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  1. mhowe
    Let go with love...and let him be. There is nothing to be gained in a another talk.
  2. mhowe
    I would not base my plans on his timeframe....don't give up a holiday --- that would only serve to make him feel guiltier than he already does. Putting things on pause is okay -- but you have to accept that this process for him may last longer than a few months.
  3. mhowe
    You need to do what is best for you. He will process his grief ....as he processes it. I have just reconnected w/ my bf in the past week after the death of my mother --- back in Jan. And in our time apart --- we had very little contact. And I felt numb, or crushed --- and in no way was able to put any emotional energy into being a gf to him....and he understood/understands. I am finally feeling like I am back to my old self, and not just going thru the motions. But everyone has their own speed. My advice would be to do what you need to do for you. When he is ready to re-start his life --- he will either contact you or not. You can keep in touch, so he knows you are open to it -- but please, don't "wait" on him.
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    I agree with ^. Having lost my father 6 yrs ago...and the following heartache and grief. Was not in relationship at the time...but am now, and dealing with the impending death of my mother. It is hell. I want bf close -- and then just explode. There is nothing he can do -- but hold me. It is an incredibly difficult place to be -- and incredibly difficult for the significant other to find that "place" or way of being there for you. Realize it is not truly about the relationship. It is an immense dark void -- and we all will someday traverse it.
  5. mhowe
    If they were total jerks, why would you want them back? It is not a guy/girl thing. And stories are just that -- someone else, some other place and time. Has no bearing on your jerk.
  6. mhowe
    contact Taylor Swifts' agent and make a few coins!!!!
  7. mhowe
    very beautiful.
  8. mhowe
    I posted this somewhere else today: My 80+ yr old client just reconnected w/ his 1st crush after 70 years!!! His wife died from Alzheimers around 5 yrs ago, and he went home to a friend's funeral in his hometown in the fall. Ran into her --- she never married. They are now dating, and spent the holidays together. Seventy frickin yrs!!!!!
  9. mhowe
    I suffer from them as well...either stress induced, or strangely enough, weather induced. The longer I've had them, the more severe...I take pheorinal (sp?), but if you want to try drug free....get a massage. And I mean from a therapist. Concentrate on neck and shoulders. I did that for a few years and dropped from a migraine every 6 weeks to about 2 a year. Good luck. I try and tell people what it feels like and they don't get it. Drive a railroad spike thru your right eye!!!!
  10. mhowe
    My ex came back as well ---- together for 1.5 yrs, friends for 7 years, apart for 3.5 months, went NC right away for 2 months, ran into him, chatted for 10 min. and went back to NC for another 6 weeks. He called me up, came over to talk, and spent 3 hrs taking complete responsiblity for the "break" in our relationship. One of the things he mentioned was that my acceptance of the time apart, as well as my demeanor when we ran into each other, made him feel as though I respected his position, even though he knew he had hurt me by his actions. We are just beginning the reconciliation process, but his ability to articulate what happened and express not only remorse but how much he loves me, leads me to believe we are now at the beginning of a new life together.
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