Fudgie Posted October 3, 2011 Share Posted October 3, 2011 I just got word that my ex (B) is in the hospital. His heart is not pumping properly and he's on a bunch of blood thinners. Let's hope that he doesn't have a clot. I'm worried and saddened. I'm too far away to visit but I'm definitely going to call him and see how he is. I told my boyfriend this and about how I felt and he seems "iffy". Like he doesn't like it. He told me that he doesn't like, but I should "do what I have to do", but I definitely know that he's not happy about it. He says "But he's out of your life now and he probably has support...why are you worrying? It's out of your hands." But he's not flipping out or telling me NOT to call. He just tells me that he feels uncomfortable that I would be talking with an ex but he isn't going to force me to not talk. For the record, my ex is 30+ years older than I am. I *really* don't think he's a threat to my current relationship. We were together for a long time and I would not mind having some contact with him, just to make sure he's all right and everything. He is largely alone and nearing his 60s and his health is poor. I think my situation is very different from others'. It's not like he's doing anything to undermine my current relationship. I need some insight in how I should proceed here. Goal: I would like to have some occasional contact (phone, email) now and perhaps in the future with my ex. How can I get my boyfriend to ease up on this? What do I say? What do I do? I AM going to call B so I can make sure he's okay but I'd like to lessen the discomfort to my boyfriend and show him that he has nothing to worry about. Background: my boyfriend and I were best friends for over 5 years prior to dating. He and I are peas in a pod. it's a new relationship but I'm very committed to him and want to make this work. I'm the first girl he's really "fallen in love" with and he lost his virginity to me, if that makes a difference. Do you think given all those factors, he is more prone to being worried about this? I so far haven't had an issue with him on anything else. He's been great. Link to comment
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