berry1204

Maybe going to college would be a good idea. I think you have a long life ahead of you and college is a blast. Get your life on the right track with college where there are a TON of women.

Has she given you any signals of feeling the same way? I would just go for it before some other guy snatches her up. Just let her know that if she just wants to be friends that is still cool with you.

It sounds like you got involved too fast. Don't invest so much of yourself in the beginning of a relationship. Let things go slow and let her like you for who you are, not for what you bought her. You chose to buy her those things. Why? If you did it to obligate her to you that is being manipulative, not genuinly kind.

Just so you know when there is no trust in a relationship every problem is multiplied by 100 percent!! I think you need to step away from this guy until he can deal with his trust issues. If you aren't doing anything wrong you don't have to baby him and give up YOUR life so he can be happy and feel secure. Jealousy can lead to a lot of bad things. I would just tell him he needs to start trusting you or stuff it!!!

My boyfriend of 2 years recently left me because he said he was always letting go of his feelings in order to make me feel better. Here are the things we ALWAYS fought about for 2 years: I was working 40 hrs. per week and going to school at night. I would be asleep by 10 every night because I was so tired. His schedule was 9-2 on a long day so he could do whatever he wanted. He was upset because he thought I was being rude by falling asleep so early and that we weren't spending enough time together. I tried explainign to him that my schedule at the time sucked but we were going to get through it and once I was done with school and he was working in the real world things would get better. Also, he constantly nagged on me about our sex life. It wasn't exciting enough or frequent enough for him. We had sex about 3 times per week and he had a roommate so I felt uncomfortable getting WILD!! He always wanted things back to the way they were when we first started dating. You know, when you are so in love that you don't even think about anything else and you have sex all the time. The man is 28 years old and does this. I told him if me falling asleep early was all he had to complain about then any guy would be lucky to be in his position. His rely to that was so, your thinking about other guys are you. AHHHHHH!!! I felt like we were going into a mature love stage when you become best friends and you are just comfortable with one another. I don't know what to think of all this. Was I just too insensitive to his needs?

My opinion is that you should start off with 100% trust with someone. I was in a relationship with someone who didn't trust me from the beginning because of his past relationships. Sorry, but if someone doesn't trust me and I know that I am doing nothing wrong I am not going to baby them and hold their hand. Its all in maturity and being able to get over past hurt. I was cheated on several times by an ex and I start every new relationship with 100% trust. If the other person senses that you can't trust them they may want out before you even get started. Think of how you would feel if you knew your significant other had no trust in you but you knew you were doing nothing wrong. Kind of annoying isn't it. YOU CAN NOT BE OPEN TO BEING LOVED UNTIL YOU ARE OPEN TO POSSIBLY GETTING HURT!!!

My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me a few months ago. I am really unsure of what happened. When we first started dating he was "too good to be true". We fell in love right away. I instantly sensed his insecurities about relationships. He has been cheated on and says that he he trusts no one and that people are always disappointing him. He was very jelous of my past 4 year relationship and was always worried that I would go back to him. I broke up with him 3 months into the relationship because I felt smothered and started having feelings for my old boyfriend again. We ended up getting back together and I was never allowed to forget about how badly I had hurt him by the breakup. He was jelous of pictures that I had under my bed that he found of my old boyfriend and I. He snooped through everything I had. I really loved him!! He was very charming and wonderful. He was constantly showering me with gifts and praise. He started feeling like I didn't appreciate him for how great he was and that I wasn't doing all of the things that he wanted. I really lost myself here!! He picked on me for falling asleep too early at night when I was working and going to school. He said I treated him bad. I felt like I had to lie to him in order to go out with friends even though he would let me but there was always some big blowout over it. I am in couseling now and trying to find my old self again. What happened here? What did I do wrong? I feel bad for always having feelings for an old boyfriend but I don't think I projected that onto the new relationship. ANY help would be appreciated.