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I will try to make this very simple; There is a girl I really like, known her for about 5months on and off. we've already slept together/next day she goes all cold and avoids me Didn't see her for awhile then, we met up again and kissed ect she has kept saying sorry for messing me around but, she's in a very unhappy relationship and wants out Went out for a drink together, clearly she's attracted towards me by the way she looks. All of her friends keep telling me to go for it but, I'm a little scared. Might be seeing her later and i don't know how to go about things, i don't want it to be just sex I actually like her but respect the fact she has a partner. This is the first girl I've liked since splitting up with my ex of 5 years last year. Any advice would be good, not good at this dating thing anymore
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Just having a very tough time right now in dealing with my ex never coming back to me. I can't get these thoughts out of my head as to how she fell in love with someone else a month after our 5 year relationship and how she loved this person more than she ever loved me even though they are not together now it hurts so badly. This guy bought her more things than i could ever dream of buying her. Why should this hurt like it does? why am I not getting over this? I am so lost right now. I cannot seem to accept how someone could move on so fast
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we were together for 5 years and didn't speak to each other for 6 months after the break up so I did do the no contact. There really is nothing I can say - everyone is different but I do believe more than ever now that if you really do love someone and they say they love you back then you have to ask the question as to why their not with you now. Sometimes love is all there is sometimes it is that simple. I think everyone has to make their own mistakes. I've made mine and I will never go back again. If any of you ever want to talk please pm me. Good luck to you all
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we were together for 5 years and didn't speak to each other for 6 months after the break up so I did do the no contact. There really is nothing I can say - everyone is different but I do believe more than ever now that if you really do love someone and they say they love you back then you have to ask the question as to why their not with you now. Sometimes love is all there is sometimes it is that simple. I think everyone has to make their own mistakes. I've made mine and I will never go back again. If any of you ever want to talk please pm me. Good luck to you all
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Well guys the inevitable happened with my ex. If none of you know just go back and look at my posts over the past few months. I was trying to get my ex back - doing everything by the book trying to learn from my mistakes but you know what?.....it didn't work. I wasted 7 months doing this and I kept thinking, I had learnt things but I hadn't because I was still so helplessly in love with her that I was blinded. Oh she lead me on had me believe I was in with a fighting chance and now it really is over! completely over - never know going back and it hit me like a slap in the face as soon as she said we're just friends. I didn't crumble like I did before i kept strong and didn't cry she was not going to have another tear from me. I really am all cried out now. Maybe I'm in shock who knows but in a way I'm relieved. I finally had my answer even though it wasn't what I wanted to hear and even though I've reached rock bottom again over this person I know the only way is up now. Someone said on here once "that sometimes that person's part in the story is over and you have to know when it's over because nobody wants to be with someone that doesn't want you" never have these words been so true. I don't know if I will ever love anyone the way I loved her but I have to believe I will because if you stop believing then all hope is lost. So to all you guys out there STOP! no doubt you were all like me. If someone loved you that much they would be with now and it's true don't be led on like I was pleeeeeeeeeeeeeeeease.
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Cracking up here...aaaggghhh!!!!!
beco replied to beco's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
No I haven't made any move I asked about getting back together when I started seeing her again 7 motnhs ago but she said it was to soon which I agree with but it's along time on now she must realize I want her back. -
Cracking up here...aaaggghhh!!!!!
beco replied to beco's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
Thank you for that, like I said any help welcome. This is truly one of the hardest thing's I've gone through maybe even worse than the break up it's self a year ago purley for the fact that once this is sorted there really will be no going back and that thought alone makes me sad. I know in my heart of hearts she doesn't want me back maybe this is why I am scared of dealing with the situation. -
I am on the verg of cracking up here so any help would be good I've been friends with my ex for 7 months now ( we were together for 5 years didn't see each other for 5 months or so after the break up) we haven't had sex but we do everything together that a couple would do. I guess I'm confused and lost again!! I did everything by the book played it cool, I've been a great friend to her and still she doesn't make a move on me - how much more can I take. I'm scared of losing her as a friend because we do get on so well and I would miss her forever if I couldn't see her again because of my feelings but at the same time this isn't good. How on earth do I bring this up without sounding weak? I'm fed up with reading the signs with her i.e when she sleeps in the same bed as me or hugs me for no reason or rubs my leg. sometimes I think she's doing it just as a friend other times I think she must know this would be leading me on. Please what would you guys do in this situation?
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I'm sorry to hear that. I hope one day it will get better for both of us it has too.
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Thanks for the reply, i knew your right and i know i should do this but i really am very scared of the answer i don't want to feel that pain again like i did all those months ago i'm also afraid of losing a friend and i know friendship will be hard because i'm still in love with her
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Ok it's been 4 months of being friends with my ex but still nothing gets an further. we're like a couple but without sex and now i'm starting to get frustrated and wonder if there really is any chance for me. For those of you that don't know - me and the ex where with each other for 5 years split up in july 2003 didn't talk to each other for 5months I find out she was seeing someone and was completely heartbroken. How should I approach this now? I can't go on pretending to be friends when we're sharing beds together ( sometimes hugging each other) going on w/end breaks, going for dinner with each other it's driving me mad we do everything apart from sex and kissing. I don't want to mess anything up here so whatever i do has to be right. please help
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here's a brief history; I was with my ex for 5 years we finished in july and didn't talk for about 5 months I know she started seeing someone a month after me, she appeared to be very obsessesd with this guy but they finished in november. We've been seeing each other as friends since january to see how thing's go and we've been getting on so well but we haven't had sex we sleep in the same bed we see each other almost everyday go out to dinner go away for weekends we're like a couple but without the sex . i don't know what to do i'm starting to lose it a bit I have to know whats going on but i'm afraid she might say she doesn't love me anymore this is the last attempt how can i get her back in this situation if we're not friends and not lovers what are we????
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For those that don't know my situation: was with my ex for 5 years, she dumped me and we didn't talk for 6 months till xmas. The thing is I asked her if there was any chance of us getting back together and she said we'd see how things go but since then nothing has been said and nothing has moved any further forward this was in january for me it feels like i'm being held back under some false hope we might get back together. I know she had a two month relationship a month after we finished and was very much in love as i can gather the thing i want to know is what does she want from me? we both agreed friendship wasn't an option I'm very lost any advice needed
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Well I wrote my ex a letter explaining everything and she responded with I love you more than anyone and she wanted to take it slow before rushing anything and yet she wasn't telling me this at the time, I was being left in limbo but she said I blew it with my behaviour a few days ago. I can't believe it. should I just leave it and see if she comes back surly if she loved me she would. I just feel like I've messed up and it's really playing on my mind that I lost her again just because I couldn't take being lead on anymore
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I am going through such a hard time right now, I don't want to wake up can't think of anything other than my ex I know I have to walk away and she won't fight for me I just don't want to leave it like it was before where there was so many questions unanswered some people will say i'm just doing anything to get contact-maybe there right but if i'm not going to see her again like before then i feel like i must say everything that i feel before i close this door is it a good idea to see her or write a letter? Right now I'm feeling how i was 6 months ago when we lost contact it was never closed and I feel now it has to be please someone help me i don't know whats right or wrong anymore