THE NO CONTACT CHALLENGE, Part 2

[Jan2728]

My boyfriend broke up with me going on two weeks 90snow and it has been a complete struggle. I haven’t been able to go no contact for more than 2 days. This is my third attempt and second day. I made the mistake of checking his Instagram page and noticed he deleted our pics which really upset me (i know it’s just social media). Deleting the pics just made it seem so final especially because i was still holding on to hope of us getting back together one day. I’m telling myself to remain strong and stick to no contact but a huge part of me wants to reach out and find out why he deleted the pics if there weren’t any negative feelings towards me and he isn’t looking to start something new with someone else. I know no contact is the best thing for me right now but it’s truly an everyday struggle.

 

Don't do it. If you want to reconcile, you can't get emotional or ask questions like that. No contact helps hide that you are emotional which would only push them away. Wait , you'll calm down in a few weeks. Post here instead.

[Graham13]

Don't do it. If you want to reconcile, you can't get emotional or ask questions like that. No contact helps hide that you are emotional which would only push them away. Wait , you'll calm down in a few weeks. Post here instead.

 

Too late. Smh. I spoke to him this morning and i brought it up. I’ve done everything wrong throughout this breakup and completely regret it. I’ve made up my mind i have to give him and myself space and i have to do that by sticking to no contact. Part of me is still holding on to hope but another part feels I’ve screwed up my chances for the future. I know he’ll never ignore me and i know he cares about me, i just don’t believe he cares enough to want to reconcile. I feel hopeless. So tomorrow begins Day 1 of no contact... again 😔

[Piaresssss]

Day 13. If she didnt message about that bill id be a day shy of thirty grrr.

 

I have been thinking when should i switch from superdaves advice on do nothing to be active. Will be longer that 30 days. Maybe closer to 4 months thats when we go on holiday.

 

Had a very good day yesterday. Today however im really missing her.

 

Oh well keep pushing through

[sputnik123]

Keep pushing with full NC Piaresssss.

 

Some days are definitely better than others.

 

Proud of you!

[Piaresssss]

Keep pushing with full NC Piaresssss.

 

Some days are definitely better than others.

 

Proud of you!

 

Thanks Sputnik. Im holding full nc. I will have to break it the end of march. We are going on holiday together.

 

Im proud of you 21 days too!

[Piaresssss]

Heard something from a friend today who just broke up with his gf a week ago. He dumped her.

 

When they broke he said he didnt know if he would get back together with her. Well she proceeded to go mental at him. Calling him every name under the sun. This caused him to finally say he did not love her anymore.

 

I asked why and he said her being abusive just pushed her further away from him and ruined any chance.

 

This just reinforces nc contact for me. Also an interesting anecdote

[SethSLC]

Heard something from a friend today who just broke up with his gf a week ago. He dumped her.

 

When they broke he said he didnt know if he would get back together with her. Well she proceeded to go mental at him. Calling him every name under the sun. This caused him to finally say he did not love her anymore.

 

I asked why and he said her being abusive just pushed her further away from him and ruined any chance.

 

This just reinforces nc contact for me. Also an interesting anecdote

 

Something that really helps is to have someone who you can talk out loud with. Someone who is willing to listen and just let you vent. I found that if you simply say all the jumbled garbage in your head out loud to another human it helps tremendously. You don't need or want feedback, just to verbalize the garbage spinning wildly in your brain. It really helps.

[Piaresssss]

Day 14. 2 weeks almost halfway till i have finished the challenge.

 

I saw my gym buddy today, with his girlfriend who is my ex's best friend. I got a nervous feeling in my stomach. I have not seen her since the break so that might be why.

 

Im getting better, still need a bit more time.

[Jan2728]

Day 14. 2 weeks almost halfway till i have finished the challenge.

 

I saw my gym buddy today, with his girlfriend who is my ex's best friend. I got a nervous feeling in my stomach. I have not seen her since the break so that might be why.

 

Im getting better, still need a bit more time.

 

Just checking in , hang in there. I had maybe a day and a half that was good , very rough week. What helped was getting my hair done, going out with a friend and agreeing to a date with his friend. My ex is dating and has even had sex so why not? I had a couple dates before but waste because I'm still too focused on my ex at the time. But am hanging in there over 2 weeks now. Good luck all.

[Piaresssss]

I hope next week is a lot better fot you.

 

What helped was getting my hair done, going out with a friend and agreeing to a date with his friend.

 

I actually went out tonight and had a fun time. Speaking of a hair cut, i havent cut my hair in going on 8 years, haha maybe im due.

[Piaresssss]

Day 15. HALF WAY!!!!!

 

Feeling good today. Half way through the challenge but dont feel like im gonna slow down anytime soon and its snowing😁

[sputnik123]

Well done Piaresssss..

Don't stop when you reach 30 though buddy, keep going!

[Piaresssss]

I dont plan on it Sputnik dont you worry😁

Only way im talking to her again is if she mesages me in like 6 months. Or to get my passport forgot she still had it

[Jan2728]

I hope next week is a lot better fot you.

 

 

 

I actually went out tonight and had a fun time. Speaking of a hair cut, i havent cut my hair in going on 8 years, haha maybe im due.

Don't cut your hair too much , you'll miss it. Yeah the weekend is better so far . . .hope you're doing good. Hang in there

[sputnik123]

Nice one Piaresssss..

 

Sort yourself another passport. It's not worth breaking NC for

[Piaresssss]

Day 16. Dont kniw how i feel today. Just confused id say.

[Piaresssss]

She messages me today. Said "hey i found your timberlands in my cupboard".

 

Im proud to say i didnt respond to these breadcrumbs. If she wants to talk about something meaningful i might talk.

[sputnik123]

Proud of you buddy. Keep strong!

[Piaresssss]

Proud of you buddy. Keep strong!

 

Thanks, I intend to😁

[sputnik123]

You're the man!

[Jan2728]

Day 16. Dont kniw how i feel today. Just confused id say.

I'm about the same I'd say. Feel pretty good which is new for me to feel good this many days in a row, but reminders of my ex everywhere. . . Confused is ok, mixed is better than straight up sad. Hang in there.

[Jan2728]

You're the man!

Yep he's the man for sure.

[Piaresssss]

Day 17. I had a dream about her kast night. Maybe because she messaged me she was in ny head.

 

Anyway, the person in the dream looked like her but wasn't her it was very strange.

[Piaresssss]

Just finishing pt i had a strange sense of worry that me not answering her will have destroyed everything.

 

Thats silly thinking because she blanked me and i still spoke to her. Also how can i get worse. She dumped me. I can only move up.

[sputnik123]

You are spot on Piaresssss!

 

I am struggling today, to be honest, but there really is no other way...