Post here instead of contacting your ex!

[RitaTrue]

Dear Ex,

 

I finally changed my number. You may have called. Or maybe not. Regardless, I think this will do us both some good. You seem to be moving on, finally. I think its good for the both of us.

[soybeans]

I didn't cry as much today as I did yesterday and Tuesday. I really think that I am doing better. I still miss the comfort of you but I know this is for the best. I don't think you have even thought of me once. I wish you would just come to get your things soon so I could completely get rid of you.

[Notagoodninja]

So, you got the divorce papers today. I know you posted a dating ad online.

Honestly I was not suprised...it didn't surprise me you'd move on so fast cuz I had already diagnosed you this past month as a sociopath and my counselor has to without my telling her I thought you were one

You're a wife beater. An abuser. You're a liar and a master manipulator. I treated you like GOLD.

I kinda laughed because I don't care if you meet a SMOKIN hot babe. NOBODY will compare to me.......nobody will serve you the way that I did.

NObody will treat you good and bring you gifts and cook you dinner

Nobody will rub your feet and back all the time and kiss your face and love on you and cudz with you nobody will give you as many pet names as I gave you and put up with your weird quirks...........

One funny thing you're gonna realize is...youre too inexperienced to know how good you had it but I am the BEST in bed you EVER will get, that I know. I may not be the most hot but I AM the best in bed and NOBODY will compare. ...

A few meaningless one night stands will leave you empty and unsatifised feeling like a fool...........then you will kick yourself when you realize how good you had it with me and how badly you screwed things up.

You THOUGHT you wanted teenagers, trust me you dont/ I was HORRIBLE in bed when I Was younger and didn't know much. I had to grow .

You are too old to be with teenagers dude. Even if that's what you think you want, we are not teens anymore we are too smart now and wise in our years..........

You will regret destroying our love. I almost feel sorry for you cuz you're prolly thinking "ima get back at HER" and I will show HER............

but really you are the one that is going to be sad and lonely

Nobody will love you forever.......

Eventually the girls will realize who you are...an abuser and user....and a MESS. they will leave you like me and the others left you.........

 

In the meantime I am BLOSSOMING without you. I am learning to feel better about myself. I am trying to work on my self esteem. All of the sudden I feel younger and my boobs seem bigger LOL

I am working out faithfully on a daily basis. I want to look better in my 30's than I did in my 20's

There are plenty of hot women a little older than me...Jessica Alba, Biel, Kardashian, JLo, Natalie Portman to name a few...

Women from dancing with the stars...they are in their 40's some of them, with SMOKIN hot bods......

SO I know I CAN and WILL get there................

 

Next time you run into me I sure hope I am dolled up, free spirited at the mall or something and I hope I have rock hard abs and shapely legs and a tight ass cause I'm working my rear end off to regain what I lost.............

 

I try not to let my mind wander too far these days. It's not that I don't want to know. I wish I knew everything. But it's better for me to just focus on why I left, why I am not with you. WHat YOU did to destroy me and our MARRIAGE.

In talking with some normal guys, I realize how unhealthy you are. I did not do much to sabotage the relationship, YOU did.

 

I guess it's motivation, you thought I was NOTHING you had 0 respect for me, but I will show you how awesome I am .

[RubyWoo]

I miss you even more after running into you yesterday. The fact that you ran all accross the street to come say hello is messing with my emotions. If you want to see me, if you run after me if you see me walk past, why can't you admit it to yourself that maybe you made a mistake? Why can't you apologise and work on us? I miss you so much.

[northpickle]

We both like Bob Dylan, in fact when we were just friends before we got together we used to often talk about him and his music and I even loaned you a book about him.

 

Anyway, when I'm going about my usual business day-to-day I always seem to have this song running through my head. I dedicate it to you and the end of our relationship. See you around

 

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Someone’s got it in for me, they’re planting stories in the press

Whoever it is I wish they’d cut it out but when they will I can only guess

They say I shot a man named Gray and took his wife to Italy

She inherited a million bucks and when she died it came to me

I can’t help it if I’m lucky

 

People see me all the time and they just can’t remember how to act

Their minds are filled with big ideas, images and distorted facts

Even you, yesterday you had to ask me where it was at

I couldn’t believe after all these years, you didn’t know me better than that

Sweet lady

 

Idiot wind, blowing every time you move your mouth

Blowing down the backroads headin’ south

Idiot wind, blowing every time you move your teeth

You’re an idiot, babe

It’s a wonder that you still know how to breathe

 

I ran into the fortune-teller, who said beware of lightning that might strike

I haven’t known peace and quiet for so long I can’t remember what it’s like

There’s a lone soldier on the cross, smoke pourin’ out of a boxcar door

You didn’t know it, you didn’t think it could be done, in the final end he won the wars

After losin’ every battle

 

I woke up on the roadside, daydreamin’ ’bout the way things sometimes are

Visions of your chestnut mare shoot through my head and are makin’ me see stars

You hurt the ones that I love best and cover up the truth with lies

One day you’ll be in the ditch, flies buzzin’ around your eyes

Blood on your saddle

 

Idiot wind, blowing through the flowers on your tomb

Blowing through the curtains in your room

Idiot wind, blowing every time you move your teeth

You’re an idiot, babe

It’s a wonder that you still know how to breathe

 

It was gravity which pulled us down and destiny which broke us apart

You tamed the lion in my cage but it just wasn’t enough to change my heart

Now everything’s a little upside down, as a matter of fact the wheels have stopped

What’s good is bad, what’s bad is good, you’ll find out when you reach the top

You’re on the bottom

 

I noticed at the ceremony, your corrupt ways had finally made you blind

I can’t remember your face anymore, your mouth has changed, your eyes

don’t look into mine

The priest wore black on the seventh day and sat stone-faced while the

building burned

I waited for you on the running boards, near the cypress trees, while the

springtime turned

Slowly into Autumn

 

Idiot wind, blowing like a circle around my skull

From the Grand Coulee Dam to the Capitol

Idiot wind, blowing every time you move your teeth

You’re an idiot, babe

It’s a wonder that you still know how to breathe

 

I can’t feel you anymore, I can’t even touch the books you’ve read

Every time I crawl past your door, I been wishin’ I was somebody else instead

Down the highway, down the tracks, down the road to ecstasy

I followed you beneath the stars, hounded by your memory

And all your ragin’ glory

 

I been double-crossed now for the very last time and now I’m finally free

I kissed goodbye the howling beast on the borderline which separated you from me

You’ll never know the hurt I suffered nor the pain I rise above

And I’ll never know the same about you, your holiness or your kind of love

And it makes me feel so sorry

 

Idiot wind, blowing through the buttons of our coats

Blowing through the letters that we wrote

Idiot wind, blowing through the dust upon our shelves

We’re idiots, babe

It’s a wonder we can even feed ourselves

 

Copyright © 1974 by Ram's Horn Music; renewed 2002 by Ram’s Horn Music

 

Thought this song might help other people going through the same thing too x

[marshmallito]

I am sick of waiting to hear from you.... I want to ask you why you haven't acknowledged me. But what is the point. Most likely you won't tell me the truth, or your reasons won't make sense. Did I hurt your feelings? Am I not behaving in the way a good romantic heroine should? Are you confused? Do you just not give a * * * * ?

Whatever. I can stay NC forever.

Just biding my time till I feel justified unfriending you, your family and shallow friends. I have been nice to all of you all these years but none your loyalties lie with me.

[Notagoodninja]

You just like to play games with my heart.

[Springs]

I am so sad. I miss you very much. It's so dark and cold outside and I am all alone in here with my pain...I never ever thought such happiness could lead to so much heartbreak. We were good. We were best friends. We loved each other so much. We still do. It doesn't make sense.

 

I want to reach out to you so much but I am so scared of getting no reply or something nasty back to me. I did nothing but love you with all my heart. I just couldn't go on how we were doing. I felt like I was screaming at you and you couldn't or didn't want to hear. I didn't want to lose you. I didn't want this. You know I didn't want this. Did you? You haven't fought for me, for us. Why not? I gave up everything for you. Can't you see that? Please contact me...please.

 

I feel so lost again and I was doing so well. It hurts

[northpickle]

It's 6pm Friday - this is the only weekly milestone that really remains for me now. It's when you'd normally pick me up after work and we'd go to your place and spend the weekend together. This is really sad to admit, but I was always so excited I'd watch out the window for your car coming down the road, like a daft kid! Haha! I used to tingle sitting next to you in your car. Never have I felt that way about someone.

 

But you don't want to try again. Fine fine fine. If you only want me to be a friend, after all those brilliant times, then I'm out of your life mister. Hope you're thinking about all the good times because they have haunted me for 2 months and they are entering my head less, you deserve a reminder of what possibly could have been.

 

But it doesn't matter now. Have a good weekend. I've been thinking today of setting myself targets for the upcoming weeks. By Christmas I will be glowing and the New Year will be the best year of my life.

 

Miss your bones, take care sweetheart.

[DailyDreamer]

I have done a lot of growing and healing since my last post, I believe. I came to this forum for one person, who I now can consider as a friend. I have moved on and I'm happy I haven't slid back into the serious desire of wanting this person as my lover. I have been dating other people and taking serious positive steps in the right direction. I can't say that everything is all happy and joyous though. The last person I dated was everything I could ask for. Super smart, older, experienced, flirtatious and in the beginning...wonderful communication. We really hit it off and liked each other. Now...it's nothing more than a short fling in the past because you don't want a relationship and were moving too fast with me. I'm bummed you're so scared and feel so stubborn to date around with many people before even considering slowing down and trying relationships again. Yes, we're at two different places in life, but you spoiled me with all the attention, dates and seriously awesome kisses. However, I can't sit around and hope that you'll change your mind. If you do in the near future...cool and if not...well, I'm meeting other people and seeing if I share communication like that with any other locals. All I want is to be happy. Isn't that what we all seek and desire?

 

I want to start my 2012 resolution early...which is to work on myself and do things for me so I can grow and be a better more independent person. I'd like to take someone along for that ride, but I need to realize I come first for now. Having a partner to love will be an extreme bonus.

[Melting]

Nothing really to say to you, I just want time to go by......

 

I want to stop feeling you in my heart, so I can move on to another one day and have the happiness I deserve.

[Aleina2011]

Had a productive day at work today and then a fun evening with colleagues - I am doing well, better than I expected. Then on the way back home I started thinking why things have to be like this. It's not that I need you, I don't need you to stand on my own two feet and live my life. But I love you, and therefore I miss you. And it would be great if you came back. But I can't tell you this because if I did you would say no, that you've had enough, that you've tried, that you don't want to. So I keep my NC and we go on our separate lives. It's sad, but I must be strong. I acknowledge my grief and I accept it. I must learn for the future. With much love. Have a good night.

[Notagoodninja]

I am mad at you today...saw the new song you posted. You are as bi polar, wishy washy and moody and hormonal as a girl. It is sad to me that you hate me and disklike me SO MUCH that you don't even try to contact me, you don't know what all went on, yet you still don't contact me. Sitting there by yourself absolutely KNOWING 100%%%% YOU ABUSED ME YOU PUT ME IN THE HOSPITAL you destroyed our stuff you only got nice cuz you didn't want the cops called on you then you were cold and distant all over again. I had new memories today of the past. When we sat in the burger king parking lot last year eating together, that was fun. We used to have a lot of fun, didn't we? What happened? It was YOU who fell out of love...not the other way around. Sometimes Unless I see a picture, I forget what you look like and its only been a few weeks. Everything has been a blur. I was up all night last night again and sleeping this morning. I'm going through soooooo much!!!!!!!!

It makes me sad just how absolutely SELFISH you are,. You owe me money yet you're gonna go blow it on going out with women tonight. You're not honorable at all you don't respect the fact that you took my hard earned money for my child and myself and you are not even good or honorable enough to call or text or have someone else call/text and give me back that money. But oh no you even changed the house lock so I can't get in to get the rest of my things. You're a very rude, bad, evil no good person.

You ignored me at the mexican restaurant and acted embaressed of me a couple months back

Then the tires..you ignored me and were cold and heartless

I would send u picts u NEVER would comment on them you ignored me

You are a total porn addict who can';t get it up for his own wife, I hope you fail miserably in bed with anyone you try to scew. I hope your peepee falls off. I hope a skank you sleep with gives you an std. I hope your next gf gets knocked up because I know how much you hated kids

In the meantime I hope u run into me while I look cute and Im out with the girls or friends having a GREAT time

I hope we meet at a dance club someday and I can get my freak on with some hot guy in front of you

[soybeans]

I was doing so well today.

 

Wasn't thinking of you as much, I was distracted and suddenly felt this sharp pain in my chest, an incredible urge to just call you and hear your voice to get that comfort I am missing right now. In that moment I am oblivious to the reality. I miss just picking up my phone and going to your name, it was like second nature any time I wanted to talk. Yeah, I'm lonely tonight. I'm wondering where you are and if you miss me too.

[Notagoodninja]

Emotions are so odd my sweetness, my love, my one true love forever.

Earlier today hated you.

Now in the last hour swept with emotion. I love you sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo MUCH I miss you sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much babesters, So sad I lost my sweet boi

[Jane00]

Stupid loser get out of my head!

 

I don't mean to sound arrogant, cause I'm not, but I was already out of your league when we were together and now I am even more. I wish you could see for yourself.

[Melting]

I really wish I could hate you

[soybeans]

I miss you baby.

[northpickle]

Weekends are still so so hard, I wish I could erase them from my life at the moment. I always think of you more on a weekend because that is when we would have fun together and do brilliant things. And now we have separate lives and neither of us knows what the other is doing. I find that really strange.

 

Today is going to be a rough one, it's bonfire night and Eid tomorrow, so the fireworks will be going off with gusto in a few hours. And I'll be sat here alone. I don't want you to pity me because yeah, I could make plans but I'm just so empty today, I think I'll be better off staying in.

 

I want to be over you now, I don't want this to last much longer. We were committed but we spent a lot of time apart, I don't understand why I still feel this bad some days. I guess I miss the good times, the exciting adventures we had and I fell far too deeply for you than I should have. Your presence made me glow, I didn't know I could feel like that.

 

This time last year we were so carefree, I booked us a hotel in a very random place and we had the craziest time ever! I still have the photos of that trip online. I daren't look at them.

 

I thought it would be like that forever, I really did. Things weren't perfect but with a little work we could have maybe sorted it out? I don't know. I'm not going to say that to you though. I don't want you to know how much I have been suffering and that a part of me still has hope. It's a very tiny piece of hope I admit!

 

Anyway, I'm rambling on! The memories, photos, emails, cards. Everything. They all lie to me now. I'm sorry for anything I did wrong in the relationship but at least I can say I tried, I treat you with love and respect and would have gone to the moon and back for you. I hope you're having a better day than me.

[Kiezluke]

I know you want the support of your family, xxxxxx, but I miss my children, I miss you, It's been so long and I don't understand why I feel like this.

 

I fear myself and my ability to make it so that I can see my children more, I fear that I'll never truly fall in love again.

[Springs]

Oh I miss you darling I saw the photo of you on facebook...the new one. You look gorgeous. It kills me to think that someday, probably soon, some other girl will be getting butterflies when you walk into her life. It really kills me. You are a wonderful person. You were a great boyfriend, but you just want it your way. If you don't change that, no relationship will work for you...I don't want you to be unhappy so I just wish you would see...you NEED to compromise. If only you met me half way, then none of this crap would have happened.

 

You texts last night made me feel all warm inside, but today I just feel cold and lonely. I hope someday you come back to me and realise if we just tweak a few things, there is no reason why we can't be happy. I hope you have a good evening darling...Love you millions xxxxxx

[Aleina2011]

God please give me strength - I want to contact you so badly, I just miss you. But you would just say that you don't know what to say without hurting me...

I'll say it here, that I love you, and miss you. :sorrow:

[thelastsong]

Please get out of my head. I was doing so well until I dreamed of you last night. We were the ones who got married, not you and her.

 

I went to dinner with your friend last night. I wish he would stop talking about you. Why doesn't anyone seem to realize how much you hurt me? What did you tell everyone when they asked what happened? Did you claim I broke up with you? Did you say I cheated? Did you say it was mutual?

 

I am so sick of this.

[O-shen]

Yeah so your gone now, your actions speak volumes. You said that we are soulmates and destined to be together, that when you get back, hopefully we will get back together and grow old with each other. I DO love you, and feel a very special bond with you, but i think this is the last straw.

I wont wait around for you. I wont pretend your actions didnt hurt me. I must remember not to ignore your actions. You say we are destined to be together...yet you take of around the country with another man. I mean, you guys are buying a car together. He's flying over from another country. And you expect me to believe " its not like that"?

Its exactly like that. I hope you have fun, and if your lucky, you may even develop that same bond with him, or even someone else................................because this last stunt just cost you any chance of me believing we were meant to be together. So when you get back in 2 months.....leave me alone and dont contact me. I love you, but i am tired of all of this. You just gave up on someone who would have done anything for you, and loved you eternally.

 

I wish you luck in finding whatever it is you are looking for.

[Aleina2011]

I want to call you so badly today