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If you are dreading it, why not cancel? Maybe you can meet at a later date when you feel more ready to talk to him and hear him out?
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Also, BeStrongBeHappy is giving you great advice: I too believe you should reconsider your decision to be his "friend" for now ... maintaining contact with him at this point will only bring you grief, I'm afraid ... Let go for now. Be a friend to yourself first. Then after you've healed, maybe you guys can be friends, if you still want ...
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Hey Pisces Princess, I am sorry that you're hurting right now ... I apologize if I sound harsh but I do believe NC is best for you at the moment ... he has expressed no interest in getting back together so meeting him from time to time will only end up setting you back in your road to recovery ... I am sorry if I missed it but why are you guys meeting tonight?
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Wow, Shika, i totally misread the situation! Sorry about that hmm... curiouser and curiouser ... Shika, if I may ask: how good a friends are you guys right now? Do you think he might think YOU are interested in this friend as well and as a courtesy to you is trying to back off??
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Hey Shika, I agree w/ Laboheme and BeStrongBeHappy. I would be wary of your ex's intentions but I would not let that spoil my fun either! After all, you planned this trip w. your friend to have a FUN weekend!!! From his email, IMO, he's jealous. BUT as Laboheme points out, I do not know if this is going to end at jealousy or if THIS is what was needed to jolt him back to his senses?? Shika, i know what happened w/ this ex is a rather tender issue w/ you still ... but I also know that you've got the inner strength not to let this guy play w/ your head and your emotions like this! If you are CERTAIN that you do not want to get back together w/ your ex, then focus on having fun w/ your friend (while being friendly to your ex too, of course ) and I am sure he will get the message ...
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Hey Rozi, don't be so hard on yourself! You do know that you bring a lot of light into people's lives, dontcha? I for one really love reading your poems!
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Hey Shika, if you don't think you want to get back together w/ him, then I suppose you can be courteous to him but I would totally focus on having fun w/ your friend! If he wants to bring up getting back together again, you may want to hear him out and decide what you want to do, based on what he says. If he does NOT tell you what you deserve to hear -- sincere apologies, reasons for the previous breakup, full commitment to making things work again b/t you two -- then I think it may be best to disregard what he says bc if he does NOT tell you what you deserve to hear, he may have just come along bc he was jealous and was trying to dampen your fun snowboarding trip w/ your friend? Just my two cents worth ...
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Hmm... I can't decide if he's bring rude or if he's trying to get back together w/ you If you are okay with hanging out w/ him, I suppose there's no real problem but I do think it odd that he would have kinda invited himself like that, fully knowing that it may make you feel uncomfortable?
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Shika, this is very strange indeed! So is he planning to hang out w/ you and your friend OR is he simply going to the same place to snowboard? Also, do YOU want to get back together w/ him if he brings it up??
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I hear ya! I know it's not healthy to bottle things up but I don't like to tell people too much about my depression bc even though I know they mean well and do so out of love and concern for me, I do NOT want to be reduced to a *problem* for them to solve, y'know?! Hang in there Rozi!
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Rozi, vent away! By the bye, couldn't you have moved your journal to the private journal forum? It's a shame that your journal had to be deleted
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PH, I am glad that you're feeling better now. Please feel free to PM me anytime I don't know if i can be much help but I am always around to lend a helping ear ... Take care and have a wonderful day, no scratch that, have a wonderful week!
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=D> \\ YAY!!!! Haha, sorry ... I get a *little* carried away w/ these emoticons!
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Good point PCPC!
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Hey PH, did I tell you I lived in Brisbane for six months a while ago? I loved it and would love to go back some day ...
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Yay! PH ... we all get this urge to break NC! BUT you have been SUCCESSFULLY carrying on w/ NC for 7 months! NC is hard and I think your past success demonstrates your strengths to get over this particular rough patch.
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I agree w/ Dave: you CAN do it PH. You have been doing it for the past 7 months!
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Poet, c'mon now, you know you are NOT taking up my time. I am here for you ...
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Poet, well, there are certain things that you just gotta do, y'know? We're here for you whatever you decide to do ... We're just concerned bc we don't like to see you unhappy and it does seem like breaking NC at this point would only lead to that. Hang in there PH.
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PH, all the more reason why you should NOT text him and give him the satisfaction of knowing that he can still get to you! PH, I know this is hard but please we're here for you. Vent here!!!
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The text, in and of itself, is NOT bad, of course. But like Dave said, what are you trying to get out of sending such a text? What kind of response can he give that would make the hurt you're feeling right now go away? If you think there's a good chance he might give you a logical explanation (that you can understand) for setting up an account and apologize to you for hurting you inadvertently by setting up the said account, only then would the text seem like a good idea (even then, maybe not??) BUT since we cannot anticipate what his response might be and considering that his response might not be one that would help you heal but exacerbate the feelings of frustration you have right now, please do RECONSIDER sending this text ...
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Oh good, you're there PH! I know what I say might be trite but if you break NC now, it will only let him know that he can still get to you ... I do not know what your ex was like so I am uncertain if he is the type of person who might get a power rush from something like this: but in any case, please please please do not give him this satisfaction ...
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PH, are you there?
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PH, I agree w/ everyone else: please don't break NC! I am one of those people that believe NC can be broken in the right time for the right reason but PH, IMO, this is *NOT* the right time for you to break NC If you do break NC, three things are likely to happen: a) he will not respond b) he will respond but in a way that is hurtful to you c) he will apologize for being inconsiderate and putting up an ad on an internet dating site 7+ months after your break-up AND also for being a hypocrite by setting up an account when he said he wouldn't ... I don't mean to sound harsh so please forgive me if I do: To me, it sounds like you will only feel okay about breaking NC if c) happens BUT what are the chances of c) happening?? LaBoheme is right; unload your frustrations here bc if you unload them on your ex, I fear your frustrations may only increase from contact w/ him ... I am sorry PH that you are hurting ... Please hang in there and know we're here for you ... Ellie
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Mutual Break-up, I thought....
Ellie2006 replied to zombiegirl's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships