am more up set that he doesn't care that I'm hurt than about the actions and the fact he is lying about ever saying these things when I have photos of his conversation on my phone! And when I saw these things I did approach him angry i gave him a hug and started crying, I guess I just wish he would try help with how insecure this has made me. I'm really heart broken. Link to comment
Chloe9117 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Share Posted March 7, 2013 * I didn't approach him angry Link to comment
camus154 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 OP, I think you're living in a fantasy land--no offense. What you wish this guy would do and what he's actually done are two very, very different things. I can understand being upset over this to a large degree, but at some point you might want to consider reevaluating your expectations here. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 He is a nightclub owner so I guess for girls there is a lot of novelty, he also travels a lot... That is the thing I am more up set that he doesn't care that I'm hurt than about the actions and the fact he is lying about ever saying these things when I have photos of his conversation on my phone! And when I saw these things I did approach him angry i gave him a hug and started crying, I guess I just wish he would try help with how insecure this has made me. I'm really heart broken. Honey he doesn't care how he's made you feel. He's an El Slimo. He is a dirty pig ,really. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 I am sincerely amazed that the fact that this guy supports SLAVERY isn't enough to get you to leave. Seriously, if that isn't on your list of signs to run what is???? Link to comment
EssexMan Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Honey he doesn't care how he's made you feel. He's an El Slimo. Really sorry, OP, but I agree with Victoria. This is not "boys will be boys", which happens, it is "slimeballs will be slimeballs". Link to comment
onelittleladybug Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 I hate that expression. It shows contempt for men and I dont like that. I hold the men in my life to higher standards, my father, brother, friends and romantic relationships. "Boys will be boys" is degrading to men, at least in this context. These sex workers are usually really poor, desperate and trying to support a family at home. Using their "services" is a clear abuse of power. For that reason alone is enough for me to conclude that your boyfriend is a real a**hole. Then add the infidelity and the health risk he is exposing you to. I wouldnt even explain, I would just leave immediately and never speak to him again. Link to comment
Chloe9117 Posted March 7, 2013 Author Share Posted March 7, 2013 Thank you for all your support I really needed some advice. The boys will be boys thing was his excuse not mine. Link to comment
onelittleladybug Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Thank you for all your support I really needed some advice. The boys will be boys thing was his excuse not mine. Yeah of course, I just meant in general not aimed at you personally. Don't make this guy tell you you're making too much of this. You really aren't. Link to comment
FathomFear Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Outside of what everyone else has said (which are all valid points) I would also say that these emails make it obvious that he has a serious lack of respect for women. Link to comment
AnotherBrokenDoll Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 What he said before you got together is one thing. I mean you weren't together, its been 2 years, and if he has been faithful to you then i guess he has proven himself to you. All the comments about hot girls - i know it sucks to hear, every time my boyfriend mentions that another girl is attractive i cringe. But realistically, i know i still find other guys attractive - that doesn't mean i'm attracted to them. The lap dance - well that ones up to you. A lot of girls are okay with it, others aren't. I wouldn't be thats for sure - but i have a friend who has been with her boyfriend for 5 years and she doesn't care what he does. Its up to you what is acceptable and what you can handle in a relationship. Link to comment
AnotherBrokenDoll Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Wheres the human trafficking thing coming from? If thats true, than run. That shouldn't be acceptable to anyone. Link to comment
Moontiger Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Wheres the human trafficking thing coming from? If thats true, than run. That shouldn't be acceptable to anyone. Thailand is notorious of illegal sex workers. Many are underage, kidnapped, beaten, etc. If someone is going to Thailand and engaging with sex workers there, then there is a very high chance they are supporting human trafficking. Link to comment
ParisPaulette Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Thailand is notorious of illegal sex workers. Many are underage, kidnapped, beaten, etc. If someone is going to Thailand and engaging with sex workers there, then there is a very high chance they are supporting human trafficking. This is exactly why I said what I said about Thailand. I have friend who work in the human rights and human trafficking arena and Thailand is notorious for this. As shown in this document: link removed It's appalling. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 I would never be with someone that's slept with 1000 women, that reeks of sex addiction or serious issues. He supports the sex trade, sees prosititues...how many of those 1000 women were bought? Please go and see a doctor. Even if he was using condoms it doesn't prevent all STD's... Gosh what a slimeball Link to comment
Seraphim Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 This is exactly why I said what I said about Thailand. I have friend who work in the human rights and human trafficking arena and Thailand is notorious for this. As shown in this document: link removed It's appalling. Yup and a lot of North American guys go there just to have sex with underage girls. Because in Thailand they won't be charged. They call them "holiday trips."' Really all they are going there for is to support human trafficking and human suffering and rape of underage children. Link to comment
EssexMan Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Yup and a lot of North American guys go there just to have sex with underage girls. Because in Thailand they won't be charged. They call them "holiday trips."' Really all they are going there for is to support human trafficking and human suffering and rape of underage children. I believe the Thai authorities have been trying to crack down in the last few years. But you're right, it is still a major destination for sex tourism. To the point that when a slightly odd (but for all I know utterly blameless) single guy around here recently mentioned his vacation in Thailand, that was everyone's automatic assumption - that he was going for the girls (or boys), not the beaches and temples. Link to comment
metrogirl Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 I'm willing to bet he's not using condoms because really, if he doesn't care that he's having sex with children, I'm sure he doesn't care about the health risks either. You really need to get a full workup at the doctor. Tell them to check you for every possible std known to mankind and pray like you have never prayed before that you aren't carrying HIV. Link to comment
dangletsbang Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 I didn't even sleep with the guy and this thread makes ME want to go to the doctor. OP, you deserve so much more. Please leave this guy and never go back. Link to comment
rosasnyder811 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 You decided to be controlling and paw through his personal e-mail and saw something you didn't want to see. Maybe you shouldn't do that again. AND, as everyone has said, since you know---get tested and discuss it. Link to comment
onelittleladybug Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 You decided to be controlling and paw through his personal e-mail and saw something you didn't want to see. Maybe you shouldn't do that again. Huh? Is this for real? Ive never snooped in my life but Im thinking this post is not exactly a convincing example for an anti-snooping campaign. Link to comment
SapphireNoir10 Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Yeah the only thing I'd be caring about is my health at this point. He'd be out the door SO fast. Link to comment
PaintWithLight Posted March 7, 2013 Share Posted March 7, 2013 Yeah the only thing I'd be caring about is my health at this point. He'd be out the door SO fast. I doubt if she could kick him out the door. He obviously has the power in this relationship. He is unrepentant and scornful of her concerns. 1,000 women is into rock star territory. How old is this guy? Even if he is 50 and this is his number over 30 years of sexual activity, that is still 30+ women per year. How is this not a deal breaker for the OP? The best indicator of future actions are a person's long held beliefs and this guy is trying to prove something to himself or the world. You can bet a large portion of these conquests were paid for and that brings even more dodgy ethics into the picture. Just what is the attraction with him OP? You must know in your gut that this guy cannot be trusted. Link to comment
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