Ripcurl513

I just went through a similar problem.....i had a boyfriend for 3 years..it was like the perfect relationship...."high school sweathearts"...i met him when i was a freshman cuz he lived down the street from me, he was a grade ahead of me...we had a really good relationship for about 2 years...we were eachothers first and everything like that....at the beginning of my senior year we broke up and my life went to shit...not because we broke up...it was because i was just in that stage....well about 4 months later we started talking again and now were are back together...its been about 2 months and everything is going ok....i think that you should definatly give it time...i really needed that space, so that I could vent and deal with a lot of things.....if he loves you he will realize that you just need your space and you should try and maybe make something of this other realtionship cause right now things just aren't working out for you and your ex and he got his chance so maybe you should give this guy a chance cause if you ex isn't your "TRUE LOVE" then maybe this guy or some other guy is....who knows but you'll know when you want to go back to your ex or if you want to go back...so just dont stress about it cause thats what your trying to get away from right?....STRESS...i know thats what I was doing....just have fun and see how you feel later on.....take it slow cause he'll still be there if its meant to be!

I definatly think that you are a much better person for her just by reading what you write....I agree with you that she needs to choose between you or this other guy, its true....if she really loves you as much as she says she does then she should just wait for you and not be with this other guy. I'm sure you two could still see eachother and it would be a lot easier to sneak around if she wasn't with him...its not like he can tell you or her that you two can't be friends. Obviously this guy is a dead end and your not so she needs to choose and she needs to really think about it cause if she chooses a dead beat over a guy like you then maybe she should be with him. But i think she loves you and she has every intention of being with you, shes probably just really scard and doesn't know what to do.

It sounds like she doesn't know what to do and she is staying with him for the same reason you aren't with her...so her boyfriend won't find out about you and her. It sounds to me like she loves you a lot and I think you should definatley wait it out and see if you guys can stay together because finding love like you have isn't easy and even if you do just try to forget about her...you won't be able to if you love her this much. Everything will work out in the end if the feelings are as strong as they sound.

Ok....I am bi and I have a boyfriend. I really like this girl and I'm pretty sure she likes me, except she told me that nothing could ever happen, but it did happen. Here's the story....ok Friday night we were all hanging out and me and her got into a conversation...we were drunk so i really didnt care what I was saying...so I told her how I felt.... and basically i got turned down....well the next morning i couldn't stop thinking about her so I text messaged her and told her that I couldn't stop thining about her...she called me about 1/2 hour later and pretty much said because of the age difference...which I am 17 gonna be 18 next month and she is 28...ok i can understand what she means....but I took it really hard. That night at about 1 in the morning we were all just chillin' like the night before except everyone was trashed!!! Well at about 6am..we went to her room...and ya know...things happened.....and it was great!! The next day I called her and she wanted me to come over again that night. Now I know she thinks I'm hot but I'm pretty sure that shes gonna say something about the age thing again, and thats not all she told me she was kinda in love with another girl, but I'm not sure if she just said that or if its true, and the worst part is that I think I have major feelings for her because it hurt so bad when she told me nothing could ever be anything with us but friends, but I can't tell her how i feel cause i think she might freak...so whats up? What should I do! If i could get some bi girls to give me some advice that would be great!