TopDawg

Sounds like she did it on purpose. She set a trap and you fell right for it. Now she owns you! Good thing they invented a pill for men now. That way, we don't have to worry that our gf/wives will take theirs.

He might have several problems. Maybe he is depressed about the way he is living his life, how he's doing at work, etc., and that is causing him to lose interest in sex. If that is the case, then maybe he should see a doctor who can suggest some anti-depression pills that could help him. Or it might be that he just doesn't have a healthy sex drive. And a doctor could also help out in that area as well, with pills such as viagra, etc. Maybe he's just too embaressed to see a doctor about the problem himself. So maybe you should talk to a doctor about it, and buy the pills he recommends for you. Then ground up the pills and serve them to him in his daily meals. Without even knowing it, he might get his sex drive back, and he'll never know you had a part in it. There are also natural remedies such as herbs, and certain types of foods that increase sex drive in men. I know of lots of women who have done that sort of thing, and now their relationship's are much better. I don't think, however that having an affair is the answer. In the end, you neither of you will be happy.

You mean your phase or his? I doubt this phase will pass for him, since he is already a grown man and he's uncomfortable about that sort of thing. Even if he does do it, he won't really be enjoying it, and I don't think you'd find it as desirable if that were the case. However, on another note I'm very much into that sort of thing: spanking, domination, etc, even though I've never tried it out I still fantasize about it. Your husband doesn't know how lucky he is to have a wife who would actually enjoy that kind of thing.

I like your post. It does make a lot of sense. I'll try to be more expressive with my feelings in the future.

Thanks that helps a lot. I used to always imagine being seated in a psychiatrist's chair with my girlfriend(s) seated accross from me with a pen and paper asking me how I'm feeling. Atleast now I know what they're talking about. They never out right told me. It helps to be forward and clear with men, because sometimes we don't get those hidden messages that women send.

lol, even though it does sound lame, it does have some truth to it. Men in general have more difficulty sharing their feelings than women. That doesn't mean we don't have them, just that we prefer to express them in a more subtle way. I don't think I'm poor at sharing my feelings. I've told all my girl friends how I feel about them. However, I just don't tell it to them every day, because I assume they know that I still feel the same way. However I can see why they would want to be constantly reminded if they are needy.

I think you are kinda needy. Men don't like that. It's a sure way to send them running. Why don't you speak to a therapist about your issues with your dad, maybe that will help.

Because everytime I try to reason with them, it always backfires. I end up losing them to a more "sensitive" guy. I mean whats wrong with just plain talking. Although what Starfall said does make a lot of sense. Men also need reassurance, but in a different way. We need to know that our partner respects us. I used to always think that when they asked me about my feelings, they meant what I was actually feeling, not about how I felt about them. Women are very confusing. They expect us to understand these things??? I did tell them how I feel about them. Just not every day.

I know that both men and women have feelings, some stronger in males than females and vice versa. However, why do women always want to get inside men's heads and find out what their feeling about everything. I've had several relationships end because my gf always wants to talk about my feelings. I have no problem talking. In fact, I'm probably a very talkative person. However, I would prefer to talk about things like sports, politics, education, music, etc. But my girl friends always want me to share my feelings with them. I don't get why it's so important. Just because I'm not telling you everything I'm feeling or have felt, doesn't mean that I'm shutting you out, or that I don't trust you. I just don't prefer to talk about mundane things such as that. I guess it stems from the different hormones inside men and women, which makes women more emotionally expressive, and the way that men are brought up in society. We are taught to hide our emotions and feelings deep inside of us(even though we all have them), while women are taught that they should always express what they are feeling. I can't help the way I am. I'm a man. I wish that women in relationships would just stop trying to pry and get into their partner's head. Be more of a friend, rather than a psychiatrist.