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i believe in this very much,but not only women are happiest with their friends,men too..THE MAIN ISSUE here is when someone falls in love with a friend (best friend) then..they r happiest with them than anybody else in the world...unfortunately!as those relationships also have a high %in failing&the person gets really devestated after them.as their friend is the lover...

i disagree with starfall..iam a woman &what i really need from my boyfriend is to feel closer to him,so if i asked him how do u feel,i really mean it,i just want to be a friend that when he's sad he can talk to,when he is happy he can share these feelings with me,but the problem here is some guys doesn't like sharing thoughts,feelings ideas..i don't know why but maybe they feel insecure..although if they knew that when they do this they'll become much more closer to ther girlfriends in a way that will amaze them,they will talk&talk&talk....i believe in one thing...when u find your love..she will not need to ask u ,u'll find yourself talking to her about the things that really matters to u in your life,u'd want her to embrace your heart mind&soul..to see the world around u with your eyes together with hers..this might also include sports,politics...etc.not just social,romantic or personal thoughts.

thank u all for replying..actually i believe that i didn't make a mistake&that it was really because of his actions that iasked for separation...well it's a long story ,i've been with him in a long distance relationship for almost three years now,i've seen him three times through those years,i thought we were getting closer at first but everyday i feel more &more away although he proposed to marry me&i agreed ,but he's not the kind of persons that care alot ,call me alot,even though it's very easy..he didn't even wanna chat ,he always said,iam busy..lately things have been getting more &more complicated in my mind..i felt that he just wanted to marry someone from his own country,he just wanted to settle down,so..i felt that i wasn't there in his heart..i mean me ..my thoughts,my dreams,my heart, my needs...i talked to him alot about this but he kept telling me that he wants to spend the rest of his life with me&when we r together,it'll be better.but i came to a point when i was sure that we r not meant to be...so i asked for separation,at first he asked for another chance,but i didn't feel any change after it,so this time i told him we have to split..&he agreed, last time he called me,he said lets not talk about this anymore! NOW..after almost 2 months,iam starting to feel that i was too harsh on him&that maybe it was really out of his hands&when we get together(as was planned at few months from now)maybe we could be closer,he could be better to me..so that's why i want him back..because of all the things that i originally loved about his character,while ignoring the things i hate in it.iam sorry this is long ..thank u for reading..

how can u ask your ex to get back again to eachothers when u were the one who asked for breaking up,especially when your ex is a very self confident man,that can easily get a girl&have never been rejected... would i lose my dignity if i asked him back,iam afraid to be rejected by him ,although it was his fault that made me break up with him in the first place.but he is too proud to say so. but i can't deny the fact that i still want him..but how can i tell him this without hurting my pride.

thank u shy soul for replying,apparently u r a very romantic lover..

He sees me, he loves me with every word, with every sigh, with every look in my eye he loves me ,as he wasn't able not to love me, his eyes filled with tears from longing, &as he sees me. he loves me. love words coming from the looks in his eyes ,he is longing to say them but, letters are too weak to withstand the passion in them…trembling as they are, his lips says my name oh God is this my name or it's the letters of love gathered together in one word that was created just for me………

i think that even if the guy decides to continue this love relationship,it would be very hard on him mostly,as girls are more mental creatures..they can live a love story just in their minds,but guys..they r mainly physical&visual creatures..after a while she'll get closer&closer to him maybe only through just phone calls while his feelings aren't growing,because in his mind he's waiting to be really with her to show his love...that will make a huge poblem.iam saying this because i see it happening around me,in many cases..but still,this doesn't mean that all guys r like that.

finishing these studies now will not get me sooner there to him,i'll still go after my intership which ends in march 2006,so my problem is that i can't study while iam away from him,specially that now i feel obliged to succeed for him,i feel that iam sooo pressured by this&that no one understands how i feel. anyways thank u for trying to help me..

my problem starts by people around me telling me how lucky iam &that i have an appourtuinty that a few have.. iam a medical graduate,in internship,my fiance' is an engineer in USA,he's also my cousin,he was born there,i don't live in USA,so in order to work there i have to pass through several exams(USMLE),so..i got the books&delayed my marriage in order to study while iam in my internship which lasts for 12 months.,everybody is asking me when will i take the exams ,how am i doing in studing,my fiance' is always telling me that i have to take it now ,better than taking them there in US,i hve to study hard to get high scores &one time he told me that my score will determine if we'll stay in his state or move to another one &how there will be a problem in finding a new job there,but after all this he says,well i believe i can manage& i believe in you,i have confidence that u'll get the highest scores... the main problem here is...(I CAN'T STUDY ANYTHING),iam too afraid to study,to fail,to disappoint my family&my fiance'..my dream was always to succed for my sake for my future,not because anyone was telling me to, but because i wanted to succed, all that i care about now is to make him proud of me,to make him happy,but iam lonely here,he's miles &miles away from me,calls me every 10 days or so,i believe that i'll do better if he's next to me,encouraging me to move on,but everybody else keeps telling me iam an idiot,i shouldn't waste time,but I DON"T CARE, i don't know what to do anymore.. am i totally crazy,am i wrong that after 7 years of contiuous studying on my own, i need more support,that i don't care about how fast i'll gain money from my work,that all i care about now is to be with the one i love&then fulfil my dreams. i know this is long but thanks for reading.

thank u guys for reading my poem ,iam happy that u liked it.

Iam on a boat..alone just too far from anything i have to close my eyes to see..where iam heading to accept the reality where is the shore? i open my eyes but all i can see is a reflection of me,the boat&the endless sea where am i going? in this long cruise with me iam trapped in this endless freedom the wind moves everything..the sail,the waves of the sea but not a move in my long dark hair or the dress on me just myself&the boat but safe is not even near i know one thing..iam not lost but my heart is filled with fear hi everyone,i just hope if u could give me your opinion on this poem,thanks.

well, iam in a long distance relationship&i wanna give myself& my man pleasure so,the only way is the phone sex,which i know nothing about (iam inexperienced)..the funny thing is that he knows that i come from a really conservative family so i am sure he will not try to initiate this,so as not to freak me away. but the truth is iam willing to know more&do more of this stuff but iam embarressd to tell him&more embaressd to initiate it,so..is there a way i can do or say anything on the phone that would stimulate him to start the phone sex.. &wont make me look cheap??

ok,how about this...try to act as if something is bothering u &when she asks u about it,tell her that your family is facing some financial problems&u think that your financial situation is going bad or something like this,but try to really show her this,..if she wants u for your money after a while she'll get bored that u r not giving her gifts or money or anything&eventually she'll leave ...but if she was really in love with u ,she'll get closer to u &never leave u. also have u tried to offer that after u finish your study,she could come with u &leave all this prostitution thing behind her,may be she really wants to get away,&u can help her. just do anything but giving her money..love is blind sometimes..

thank u all for trying to help me,so..all i have to do is be patient &eventually those feeling will grow..i also have to relax&stop thinking too much,may be this will help,but about telling him what i liked more...well,all for me was the same i guess this was my problem,but i'll try to concentrate more&see what happens..

iam 23 ,never had sex before in my life,i come from a strict family so..i didn't even make out before .but now i found someone so special&i love him,the problem is we kissed&touched eachothers&some other stuff(i think that's what foreplay means) 2or 3times,but i didn't feel what everybody keeps telling me that iam missing,i did feel good but only for few Seconds&mostly because i was satisfying him knowing that iam inexperienced..that was flattering to me.a friend of mine tells me that this is normal because i didn't have sex before&that these feelings grow by practice..is that true? iam really depressed ,i even had to lie to him&say it was wonderful so as not to hurt his feelings because i really love him&because deep down i know the problem is in me not him as he had several relationships before so he is well experienced...can anybody help me??