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[sunshine34]

Bye felisha

[sunshine34]

I miss the sound of your voice, loudest thing in my head .. And I ache to remember , perfect words that you said...

I wanna ask you tell me something because I know u will understand that it wa our thing and I wanna know what you are thinking and feeling. Do I ever cross your mind ? Are you over me? How is it so easy for you to move on and not speak to me? I guess not speaking to me was never a problem for you, that's part of why I had to break up with you because u couldn't give me attention. Bc u couldn't show me you cared.. And maybe u didn't anymore. Maybe that's why this is so easy for you? Feel like my other half has left but youve moved on and you're happy while I'm stuck in a world that doesn't exist.. I wonder what would've happened if I stayed. But the truth is part of me knows, you didn't see a problem with your behavior and it would've stayed the same . My heart would've continually been neglected and in pain. So even though healing feels impossibke, it's better than being with someone who treats you like you're invisible

[hopelessincan]

Hey. you're a stupid a$$. no wait, that's me.... maybe if I had more self control, next week you would have been the one texting me first. Why did you have to tell me how much you were missing me, and how much you were thinking of me? For crying out loud, where was that honesty before?

 

You sounded so freaking happy to hear from me. As if you never thought I would talk to you again. You know full well you've got all the power. I know you were happy to hear from me. I still don't buy that friend baloney but whatever. All the other cutesy crap and honesty showed me your true feelings. But your feelings don't matter, since you ignore them. So good for you. Enjoy your single life. Like someone told me, youre going to regret it. Based on your text, I think so too. But don't think I'll be waiting around.

 

I am totally overreacting, I took twice as long to respond to you, but....yep its killing me I didn't get a response. I wish you had never answered in the first place. Cause those emotions you had, they were too much. You know I love you so quit the crap already.

[treesandbees]

It's getting increasing difficult for me

[Idagirl]

I hate the dreams. Today is the first time I woke up and cried. I was on facebook and accidentally seen your profile pic in a thread. You changed the picture to one I took of you. Obviously your "anti-facebook " rule is no longer valid. I blocked you right away. You'll notice I blocked you... since you knew I changed my relationship status to in a relationship since 2000. I don't want any guy to think I'm single and try contacting me. I'm tired of men. I'm feeling old today, I can't keep up with the lifestyle of 20 something people. Depression and hopelessness has sunk in bad. You text me 2 days ago wanting to make sure we could still be friends. Of course I was nice and said yes... we weren't friends when we were together...so that really won't work will it? The flippen dreams of you need to stop! Feels like a punishment that I don't deserve...

[Snow93]

**** you. You're not a good person, despite what you made me and are presently making others think.

[hopelessincan]

I don't know what you want me to say. I don't really have to think about it. You didn't really give me much to go on. So I'm not sure what kind of answer you are looking for...

Is this some kind of test? Why do I suspect as much? If so, well, maybe I should throw in the towel now

[sunshine34]

I'm Borden down, tears, to the core and my reality is rain, just pain from the absence of you. Death .

No emotion and knowing , understanding you donr love me, that I won't hear from you and all I have is a stuffed bear to lee me company... I hate you

[BoredUp]

No, you're right. Let's not be friends. First of all, if I moved on and you knew about it, I know it would destroy you. Secondly, I really don't need the drama. I don't miss it at all. I thought about calling you when I was having a crisis moment. And then I remembered... if you came over... it would go something like this: sit outside, stare at each other, awkwardly, smoke alot of cigarettes, waste alot of time, go absolutely nowhere, solve absolutely nothing, gain absolutely nothing useful or happy or positive or anything at all, just basically exist together. Which isn't horrible really, the smoking and the whining was. So yeah. I'm good. It's been about 5 weeks. Feels like a long time ago, which is great that I'm finally at that point. I'm not even sure what I miss anymore really. It's healthier this way and there's absolutely no chance we'll be friends. I absolutely get it now. It doesn't make it hurt any less though. You PROMISED me. It would've been at least sort of cool if you TRIED to keep that promise... i don't know, to show integrity or something. But you're right. I don't need to try with you just to watch us fail. I know how the story goes and ends and all that jazz. Have fun and good luck.

[origami]

3 years since you asked me out of the blue for a 'time out'. What did I saw in you S?

[FineCupOTea]

Hi. You're not exactly my ex but I just decided I won't be running after you. I had this beautiful dream about you last night, what means you're seriously getting in my system. You don't seem to feel the same though. I want someone who minds me as much as I do about her, that doesn't seem to be your case.

 

Loved to dream about you. It was really beautiful. Shame that just can't happen.

 

Bye.

[Thanksguys]

Stop it! I hate you! I hate that you weren't who I thought you were! It is my fault for being so naive! I hate myself! Aaaargh!!!

[Tabitha13]

Dear Baby:

Its been two months since I broke things off with you. I'm sorry if I had to do it over FB messenger but that's where we communicate the best. It was more of a mutual break up because you agreed right away. I tried to make things up with you but you said it would be best to move on. Yes, you were rude to me calling me names and sometimes swearing at me. You smoke a lot of pot which did not matter to me; you like to do things your way. You make fun of my accent sometimes; you said one of my sisters is ugly; you are kinda saddistic; you yelled at me in front of your brother; i pay for our grocery (you cook anyway), you appeared in court few years back because one of your exes accused you of raping her; you did not one to let people at our old workplace that we are together; no facebook postings about us; you consistently add new girls over facebook; you said you won't last with me. And yet, I stayed with you for one year. I even found a job for your brother in my workplace because I cared for you so much. Then, you did not forgive me for breaking up with you and just after two months, you are already in a relationship. You unfriended me on FB.

I love you baby. You know that. I am not completely moved on. I wish you the best in everything. Its tough seeing your twin brother at work; he may look exactly like you but he's not you.

 

I will work my way up. May heavens be with me.

[LovelyDani87]

You are an emotionless, cold and pathetic person. You have the worse communication skills and I'm not sure why I continued to want you for so long.

[treesandbees]

*holds side* belly laughs are your ridiculousness. Yeah... when you said I went for what I knew and there you are doing it yourself. You sir are one big hypocrite!!!!!!!!!!!! suck on that.

[Lord Thoth]

After all these years, I'm over it. I wasted my youth on you, you poisoned our daughter against me, nothing was ever good enough, all the sacrifices I made was for nothing. I wish you the very worst in life. I hope you end up bitter and alone. No amount of money can replace what you have taken from me. If I ever see you again, I will look into your cold ice blue eyes and tell you to go p*ss up a rope.

[itsallgrand]

I was thinking about you today.

I feel at peace with everything nowadays and I feel like I have completely healed from the long complicated journey that was getting over you.

I'm afraid you got caught up in a lot of my own personal wreckage, and you often saw the worst of it.

And you didn't get to see me 'blossom'. Something you spoke of quite a bit after we parted ways. How you were tired, and worried, thought I would never get "better". You lost faith in me, essentially.

That combined with you simply having your own pot of issues to deal with, and the overlap there, I can see now why you left me. Even how you left me how you did. You were very angry with me, even if you wouldn't admit it.

 

The very last time we spoke was shortly after you got married, and I still remember what you said. I was so surprised by it. Bringing up 'us', because I thought that was all done now. At least it truly was for me already.

And saying to me, though I never asked nor was looking for anything like this from you, actually was horrified by it, "I can't even look at you and me and sorting it out right now. I can't be alone. You know that. I need this because otherwise I thin I will break down completely."

 

Holding off the inevitable. So let go...break down completely. Deal with it. deal with the old too. I was surprised by how far back you have pushed things, how much you have in emotional back log. To even think that this is something, now, to sort out. As though 'us' is an option and still exists. Cause it isn't and it doesn't.

 

I've done it without you, and you will have t odo it without me when the time comes. The time will come eventually.

 

But I won't reach out to you, I won't say anything, and I won't try and tell you either how I think you should do things, I won't even be there to listen.

 

and not because I didnt care, and not because I don't care now.

 

I just learned you have to let people be exactly what they are...there is nothing that can be done...there is no point in fighting...there is no point in trying to convince of a certain way...there is no point in holding on to all that.

 

So I've let it go. For my own good. and because I understand the mechanics of grieving now.

 

And I feel like I have emerged out of all this a better and stronger person. A more open one. A more accepting one. A more loving one. A more grateful one. I even feel smarter - not that I grew extra intellect, but my emotions are more in line with my mind these days. I feel more whole.

 

There were times I truly did not think I could ever get to this place. Just accepting and glad to be exactly where I am; glad for everything that got me here.

 

But I am here. And so, I can finally just think of you in passing and send out that good energy hoping things work out for you, and that you will be well, and feel this freedom inside that I can give that...and it doesn't take anything away from me, it doesn't change anything else about how thingsa re.

 

I am very well. Who knows what all is on the horizon yet but it's all good.

[Michaelando11]

It's been 5 days since the last time you told me you loved me. Everything was great, in 2 weeks would be our year and 8 month mark. Why was this out of the blue? Why did you do this while i'm deployed? I'm still madly in love with you and when I get back I would love to rekindle and have another moment of intimacy. I think that would bring us back to life. Yesterday marked 6 months without seeing you since my deployment. But i'm back next month. I hate to sound desperate but I really do love you and I know you still love me. You wouldn't of gone this far if you hadn't. I believe in second chances. Relationships has it's ups and downs and if we can get through this then there's no doubt we deserve each other. We have 6 weeks to not talk at all. Hopefully with this time you can think and look forward to me coming home. I miss you baby.

[Michaelando11]

Bye felisha

 

Exactly how I feel

[hopelessincan]

How is it that its six weeks to the day...........and I feel like I am completely losing it? How on earth do I feel worse than ever??? I cried most of the day at work today. what the hell. All these changes (yet again)in my life, and all I care about is losing you. That's messed up.

 

And yes, I could live that life. Love is enough for me. I don't have these messed up thoughts that your spouse has to be exactly the same. Being different is what makes things interesting.

 

And don't you dare ask about my life. You left knowing all that was happening. You don't get to know. How. Dare. You. And I don't need to hear about your perfect life. As if you threw that in there. Everything is all perfect for you. Screw you. I've been there since the beginning for you. That was supposed to be for us. How dare you give me the updates. Are you that thick? You broke my heart. I hate you. No I don't. But I hate myself. You did so many awful things, don't get me wrong you did some wonderful things too. But those awful things..any girl with a backbone would have left. I didn't. And you chose to leave me when I was at my worst. You. Suck. And you don't deserve my love.

[Applesauce123]

I'm constantly wondering whether you are thinking of me as much as I think of you. It's been over a year and i can't get you out of my head. Even though i have tried to move on I CANT. i'm now trying to accept the fact that you will always have a part of my heart even though we may not be together. do you know how hard that is when i catch you starting at me from accross the room? Do you know how difficult it is to act like everything is fine when you act the same way you did when you liked me? I don't know if i want to be friends, strangle you or kiss you! It is so frustrating. and what bothers me most is that you are seeing the that flirted with you while we were still dating. We worked so hard to make the long distance thing work and you threw it away. I hope you are suffering as much as i am

[sunshine34]

I think I'm getting better?? I don't know.. It still feels like I'll never be over you, the urges to contact you are subsiding. But the love and attachment aren't going anywhere. I can't feel anything for anyone but you.. I can't imagine being close to someone how I was with you. I am confused about how you feel and most days it doesn't matter because I'm starting to realize this is permanent. You are never going to PPP up on my phone or contact me again, I'll never see u again Nd everything we had is history. It's only the occasional day like today when I miss snuggling, I miss my best friend, I miss caring about someone and wanting to see them. But I refuse to think about you in detail or wonder where u are because I'll never know and it doesn't need to matter. You are in my past for good and my future is blank.

[OldSoul86]

B,

 

Well, yesterday was my convocation and it was a bittersweet moment. I am embarking on a new chapter in my life, alone. I always thought that you'd come to my graduation and spend the weekend with me. This wonderful thing happened to me yesterday and because of the state of mind I'm in right now, I don't think I truly appreciate what it means to be finished my degree - I just feel numb. This degree meant that I could get my own place, you could move up to be with me permanently, and we could live a happy life together - but obviously this won't happen because I had to end things with you.

 

I am also resentful that you sent me that email a couple of days ago, why did you go and have to say things that cut me to my core? You knew I was immensely struggling with the fact that we had to part ways because of our diverging life paths (I want a family - you don't, I want a life outside of my computer screen - you don't, I want to be happy - you choose not to be, I want to share my family with my significant other - you chose to make a terrible impression on my family by being cold and distant when really if you loved me you should have been trying your damn hardest to make that good impression that you clearly desired from your last email.)

 

You know what B? Despite all of the differences between us, and a relationship that started and ended long distance - I still love you and care about you more that you'll ever know. Although my tears have finally dried up, I still feel this pang of dread and honestly feel that you will try to weasel your way back into my life at some point in the future. You made me into someone I never want to be again - a hermit. I felt like I was shackled to my computer because of a sense of obligation to you. I am damn lucky that my friends and family are extremely understanding and supportive and have welcomed me back to reality with loving and open arms. I am not responsible for your happiness, you need to make yourself happy - and the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over, expecting the same results. You need to go out into the world, and not hide behind a computer screen.

 

The worst part is, I have met someone that I am genuinely interested in pursuing a relationship with at some point (I had to tell her last night that I need to take things slowly because she is going full throttle.) I am not mended yet, your last contact has cut me incredibly deep - I should have listened to my gut and changed my email address completely. I blocked you every single place except my email, what a massive error that was. I want to move on and be happy - because I haven't been happy in a long time. Your constant complaining about your job and coworkers, your lack of enthusiasm for life, and your woe is me attitude really got me down in the ditch. You know what? Life is a gift, if you want to waste it gaming in front of a computer screen, without any close proximity companionship - be my guest. I don't want to do it anymore, and I can't do it anymore - I was going insane.

 

I needed to check out of this relationship for my own well-being (both mentally and physically) and I am sorry that I hurt you in the process. Don't forget - I HURT TOO - I had to be the one who was strong enough and had enough foresight to see that this relationship was a dead end because I was unfulfilled and deserved better. I DO deserve better, and when the time is right I am going to go get what I deserve.

 

M

[ajhurst210]

It's Saturday and I'm getting ready to go to the movies with my friend and then figure out what the hell to do for the rest of the night. We're talking about going to the casino or to bars... He wants me to try and pick up on girls so I'll start getting over you.

 

This is dumb. I shouldn't be here. I shouldn't be back on dating sites or out at bars looking for a new girl. I HATE dating. I hate everything about it. I hate being single. I wasn't supposed to ever be doing this again. I'm almost 30 and everyone I know is either engaged, married, or has kids. And I have nothing.

 

You were supposed to be my picket fence.

 

I loved you so much. I still love you. I can't really even imagine myself with anyone else let alone wanting someone else. How long am I going to remain in love with you? Long long after you've moved on with another man? Which I'm sure you've done already. You're probably with him right now. He's probably telling you you're beautiful and you'll kiss him for it. And you won't even think of me ever again.

 

And I'll still be here, with nothing... Trying to move on. Trying to occupy my time until I no longer love you anymore.

 

It's so stupid. This was never supposed to happen. Ever. I really believed you that you wanted to marry me, that you wanted children with me, a life with me. I had accepted that as my future. And you swept that out from under me and now I'm lost.

 

I hate you so much for that.

[kcrane1104]

It's only been three days but I miss you so much. And im so angry at you. How could you choose the drugs over me? After everything we have been through and everything I have forgiven you for. You couldn't even give me a few days to get over everything I believe in. And then whilst telling me how much you love me and hate the fact we are splitting up, you say you're not moving out the flat and that I have to leave? What a joke! How could you love me if you're doing that to me? I hate you so much and love you all the same time. Even after all the nasty words, telling me no one is ever going to love me, I would probably still forgive you. But you don't want me, or a family. You want to go out raving and taking class a drugs with your friends because it's more important. You're 31 and you say I'm the one who needs to be more emotionally mature? That I'm being childish because I think drugs are wrong? But if I ever question your opinions I can leave? Why are you right and I'm wrong. Why can't we both agree to disagree. Why couldn't you have chosen me and got help for the drug problem? What terrible thing did I do wrong to deserve this?