Seymore Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 My girlfriend has the flu and is really, really sick. Yesterday I took an extra long lunch from work to bring her some soup, some flu pills and a movie I rented for her that I know she likes. I call her every few hours to check up on her and let her know that if she needs anything to call me, because I will take a long lunch again today to get her whatever she needs. I was going to visit her after work yesterday, but her best friend/roommate who she hasn't seen in a week was home and I figured I'd let them either talk or let her rest. I feel like I'm not doing enough. What else can I do? She says she's ok, and will let me know if she needs something. Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 My girlfriend has the flu and is really, really sick. Yesterday I took an extra long lunch from work to bring her some soup, some flu pills and a movie I rented for her that I know she likes. I call her every few hours to check up on her and let her know that if she needs anything to call me, because I will take a long lunch again today to get her whatever she needs. I was going to visit her after work yesterday, but her best friend/roommate who she hasn't seen in a week was home and I figured I'd let them either talk or let her rest. I feel like I'm not doing enough. What else can I do? She says she's ok, and will let me know if she needs something. Shes sick with the flu. Its normal. Make sure you dont overdo it or else it may become annoying. You will not be able to be there for her everytime she is sick. Be sure not to set that boundary to loose. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Also maybe try not calling her as often. I know you're trying to do a good thing but as the other poster said that can get annoying after awhile and she needs as much peaceful rest as possible. Maybe call her first thing in the morning and then once again in the afternoon. Other than that there isn't much you can do. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 hahaha, stop waking her up every few hours depends on what she likes, i know when i am sick, i just kind of like to be left alone. one phone call or one visit with the essentials (DVD + takeout + medicine) is good, but i don't like much more than that. i think you are doing more than enough, considering it is also just a flu, and not something worse. Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 (DVD + takeout + medicine) is good, l Holy high maintenance! Link to comment
RayKay Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 Yeah, I would probably lay off. It is just the flu after all - it sucks but it's not the end of the world. When I am that sick, I really, really want to be left alone to sleep and rest. And, it's different if I have been with someone a while but I am not keen on someone I am newly dating seeing me throw up and not having showered for three days I just appreciate it if my boyfriend picks up some cold/flu meds & brings me some H20 or puts the kettle on so I can have some tea. When he is sick, he can be a bit more "needy"...I am off buying him soup (and making multiple trips to store as he remembers something else he wants when I get back!), giving him meds, renting him movies, getting him juice everytime he asks....lol. Anyway, I am just saying she does not need necessarily what you feel YOU would in that situation.... I got seriously ill a few months after I started dating my boyfriend. He had to take me to ER twice, hold a puke bucket for me, pour fluids down my throat - he worked from home at the time and it was great he was there or I probably would of died of dehydration and kidney failure (seriously, I had a kidney infection that was approaching kidney failure)....I was like that for a week but I HATED him seeing me like that..only reason he did was I had NO energy to even complain (it took all I had to muster myself of couch to go to ER). Link to comment
shikashika Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 First of all, I think you are really lovely for doing this! As others have said, she probably just wants to sleep and rest... so don't overdo it! Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 20, 2008 Share Posted February 20, 2008 l Holy high maintenance! if i am bedridden, my friends and bfs have done this for me, as i would and have done for them. i don't think it's so high maintenence at all. i'm talking bedridden, not a case of the sniffles. Link to comment
Aurian Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 Sounds like you`re doing a lot already! Some people are wired differently. Some people when they`re sick just want to be alone and hide in a hole until they are better. Other people like attention and comforting. Do you know which your SO is? I had no problem asking my SO how they would like me to take care of them. Turned out the both of us like rest, cuddles and a bit of "mothering" (drinks, movie, dry toast, whatever). Link to comment
Seymore Posted February 21, 2008 Author Share Posted February 21, 2008 My SO is on both ends. When she wants attention, she asks for it. When she doesn't, she doesn't let on very well. I have to learn to read her. This morning, for instance. I talked to her before work. She's sounding terrible, and I didn't want her to keep talking due to her sore throat, so I let her know that I'd take another long lunch to come by if she needed me. I think she got tired of me always asking "do you need anything". After a long day at work, I get home and crash for a bit. After a half-hour, she calls saying she misses me and wants me to come by. So I did. Brought some Vaporub over, made her soup, we watched another movie, I took her trash out, fed the cat, gave her a foot and back rub, rubbed some Vaporub on her chest and held her until she fell asleep, then it was back home to do some more work. I'm freaking exhausted. I won't lie - she looked like she got hit by a bus, and looked like she needed someone to care for her. But I guess when she wants it, she asks for it. And renting a movie and picking up medicine isn't high-maintenance, IMO - I love her. It's not like she asked for me to pick up the movie or anything, it was just something I knew would cheer her up. Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 if i am bedridden, my friends and bfs have done this for me, as i would and have done for them. i don't think it's so high maintenence at all. i'm talking bedridden, not a case of the sniffles. It was in jest! Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 lol... can't always pick sarcasm on the internet Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 lol... can't always pick sarcasm on the internet Funny I remember reading an article that said high maintenance women had difficulty picking up on sarcasm! Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 grrrr................. Link to comment
tylercdurden2004 Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 grrrr................. That article also said they sometimes get distracted by their needs and have trouble typing. Often hitting the 'G' key when they meant to hit the 'P' key. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted February 21, 2008 Share Posted February 21, 2008 let her rest. make some chicken noodle soup. make her hot tea. little things are awesome. Link to comment
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