Carl5000

I do think at times jezzz the gods weren't smiling on me when they gave out important genetic attributes; not only am i like an asian i even suffer from dyslexia. Cheers. This is rather worrying, i had to wait 4months to see a specialist sex therapist though the NHS to discuss my penis size issues. Well, around two months ago, i had a few sessions and we had a few disagreements; him saying size doesn't matter to women, 40% of men are between 3.5-5", men using urinals, showers men don't compare. I basically completely disagreed with him. He was trying to work on my beliefs, as he felt they were irrational. It was just complete and utter nonsense. I said to him if size doesn't matter, why have women rejected me over it? why do i constantly read about women saying their partner is too small? etc Funny though, after my 2nd session he said hes going on holiday for a week and he will contact me to arrange another session. Its been around 5weeks and i haven't heard from him. Even, he knows deep down im screwed when it comes to relationships. But, i jsut think his behaviour is totally disgraceful and i might complain. What sort of psychologist treats their patients with such a lack of disregard especially when they have psychological problems. Even, in my notes i mentioned in the past i'd felt suicidal, not that i would. I'm still kind of gobsmacked by it all. i know for a fact almost, he hasn't forgot about me. We, were discussing things for an hr at a time. I'm not really that bothered, because i know there is no real solution, only to toughen up and just date and i might just find a girl who is cool about it. But, this psychologist was like a complete amateur, it just amazes me still. I took some prozac for a few months and my counsellor was even more uneffective than the tablets. Actually, atm im quite chilled out and contented for me. So, its all good. I just try and focus on some positve aspects of my life, it aint perfect but im healthy and ppl are worse off than me in the world. svenmen, that is seriously big man 7.5" how can u think your small- thats surreal. Most studies say most men are between 5-7inches your twice my size for starters. no way, i'd have a problem with 7" if that wasn't enough for women, then they'd have the problem.

yea inanecathode i just slept with his girl she had saggy * * * * and a vagina like a tunnel i told all my friends about it and we had a great laugh at her expense- i even hope it gets back to her, so it will hopefully make her really upset and hurt. She seemed so attractive with her clothes on, i was so gutted and almost burst out laughing when i saw her nude. If only other people could come upto my perfection and my lovely, unjudgemental personality haha.

probably best you go, obviously one of the main reasons your dating is for the sex. Do, you honestly believe you can go without? Can you see yourself in another 4yrs with this girl, say engaged and still no sex? i doubt it somehow. Its simple do her other qualities overweigh the lack of sex? a relationship without sex is just like a strong friendship, interesting. who knows, perhaps she's just testing you or unconsciously whats you to finish with her. Plenty of things to look into, its best to discuss it with her. Just say sex is a massive part of my life, i dont think i can go without until marriage and see her reaction.

I feel its alll good, lifes about living it to the max and he's obviously having a very good time - also i'm sure the experience will become useful in future relationships. All you have to do, is keep the number of sexual partners u've had to urself, as it will probably be a turn-off for alot of women. If, i was you i'd try and reach 100 Practise makes perfect.

Nothing wrong with a huge ego, lets hope he isn't saying the same crap about you, behind your back. Forget about rescuing the relationship; any bloke is better off without this type of woman, totally lacking in respect, decency and any type of morality. heh just plain evil, if your going to be evil, why not just go the whole way and become darth vader. I would have said, keep the opinions to urself. oh well!!.

For birth control a condom and the pill should be 100% reliable. I can totally understand, from a male's perspective why you'd rather not use one though. Condoms certainly take the edge off sex for men, but its better to be safe than sorry.

well, they say the clitoris is has many more nerve endings and is the best way to bring a woman to orgasm than through penetrative sex and yet women seem very interested in penis size and also i've read many women have lots of nerve endings in the first 2inches of the vagina and thereforeeee anything over 2inches should be able to satisfy them. Yet, i've been rejected so many times over my penis size. I honestly believe as sex is in the women's mind and because of all the hype over penis size that they believe a small penis won't satisfy them before u even start adn if the man is small, his size is easily blamed. Plus, many women aren't visually turned on by a man with a small penis and that can effect their enjoyment and orgasms. Like, i was really attractived to a certain girl and could get erections really fast and had really strong orgasms with her as she really turned me on mentally, other women the sex wasn't as great as i wasn't attractived to them at the same level.

I think relationships are good, as long as you don't become to reliant on your partner and always believe it will probably end at some point and just try and make the most of it. So the laid back approach is the best, as you won't get too hurt in the process, as the probability is its going to end. I see relationships just as a social contract, where you just use each other for validation, company and sex until it runs its course. Its basically nothing more than i scratch your back, u scratch mine. Just using each other otherwords. As for people believeing in love, they are just naive and living in a fantasy world; what you love about somebody is what they give you in return. Perhaps love is nothing more than admiration, respect for the person, but those can soon change and usually do in time after the honeymoon period

Sorry im back thanks for the nice replies and comments even though i wasn't after any sympathy just trying to clear up a few things. But once again cheers i appreciate it. As the amply hung guy said, he can do wonderful things to a woman with his hands and tongue. What you get with being well-hung the majority of time is confidence, experience and generally it goes beyond just being larger. Most bigger men will have had more sex and learnt better techniques to satisfy their partner-well im talking a reasonable size so that alot of women won't turn u down like myself. Like i've probably only had sex around 50-100 times yet most men around my age your probably looking at 1000's who is going to better in the bedroom? they should be. The old saying practise makes perfect, plus the advantage of a much larger penis(the majority). Having a tiny penis your screwed on many levels. But, so is the really ugly guy or girl or a man who is 4ft 5in tall or the obese women the one thing you don't want is something that is abnormal and at the extreme side of average that society see's as being beneficial or valued by people. Hard to deal with things that are of high value to other people and urself and are unchangable. Most problems have a solution, mine certainly doesn't just a case of taking rejections on the chin. I think this penis size stuff is a real problem though and woman have to be to blame(sorry) well maybe genetics not really woman's fault they need a reasonably size one to get off. But, i cant see me having any children so maybe the small penis gene will be slowly disappear and all men will be large enough to satisfy women at some point. Still, evolution isn't an over night phenomena. Depends if it affects other men, it seems to after this threat//crikey it has too. Anyone see that scientific study where it showed generally bigger men have more sex than the small men? it was like a graph. 7"plus say sex 200times a year, 5" say 50 and it went down from 8" to less and less amazing reallly with a few morements whcih is understandable- *lol* good job they never asked me. Talk about fate having a large slice in your future happiness and relationships. More sex, more pregnancies u'd expect on the whole. im out, i'm going to look to post on other topics now. Got it off my chest and now im just repeating myself you can only talk about willly size for so long. Cheers and laters people.

n83, im not saying my opinion is the right one, but i tend to disagree. Sex is central to most relationships, especially intiallly and in the past they always went pear shaped once they became sexually. its got to the point now, where i do actually feel sexually inadequate and feel at a great disadvantage. If i was seeking a relationship, i should be looking forward to sex with the girl, it should be a great motivation. But, i just dread it and its a horrible outlook. Its all about anticipation, its just very hard to date. Like about three weeks ago, me and few friends went back to a few female students flat after a club. I'm chatting to one girl and she was one extravert and she just said at around 6am do u want to share a bed with me? or do u want to use the sofa. Now, im a complete immoralist when it comes to sex and would have loved to have slept with her. But, with a 41/2 inch penis and based on past experiences it would have been more pain than pleasure so i made my excuses and left. It just saps the lilfe out of you. perhaps its pride, guilt i knew she was purely after sex and my size would have been a disappointment everyone likes a positive reaction, wasnt sure i'd get one. Suppose, its just embrassment, humilation, ridicule. its now turned into a fear and phobia when it comes to sex in all honesty. i just look at my penis and just cringe its not much longer than my little finger and i feel a little boy and exposed when nude. Its hard to expalin the emotions its like anxiety. I was quite naive when i was younger and dind't realise how small i was; i was soon made aware of it though. everyone seeks pleasure and sex causes more pain than pleasure psychologically. I was at my unhappiness at times when i was sexually active had some real bad experiences, gossiping and stuff. Like in college i was getting it on with a girl and she put her hands down my pants, looked at my funny and rolled over and went to sleep(gutted)following day she told everyone i was as small as her 7year old brother. Had groups of ppl laughing at me; nicknamed 'no * * * *' some friends lost respect for me and saw me as a joke. Atm, im not happy being single, but im more contented and don't want to go through all that emotional heartache again. Only had one decent experience and even that ended in her finishing with me due to not being able to 'feel anythign during intercourse' i really liked the girl and it took me months to overcome it; she did make an effort aswell just didn't happen. So that kind of sums up why i wont seek a relationship. Im sure some women would be ok about it, but they r a minority. its the gossiping thats hard aswell, you sleep with one girl next thing everyone knows your tiny doesnt do much for your pride, self esteem. its a fine line, if i was around 6inches or even say large my life would be great and totally different amazing really. I'd be sexuallly confident and i'd live life to the maximum and love it atm my quite timid around women. Atm, im so restricted its unbelieveable, i'd love to have one night stands but my only hope is a long term relationship. but the woman i've meet in recent years just seen me as a sex object. sorry for the long post; hard for my illiterature skills to explain just feels like missed out on so much and its beyond my control and im going to continue to miss out. Oh well, the world aint forgiving adn you have to deal with unfortunate circumstances the best you can.

btw, its not so much about size generally its about society in general and how can you have relationships with people when so many of them are so self-centred and selfish. For the women, its comparable to say you being 30stone and men finding you repusive and totally unattractive as weight does matter. Very few men find fat women attactive, but at least fat women have HOPE which is so important; most of them can lose the weight. There is no hope for men who are abnormally small and thats the underlining problem. Its fate its not even our fault and yet we have to suffer with it for life and the prejudices towards us. Sex and relationships are psychologically vital for happiness and atm i aint really interested in seeking them an d havent been since my last g/f five years ago, who blew me out saying sex was important to her and although she enjoys hte rest of the relationship she really needs good sex, which was fair enough. Actually, i'm reasonably chilled about my 4incher and 1/12 faccid willy. I dont really worry about it as its beyond my control and thats what the other guys should take into account. Its not us which have the problem but society and the messed up world. I can actually laugh about it now and just look at how pathetic and dumb some people are , like those talking on G4 they sound so lame. its honesty, but i couldn't attack a women adn call them sexually inadequate if they had some disfigurement of the vagina its all about being a decent person and have some morals. Treating other people like u'd like to be treated which many people have forgotten these days. its all me, me, me, culture. aha lets see if we can hit 200post on this topic. Thats if i don't get banned in the mean time only reason im writing this bull(can i say bull without getting warning, sorry if ive offended anyone) as myabe i can educate a girl to at least be able to empathise with guy if they do date one who is very small; but it seems beyond some women who post on here.

and why was sex and the city so successful? because people can relate and empathise with the cast on the show and many women could understand what carry was going through when she found out, her boyfriend was tiny and the sex was going to be lousy like yourself n83. It was a relationship breaker the guy was humilated and made out to be sexually inadequate. Men, with small penises llike myself are watching this and thinking i bet my girlfriends think that when they see my tiny willy and i've had that from experience. What could be much worse than that. Every relationship you enter knowing that when you undress the women is going to be absolutely gutted about it and how you'd love to have a healthy sex life like any other man, but its been taken away.

jsut read up? lol doesn't being beautiful help you in being confident? its much easier to be confident if you've got many good qualities that u've been made aware of. In my above example, say the short, ugly, tiny d*icked was supremely confident. If he approached any of you women, you'd probably find him quite amusing, laughable and foolish for being so confident with no decent appearance qualities. Hey, baby come back to my place, ill show you a good time(high confidence) you'd probably just burst out laughing. The good looking guy could maybe pull it off, if he wasn't quite as cheesy good looks, high IQ, nice body, status = confidence you don;t get confidence from within yourself, the lion share is the external world. If every person u approached laughed in your face, wouuld you have any confidence? nope. Just look at your our life, your find your confident in some areas and not in others. You might be a straight A student and very confident academically. yet have no confidence when it comes to your love life because u get no positive reinforcement and perhaps ur ugly, overweight and u feel inadequate etc.

Lets be realistic, being beautiful can't secure happiness but its certainly going to help. Just a simply comparison i like these; Two guys; one very attractive, tall, well endowned and the other is 5ft 2in, very ugly, no front teeth with a tiny * * * *. Who, is more likely to be happier. A guy having no problems pulling angelia jolies type women, or the other guy being replused by women. It takes extremes to realise that beauty is linked towards happiness, but it isn't beauty alone. Other factors like personality, IQ have to be taken into consideration. But, beauty helps alot even your outlook wether your a pessimist or optismist.

not that im an expert =) but plenty of lube and foreplay and slowly get her to accommodate your large member. Say start off with one finger, then two and three. Then hopefully, u might achieve some success. I've read that when a women can't take a penis, its mostly psychology and donw to nerves. Perhaps, she should seek a doctor for some advice or search the internet. Good luck!!1.

lol seems odd hes telling chicks he's got a big * * * *. Normally, its done in more indirect methods but as many women love a sex with large men it seems like a good tactic. Better still, just strip off and run naked through ur college. when having sex just do the 7x table to take ur mind off it tip; just don't say it out loud - 7x7 =49

Very basic advice, but i'd just email saying its a shame he hasn't been in touch and although the relationship has mostly be in a sexual nature you'd like to get to know who better and ask wether he fancies hooking up for a drink. Just get straight to the point if he doesn't reply, he doesnt see you as anything more than a sex buddy. Or he might just go for the drink with the inclination of getting into ur knickers that night. Still, its diffcult to really know a guy's motives. Many of my friends, just tell the women what they want to here but, u should know his character better than us. if he's young and playing hte field i can't see him looking for a relationship but who knows. When guys are young and attractive they are very difficult to pin down as i've noticed with my friends, so i wouldn't look into a really serious relationship- more friendship, sexual type one.

no other body part influences penis size, perhaps race does, almost impossible to find out though. Its like saying if a girl has large hands, big nose, big feet she will HAVE large breasts.

i watched a program of hung men few months ago. One guy said he was getting alot of sex purely based on his penis size, as women were curious and i suppose they wanted to feel the difference. Also, i used to know this guy from the local pub and one new years eve he stripped off pissed and he was seriously massive. The women must have discussed it and because of it, he started sleeping with many women and he was no looker. So, showing you * * * * is a good tactic. Just get some numbing condoms or masturbate before you have sex. Just enjoy though, uve been blessed and make the most it bro. Its all mental even try and take your mind of the sex and just focus on keep an erection just keep the excitement down.

You get confidence from the environment though and women are central to that confidence and are a motivation to improve yourself and to be seen in a more positive light. It some respects, having a very small penis you are defeated before you even start. you value your different qualities and a reasonable sized penis is of high importance. No matter how successful ur many women will be disinterested in a relationship with a guy with a very small * * * *. As you can't change it, u can become quite demoralised and it can effect other areas of your life. why do ppl want to be successful in life? for money, wealth but for what other reasons. Money, wealth, fame, influence are all based on status so ppl respect you and basically love you. Whats the point, of being really successful if the majority of women will reject you once they've seen your * * * * and realise it won't satisfy them. People, only need a certain amount of money to survive you hit a certain point where the extra money won't make you any happier. But, ppl still want more because of the power that goes with the territory and the women. Why drive a nice sport car? fundamentally because it impresses ppl not because its a nice drive. I see sex as an end for men and the means of achieving it are all irrelevant if you get blown out at the first hurdle humiliated, ridiculed based on something you can't change. carl

she comes first? thats a knew one to me heh Good way of perceiving it i suppose, give her more satisfaction-keep her satisfied she its more likely to stay with you longer. But, primarly its all about ur own satisfaction, u just deceive yourself to believe its about the girl's. Thats why some men are bad lovers, they don't care enough if the girl leaves them, maybe thats his problem. or he could care too much and shoot his load too early. Who knows? maybe he's just bad Like do women actually enjoying giving head? if you just look at the act itself, bad taste in the mouth etc. they love it because of the power over the man's feelings, giving him satisfaction, control and perhaps holding onto him. Its all power and selfishness you just never want to admit it to urself, as it isnt very nice. Aka why women write topics saying their boyfriends got a small * * * * and they might leave him- i cant get NO satisfaction!!! I love the way ppl say he's a lover is selfish, arent we all jsut selfish to the core. Just some do unselfish acts, because it makes them happy and gives them a nice feelings or even gets them away from guilt, sin.

impossible to judge wether blacks are bigger or not. i just think those stats are wrong. Arent those results from self measurement and also if a survey asked if they could measure your would a guy volunteer if he was really small. I think not. Average size is probably more around 5.5" not 6.4" i don't even get onto the modest scale of 5.6" perhaps they need a freak box of 4"s funny stuff.

Your love making is probably fine. eheh your just have to accept that alot of ppl are cruel and take great satisfaction out of hurting another persons feelings. You know how they pick the sorest spot and really enjoy rubbing the salt in.

Most of the things ur describing are transcendent qualities like loser, hate, boring its your decision to be that way. You could easily change those qualities which some effort. I'm convinced you aint anyhow, just your ain't seeing clearly like through contacts too concave or too convex. Very few things are factual about you, few things define you as a person. Anyhow, i've never really let people's opinions define me as a person, or taken too much self identity off them. I know from within, the sort of person i am - if i approached a girl and she told me to ' * * * * off you loser' for me she's the one with the problem. i approached her in a friendly manner and she was rude in return- my self esteem isn't dented too badly. Or as socrates once said when a passer by asked him when observing him in the market square 'don't you worry about being called names'? Why? Do you think i should resent it if an * * * had kick me?" replied socrates. Basically, u assess the comments off ppl and decide URSELF wether they are right or wrong- if they are untrue u can just laugh the insults off with a shrug of the shoulders. Or as Nietzsche would probably say- turning the tables to give urself a favourable self esteem or more technically a transevaluation of values, we all do it, just some are better at it, than others.

I'm quite sexually frustrated atm. I think being a virgin at 18 isn't too bad anyway bro. Thinking about it, a girl should be previledged, honoured that you waited to gave ur virginity to her, plus it will probably be quite empowering for her. Just say im a virgin, because i've been waiting for the right girl to come along. She should think 'ahh thats sweet' why put pressure on urself to lose ur virginity who cares what other ppl do, wouldn't compare ur life to ur friends. I'd prefer to go out with a girl who is a virgin, slightly off putting when you know about 20guys have been there before you, doesn't make it very special its natural to feel frustrated though because sex is a drive you can't control and its like a build up of pressure that needs to be released and without the release u can end up feeling really frustrated, angry, depressed over time. Sublimating with masturbation isn't really the same, its a poor subtitute. I think the prostitute is a REAL bad option, whose to say after seeing the prostitute you meet a really special girl a few months later, u'd be gutted you hadn't waited. Plus, u can't get that much experience from nailing just one prostitute. If you've got the confidence work on ur pulling techniques, plently of eye-contact, smiling and then just talk bs- they either like you or they don't. It used to work for me confidence is the key, its easier for some ppl to pull off; depending how how desirable you see urself to the opposite sex.