Batya33 Posted February 28, 2010 Share Posted February 28, 2010 It is selfish to let the guy do all the work and initiate every contact and make him chase you all the time. Thats what girls who play hard to get do... aswell as girls in general. Yes that is selfish but has nothing to do with what I wrote in my post other than I used the word "selfish" in an entirely different context, to make an entirely different point. I never wrote and don't believe that the guy should do all the work or do any chasing. It sounds like you picked out the one word "selfish" so you could use it to further your own agenda rather than respond to what I actually wrote in my post. I'm sorry you feel that way about "girls in general" - I can tell you, and others can tell you - and have told you - that you're wrong that it's a "general" practice but my guess is that it makes it easier for you to believe that this is true because then you have an excuse not to put in the effort to meet and get to know people and potentially date people. And that does take effort - I put in many years of effort - longer than you've been alive. And it was all worth it (and I rarely felt negative, jaded or cynical from doing the work - mostly it was a positive experience). My suggestion is to work on shifting away from your negative mindset and show yourself that you can get out of your negative comfort zone, reach out to people, socialize, mingle, get out there -- and with a more positive attitude I promise there will be many rewards. I should add that my experiences have to do with women not "girls" - I am not sure what teenagers and younger girls do when it comes to dating, if they date. Link to comment
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