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  1. mhowe
    Thanks. "There" and "here" are nice places to be!!
  2. mhowe
    In 2 words: My life. In 12 words: And all that has happened to make me who I am today.
  3. mhowe
    Sunday swims by ourselves at an empty beach, fried scallops, bf reaching for my hand in his sleep.
  4. mhowe
    Farm fresh eggs, quiet Sundays, a clean kitchen.
  5. mhowe
    Congrats...a well deserved happy ending...or rather, happy beginning.
  6. mhowe
    the love of a good man the laughter around the kitchen table a few good, good friends.
  7. mhowe
    gratitude shared is awesome. Amen.
  8. mhowe
    Halibut...a good laugh...and wonderful memories.
  9. mhowe
    For the chance to travel and experience new cultures...and renew my gratitude for all that being home brings to my life.
  10. mhowe
    A walk on the beach A basket of fresh seafood A celebration dinner
  11. mhowe
    Get thee to a doctor!
  12. mhowe
    1. My workout with trainer is over for the day. 2. A hot bath (soaking as I post) 3. The last winter storm
  13. mhowe
    The return to focus on my fitness. Mashed potatoes. Two new clients to start the new year. Deepening of the bond/communication with my bf.
  14. mhowe
    There is no cause to "remember" the date of death, at least in my book. The family knows...it need not be acknowledged by others. Not a reason to break NC.
  15. mhowe
    1. A beautiful fall day with a walk on the beach. 2. A big bowl of mashed potatoes! 3. How far my life and outlook has come this time last year.
  16. mhowe
    I am grateful that: 1. I am continuing my mothers legacy of giving to those that need it. 2. That the reconciliation with my bf continues to bring the relationship to new heights. 3. That myself and my siblings have come through the last year stronger and resilient...and forged stronger bonds with each other.
  17. mhowe
    Good job. Reconnecting to your "self" is the only way through.
  18. mhowe
    Read "Broken Open" by Elizabeth Lesser. It talks about how you feel --- transformed.
  19. mhowe
    1. Being "broken open" instead of heartbroken. 2. An evolving glimpse of my future 3. Realizing how "large" my "family" has become.
  20. mhowe
    Surf jon....to love is to be vulnerable. And a wise man takes the lessons he has been shown and learns from then. Just as you were able to see the relationship for what it had become and realized that you had been unhappy for two years...the reset of the dynamics between you will take.adjustment. I too was more invested before...and am conscious of guarding my heart. But as each day passes...another brick comes off the wall I built...because while the walls keep things out....they also keep things in.
  21. mhowe
    Telling him that what he is feeling isn't "right" isn't helpful to him --- "attacking him". Try, when you are talking, to mirror and not judge...."I understand that losing your dad has made you wary of feeling close to other people". "It must be hard". If you have read this thread --- many posters will tell you that as the SO --- the only thing you can do is "be there" WHEN they want you. Right now, it isn't about the relationship. And getting your "old boyfriend" back----he doesn't exist right now. He shouldn't be making rash decisions --- but you cannot stop him. I doubt he will be headed to Germany, but I think he really just wants to be alone right now. He is numb.
  22. mhowe
    I'm not sure he is going to forget your words very soon. And texting him about your medical thing is just an excuse to text. Since he is still dealing with both deaths, I would say just go NC for a few months and if at some point to want to reach out -- fine. But I don't see another reconciliation in your future ---
  23. mhowe
    Guys tend to say what they feel in the moment, then possibly regret it when they have had time to think about it. Women tend to try and work it out, but start to disconnect emotionally before.they broach the "break up" topic...so they have already begun to leave.
  24. mhowe
    In essence, your relationship was only 4 months old when you had to deal with your mom's illness and subsequent passing. Your gf, rightly so..put your relationship on hold and was there to support you. And when she expressed her feelings, you asked for a.break. I have just lost my mum as well. And my bf and I put our relationship on hold..because I had nothing to give to it. After another 3 months post death, I am just regaining my emotional footimg. He has been supportive, but not intrusive. And we have been together 4 years. You are going thru a.difficult time. Don't be in a rush to reach out before you are ready. It is possible that your relationship was not long enough, or with enough of a base to weather this storm. Heal yourself before you try to heal the relationship.
  25. mhowe
    By cherishing your time together...and letting go of expectations of a future. Right now, one last talk will do NOTHING to further your agenda....as he has told you -- he will resent it. So, your only option -- is to walk on into your future.
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