Liz9406 Posted January 25, 2012 Author Share Posted January 25, 2012 but thats just it. he says that im keeping him from having an orgasm if i dont. can we say guilt trip from hell! Lemme rephrase this comment. He says that the orgasm he gets from having swallowed is bigger than any other way, and that by not swallowing im deny him some great pleasure. Now, obviously being a woman, i dont know how true that is. I dont think he would lie to me about something like that, but if its true then the guilt factor just went way up! Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Liz, he walked out on you and your child. There is no guilt required. Why care about his sexual extras when he doesn't even care about your basic comfort? Link to comment
BrianH46 Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 It distorts reality in that it makes it seem common almost necessary for woman to swallow and he probably thinks that if a pornstar is willing to do that with some stranger surely someone who loves you should as well. His expectations become unrealistic and twisted due to how often swallowing occurs in porn when in reality swallowing is a preference that only some girls like. The fact that the OP refuses to swallow is probably fueling his obsession as well making it an an act that has become taboo. Link to comment
LeftBehind Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Liz, he walked out on you and your child. There is no guilt required. Why care about his sexual extras when he doesn't even care about your basic comfort? Totally agreed! Link to comment
Liz9406 Posted January 25, 2012 Author Share Posted January 25, 2012 Liz, he walked out on you and your child. There is no guilt required. Why care about his sexual extras when he doesn't even care about your basic comfort? Oh he still lives here. we split almost 2 weeks ago but financial issues are keeping us under the same roof. He says he's gonna go stay with his sister as soon as he gets a car with his tax refund. and i cant wait!!!!!! Link to comment
Liz9406 Posted January 25, 2012 Author Share Posted January 25, 2012 just sucks that he flushed almost 8 years down the toilet over not swallowing and all i get from him is a "kudos" that we've lasted this long. Link to comment
LeftBehind Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 just sucks that he flushed almost 8 years down the toilet over not swallowing and all i get from him is a "kudos" that we've lasted this long. Total waste of your time. You deserve so much better than that. Link to comment
Liz9406 Posted January 25, 2012 Author Share Posted January 25, 2012 LOL!! my mom has been telling me that same thing for almost 8 years! Guess i should have listened? Link to comment
replytome Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I'm a guy, and I think a girl swallowing is disgusting. You're perfectly normal for not wanting to swallow semen. Haha! Same here, I used to feel sick when my ex would do it. In the way you feel sick watching someone eat very old yogurt or something. Link to comment
In the Dark Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 A mans semen can indeed taste down right nasty. It would be a miracle if a mans semen did taste like something worth being swallowed. In most cases, at the most, it's tolerable but not something most people would say "I hankering for some semen". Swallowing semen would most likely be the equivalent to say caviar or anchovies as in, it's usually an acquired taste regardless of how it tastes. Link to comment
Liz9406 Posted January 25, 2012 Author Share Posted January 25, 2012 ok, help me out here with this one guys and gals. what i dont get is that the time that i had almost successfully swallowed or atleast got him to where where he had his OMG orgasm, i would think that the sight of me gagging and trying not to throw up directly afterwards would kinda kill that over-the-moon feeling? Link to comment
OptomisticGirl Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 If he has porn of women swallowing it may be his 'thing'. Doesn't make it wrong to BE his thing but it does make him wrong to try to guilt you into it. It's something he clearly wants (or needs) and your better off finding someone else if you don't share that 'thing' Link to comment
In the Dark Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 ok, help me out here with this one guys and gals. what i dont get is that the time that i had almost successfully swallowed or atleast got him to where where he had his OMG orgasm, i would think that the sight of me gagging and trying not to throw up directly afterwards would kinda kill that over-the-moon feeling? If he has some sort of kink in seeing a female gag on his semen then it would be a turn on. None the less not all women like being in that situation where they are rendered obligated to do everything that their partner wants in some sort of master/slave role. If it kills HIS buzz then he is inconsiderate of your enjoyment when it comes to oral. In any relationship I believe there has to be an agreement between both people on whatever the act is regardless of how much either person likes it. Link to comment
gal1989 Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Can you not just let him come in your mouth, then spit it out? It'll still look like your swallowing it at the time. That's what I did.... Nd I think he's an idiot of a man if he leaves his woman for that!! Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 He sounds like a selfish, immature jerk!!!!! Find someone who will be more considerate and respectful of you. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Can you not just let him come in your mouth, then spit it out? It'll still look like your swallowing it at the time. That's what I did.... Nd I think he's an idiot of a man if he leaves his woman for that!! Sorry, but I think this is not solely about swallowing. Plus the guy is a complete ass, and she is well rid of him. You should never be forced into doing something that you're uncomfortable with! Link to comment
Alpine Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 No, you are not a freak. I don't swallow, it makes me gag/puke. The guy sounds like an ass... Link to comment
metrogirl Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I wonder if he realizes the porn industry chicks are getting paid to swallow whether they want to or not. A real man that loves his woman would never force her to do anything that makes her uncomfortable. Would it go over well with him if you forced him to do something that he didn't like? Link to comment
LeftBehind Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I wonder if he realizes the porn industry chicks are getting paid to swallow whether they want to or not. A real man that loves his woman would never force her to do anything that makes her uncomfortable. Would it go over well with him if you forced him to do something that he didn't like? That's the problem with porn, in my opinion. Often times the women are pretending to enjoy what they're doing. That's what makes it unrealistic. The women who don't enjoy those things aren't represented and men can wrongfully extrapolate that to mean that the majority of women like it. This could lead them to feel that their s.o. is abnormal for not enjoying it. Link to comment
Fantanos Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 Okay, I am on both sides here. First, I think telling you that this is the only way to show your undying love for him is ridiculous and he is using that against you. Second, since you have tried on a few occasions shows that you are willing to try things for him and you may even continue to try until it is successful, possibly? So this is very important that you have tried. I am see his side because I am freak about the swallowing too.... it is one the biggest turn-on's for me, the thought of a girl doing that makes me feel like I am floating on air, its like a high, I can't even explain it. Many replies are correctly, we get a lot of this from watching porn which as saturated our brains that this is what we want. Now that it is saturated it is almost too late? Anyways, when a girl is giving head and doesn't swallow or doing anything fun after it is a huge let down and disappointing... at least to me, it kind of ruins the feel. But there is some options... I do have a suggestion and this may gross you out but this again is a huge turn on for me... ask him if something else might turn him on instead, maybe cumming on your face instead of in the mouth? This again drives me crazy and makes me want to do anything to do it, its my addiction. My last girlfriend had the same issue with swallowing and in over 3 years never tried it for me, she would however let me cum on her face most of the time and I was happy with that. Another suggestion (which I have not tried) is have him cum in a drink or something and you drink it? I have heard of this before for girls that don't want to swallow but want to do it for their man. I am not a filthy sex pervert but I have desires I like and when I am in a serious relationship they are extremely important to me and to him as well it seems. I give you props for trying many times and I think the way he is asking is wrong. Link to comment
superfan Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 This isn't about swallowing. This is about power. You have drawn up a boundary and he doesn't like the fact that you have stuck to it. I am guessing there were other aspects of the relationship that you guys had power struggles/issues with. I have never had a problem with swallowing for my husband and he was absolutely thrilled with it the first time I did it. He told me that it was one of those taboos that in Britain most women wouldn't do and that he would never think of asking for it. But if he had asked me to do something I wasn't comfortable with, and I said no, he would respect that and leave it alone. Could it be that maybe he sees this as a rejection in some ways of him? I don't like making blanket generalizations like 'it's all the porn industry's fault' because I think that's a bit ridiculous. Bottom line though - if you aren't comfortable with it, you shouldn't have to do it. Claiming it shows 'you really love him' is ridiculous. You could turn around and say 'if you really loved me you wouldn't force me to do something I don't want to do.' You are better off without him. Link to comment
Liz9406 Posted January 25, 2012 Author Share Posted January 25, 2012 I have let him cum on my face many times. That doesnt bother me at all. I've asked him a million times if theres anything else i could do and he always says no. Link to comment
Liz9406 Posted January 25, 2012 Author Share Posted January 25, 2012 he has said that me refusing to take it is basically a slap in the face to. That im rejecting the most basic part of him therefore im rejecting all of him and i understood that. thats why i tried so many times to swallow. Link to comment
In the Dark Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 he has said that me refusing to take it is basically a slap in the face to. That im rejecting the most basic part of him therefore im rejecting all of him and i understood that. thats why i tried so many times to swallow. Well that's one way to make you feel bad for not doing what he wants you to do. You should not buy into this sort of reasoning as the truth is not everyone enjoys doing what he wants you to do. I suppose this could be considered as abusive. Link to comment
Fantanos Posted January 25, 2012 Share Posted January 25, 2012 I have let him cum on my face many times. That doesnt bother me at all. I've asked him a million times if theres anything else i could do and he always says no. Well I didn't know that, I would be extremely pleased with that lol. I think he is acting childish about it, the fact that you are willing to do anything else and let him do in on your face would make me pretty happy. Also you have tried many times and have proven you can't handle it, its like you are just saying "NO" and not trying. What if you let him cum on your face and used your finger to put a little in your mouth and swallow it? I am not trying to pervert here, just advice from another cum freak :shame: Link to comment
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