THE NO CONTACT CHALLENGE, Part 2

[J-L-T]

Back to day 1.

 

I'll probably respond to his contact (if any). But no initiating this time.

 

 

Sucks already.

[copingjealousy]

Day 2 of the Challenge

 

Lucky i blocked him from facebook cos last night i was feeling the itch and wanted to find out what hes up to. Lucky the block saved me cos I couldnt check lol. I think it would hurt me more if I got access to him. He would probably purposely hurt me. I always check my phone though and although I dont want to hear from him I actually get disappointed when I dont hear from him.

 

I woke up today feeling empty and sorta wanna cry but Im not. I will not break this NC. Its time for my healing and time for him to change. I truly hope that i mean so much to him that he will change. Ive changed so I know he can too. Short term discomfort for long term gain

 

28 days to go...

[Yostina]

May I ask what is your next step after the 28 days?

[Yostina]

Day 14

 

Here comes another day, and I'm tired.

[Wobbler]

Day 8

Woke up feeling a little rough but i quickly got over it again. I'm pretty sure she is NC me as i've been thinking about the past; i kind of broke things off with her before anything really got started and she tried cutting me out of her life then. I'm pretty sure that if we saw each other face-to-face that things would be fine but there's no chance that can happen...

[Starrgrl]

Day 48

 

He tainted my soul.

[oceanblue535]

Still hate you. Yep, you're not even a human being to me. Nothing goes as low as what you've done to me. Can't wait for you to try to find someone as good as me who would want to be with you. hahaha

[MrSpeed]

Day 13.

 

Rough night last night, woke up a few times thinking about her. How can she not miss me? That is how it feels, maybe she does.

[shelbubbly]

day 12

 

well i say day 12 but i nearly broke yesterday, i did sneak a look at summut of his but thats still no contact aint it!? finding it very hard at the mo not sleeping good agian, so want to email him but i know it will do me no good and he wil just hurt me again

[Morning]

He is kidding me...Day 0

[Chandra]

It's her birthday... today sucks. Had taken the tomorrow off previously so we could celebrate.

 

Now I plan no card or gift for her... and she won't be hearing from me, even though I care so much for her.

 

Can't wait until tomorrow.

[NataNata]

I was doing so good, yesterday was Day 6. I was beginning to see the light. Then he called and I answered like an idiot. I felt like I should because my mum was in a car accident and I knew he was calling to see if she was ok. My deluded self convinced me it was a necessary communication. It was brief, it seemed innocuous but now I'm reeling. I can't believe how much I miss him and I want to see him so bad. I was doing so good before! I missed him but there was never a real risk that I would call him or anything. Now I'm a wreck, I want to call him so bad. Soooo Day 1.

[deecbee]

Day 7

 

Still thinking about him way too much. Finally managed to get some things done for me- my budget, answered some old emails, worked on a side project I have going with a friend. Every day really drags by when you focus too much on one thing. I wish I knew how to let it go so the days could fly by like they did the first time around This second round of NC feels much bumpier, and a lot slower, too.

[Yostina]

Day 15

 

I can't believe it's been 2 weeks now. A week ahead to see him in college and I just can't seem to figure out what's going to be next.

Even though I miss him like hell and still want him like hell, but I REALLY needed this space to hold my ground and get rid of those desperate thoughts and feelings that blinded me from taking the right actions back then.

 

I've been able to understand what went wrong, what were my mistakes, and what I should have done before. No time to regret but to learn from the past, apply it to the present, and for a better future.

 

What I'm strongly working on right now is to erase this idea of getting him back and just focus on ME and only ME! It's so hard to stop thinking about winning him again, almost impossible for me right now because I still have this little hope inside (which I can't turn off), and I have this strong will in working things out again as I believe it's worth fighting for. Though, the hardest part is getting him to see those things I've realized on my own, and how to let him understand that we loved each other, we wanted each other, we shouldn't leave each other just because it gets harder. This this how we value our relationship.

 

I could have done something better or maybe saved us unless I was desperate, clueless, and lacking knowledge about relationships and how to deal with them. I still believe he didn't help at all though, but I feel I can handle it now, I can do something. The difference is that, if it didn't work this time I won't be desperate 'cause I'm stronger now

 

I hope one day he wakes up reaching out for me. *sighs*

[J-L-T]

Day 2.

 

Wish he would contact me!

[KateUK]

Day 1 again....

 

Well.... after I ignored his text yesterday (where he said how he had come to appreciate how special, happy and caring I was), I emailed him some info on benefits which I maybe entitled to that would allow him to stop paying half of the bills so he could get a permanent home. I also emailed that his pay slip had arrived and asked if he needed any info from it. Very to the point. He asked me to open it and let him know how much he was being paid, and that was it. He didn't even use it as an excuse to ask me something random or talk about a TV show we liked (like he would have a couple of weeks ago).

 

He seems to be getting less needy and also reaching out to his old friends on facebook. And it is amazing how I feel drawn to him like a magnet now that he doesn't appear to need me!! Being strong though...

[dgmc]

Back to Day 1

Some of you may have read my thread. I responded to my ex last night via instant messaging. She wanted to know if I hated her or not. I replied saying I didn't hate her and that I needed space. I almost regretted it immediately. But I'm hearing mixed responses from ppl saying if it was the right move or not. Last night I could care less. I felt great! These days, I feel great in the evenings. I'm not going to lie. I was hoping for her to contact me last night. However today, I am back to missing her. I wouldn't say I took a step back. I am making ground. But the feelings are still there and I miss her. Even when I think I'm moving on and I'm not living on the hope that she will return, I later find myself sad and thinking that she wont come back. I wish I could read her mind at times.

[MrSpeed]

You can do this. I really hope my ex is feeling the way you are, not in a nasty way, as this was all her choice but I hope she feels that I am less needy than I was and that will draw her back to me, who knows?

[Griffey]

I'm sorry I don't remember this - were you the dumper, Kate?

[Wobbler]

Day 9

Another pretty easy day. I would still love to get back with her but i'm starting to realize how much of a d**k she was to me during the breakup. The only time she's ever been a * * * * to me aswell so... I really think she is NC me for her benefit which i find bizarre, It was never my idea to break up so if she feels the need to do that then why are we separated?!

[oceanblue535]

Just want you out of my life.

[MrSpeed]

Day 14

 

Two weeks since I've seen her! Can't believe it. Am going out tomorrow, Saturday, to treat myself to a load of new clothes, something I haven't done in ages, was to busy spoiling other people.

[deecbee]

@)#(*(#!!!!

 

For some reason, even after going MONTHS of no contact the first time around, I cannot make it past the 7 day mark. This is the third Friday in a row that I've broken NC. I don't know why I did it. I'm scared after our last email exchanges that he really might be over me and moving on, and I had this urge to remind him of my existence today.

 

This is the worst feeling ever. Why can't I let this go? Obviously he has.

[Wobbler]

Day 0

After several days of it being easy, im sitting here waiting to go out when my friends are done with work, I start speaking to an old frined. He's quite close to her and told me why she broke up with me, its just as i thought... It really was because i was such a neglectful * * * * . I felt the need to send a message and apologize because i never want to treat the one's i love like that. there's not many people on this planet who i truly love (even family), so i felt the need to send an apology. Felt like a weight was lifted tbh

[Starrgrl]

DAY 50 YAY Im doing awesome. Not over him and still love him but my gosh !! The withdrawal symptoms r gone !!