Carl5000

I think he's referring to this post^^ Nothing wrong with high self esteem, confidence and some arrogance and superiority - its all good for happiness and power. The irony is jadedstar said that maybe my personality is the problem, not my size. Yet, your inner arrogance hasn't effected ur success in the dating field -) btw jaded, i know it was only a suggestion. Yet my personality seems more than adequate. I'm very popular and many women still show an interest in me, even if i am somewhat arrogant at times. Btw, this is an old topic and this guy isn't even part of n83's life anymore, its like a year old. My problem now is my zero confidence and esteem sexually which is linked into my personality and these things don't grow on trees, you get them from the environment. Just as Bigskye has done with having a good technique, being constantly told 'bigger is better' and he's obviously acquired some hubris and uber confidence, which i do envy. Its all good..... without question, he believes he's way more desirable than smaller men, he's in demand and he's probably right.

Just because i've very small, i've never thought the women who rejected me using some tact were superficial or shallow. What i had problems with, was the cruelty and the power dynamics - i suppose ppl like to elevate themselves above another human being for esteem and a sick pleasure - i think its a natural instinct and thereforeeee neutral and fine about it these days. Not that i have much say in the matter -) We are all shallow, selfish and all want self-satisfaction - that's what all relationships are about. You find that out quickly when your the undesired. You don't see much altruism in relationships, only if the other person has many good features and you really want to hold onto them, then u might start to believe that ppl can be unselfish. We do what we want, when we want and always towards our own aims, goals and ambitions. Lets just accept that were all shallow, superficial, materialistic and self centred as its human nature. We can only care about ourselves at a deep level. If your partner doesn't meet your goals, standards then ur going to look elsewhere. I'm just as shallow, superficial as the next person and want to date gorgeous, intelligent, slim and sexy women and probably wouldn't look twice at an overweight women, unless i got to know her first. In my situation, i do wish this christian thought of selfless, unconditional love applied it would make the world a happier place - although, it couldn't be further from the truth. Your just a vehicle to ther other person's happiness, joy and pleasure and thereforeeee its fully conditional. Whose gonig to have more joy with women in this example. A 5ft 5in, Woody Allen with a great personality or a tall, hunky brad pitt with a python. Most women would go for the latter guy, maybe when they mature and want to settle down, they'll put the soul of the person first. Its still dubious though. Most of life is just a lottery of genetics and if you get the back end you just have to accept it and move on. A couple of my friends, back this up aswell. Physically very appealing, yet not the best personalites and have 10x more success with women. Even, if i wanted children, i think i'll skip it and just let the hilter or platonic ideals of higher types reproduce and create more successful overspring. I don't mind some noble eugenics, not of the hitler sort, bad example. For me, its not shallow or superficial but just part of the unconscious and of being human. I would only say women are shallow, superficial, empty, pathetic with no depth for being size hungry - to create some guilt and ill feeling within them, so they might cut small men like myself, some slack and be more reluctant to finish with them. Just as the weak, moan when they are cheated on and say your evil, wicked and a terrible man all in their own self interest and to hopefully stop the man cheating on them in the future. Who says cheating is wrong? only the weak, as with most of morality it comes from fear. Most relationships are about a power struggle, if you dig deep within the coal mine. Everyone has a perspective to benefit their personal self interest, pleasure and happiness. I think ppl's beliefs, morality, motivations are more complex than many of us really believe... always something hidden behind these mere appearances, a duality. Still even with a little willy, i'm all for women seeking out the larger member if that's what they require for maximum sexual pleasure. I'd do the same in their shoes.

Good attitude jay, jay. I'm looking towards that line of thought -)

I met many self centered women llike this in my time, they were a nightmare and seriously high maintenance. Me, me, me and didn't give a crap about my feelings. I'll admit that this type of cruel attitude used to bug me ahah RUN GIRL RUN like your some freak show. Still - does a bit now. I c it as an indirect insult. Like if your overweight and some guy next to u says.. omg fat women are so laughable and ugly etc I had some amazing comments off women like this, really nasty i.e "god, i can't feel anything" "wow, that is the smallest i've ever seen" quite funny in hindsight. You might say, that i shouldn't have gone for one night stands and wasted their time.. thats the exact point. A big willy and ur totally free and no women will reject u down to size.. unless ur seriously large(no guy would complain about that.. just goto link removed and listen to them braggin, some even buzz out of hurting women.the ultimate ego and power boast for them.. pretty sick though). It must be good for the male ego being large, for ur esteem and confidence and later arrogance - i aint talking so large u hurt women btw -). I find alot of my hung friends are very arrogant.. which is good in a way..well more large big egos, due to all the loving, positive reinforcements from environment size, size, size. What did i read one guy say.. on link removed who was around 11inches.. "i love hitting their cervix really hard with the first few thrusts. I've had many women tell me to stop during sex and i love it. It must be the biggest ego boast for any man" That tells u alot -) aah through my resentment of women like brenda who tried to make my life hell - i hope she bumps into this guy aahh RUN GIRL RUN lol. Nah, i'm totally joking - i hope she doesn't.. i ain't taht bitter and twisted.

I don't have a problem with women having a preference. Its just annoys when women try to compare to the pressure they are under inrelation to their breats size, weight when there is no real comparison. As the penis has a functionality directly related to sexual pleasure - not just mere appearances. I have many imperfections like women, yet nothing can compare to the insecurity of having an abnormally small * * * *. Btw n83, nice to see you -) but kzkz went for surgery not because he's weak, pitiful etc and needed to work on this own self - but if he's experienced women like urselfs, where they could'nt feel anything and thereforeeee he got rejected.. won't he feel inadequate, useless and not fully human, i know i did. Plus it takes away alot of pleasure, fun, confidence and i even found it hard to find sex enjoyable, it was more an embrassment towards then end. You get confidence, esteem from the environment, not from within. You miss out on relationships, sex and almost everything.. hey hey it was my decision. Nothing worse than finding out that the girl you really like and u can't satisfy her like other men, purely down to genetics. It puts alot of self doubt in ur mind, why stay with me, when she could get a normal size one etc plus you know in ur heart, that sex is on of the prime motivations for a relationship..so ur up * * * * creek ahhah. I'm a prime example of how it can effect ur esteem and confidence.. i gave up on relationships around seven yrs ago -) I mean breast size - i saw a survery 52% preferred larger and 48%smaller. I'll admit that women's weight is important as probably 98% of men prefer a smaller women. You tell me, how many women prefer a 4.5" over a 6" plus one? i never found one girl and i dated quite a few in my younger yrs. Plus if a guy prefers teh opposite chest size to his gf, its easy to overcome it - it doesn't really effect the sex life or relationship at all - never did for me. Yet if a girl can't feel anything during sex.. then jeeezz how can u compare? it causes loads of tensions and usually it ends in being dumped. A girl is obviously more likely to stay with a man who can satisfy her sexually.. that's what many girls are only after and myself at times -) I think some of u ladies are way off the mark.

hahah freaking hell, didn't you consider that men with four inch * * * *s might read that? well cheers and have a nice day -) i admire you honesty, like i haven't heard it enough. I was right to give up on relationships -) RUN GIRL RUN - give me the big * * * *. I dated too many of these women. They loved the cruelty and loved to ridicule and humilate -) they really enjoyed pushing the knife and giving it a good twist eheh. God, no humility didn't you read the post above you? because of women like you - kzkz goes for surgery as he felt depressed, lonely and had low self esteem. Freaking hell, some ppl... maybe they just don't think. But for me, it runs deeper than that -) sick......

Well 'dont understand something' isn't the correct phasing, i just can't get my head around relationships ) thats what i meant. The quote was just a fun thing and its more in relation to humanity being selfish and full of egotism. Look in all honestly i'm just being stupid and it comes from an insecurity, i just find it absurd how you can' only be loved, in terms of what u give you partner which is a means. But, a two way one at that, so both parties benefit. I'm just bitter and it comes out in some posts that i don't have much to offer women. Like in this case, the girl asking him to give up his musical aspirations because she wants a serious relationship it get my back up ) then again , i can see it from her perspective. I've had this sort of crap from EVERY girl i've dated always complaining that their needs aren't being met, cheating, i should be earning more money. Thats part of life though, btw this isn't an attack on women.. men are no better were all pretty neutral.

I haven't read it all, i just scanned over it. Sorry -) Although people never change very much over a lifetime.. so usually once a cheater ALWAYS a cheater. Two good friends of mine have multiply relationships and one doesn't cheat in any relationships i've known of, he's very consistent in his behavour. My other friend has been a womansier since around sixteen yrs old, he recently left his girlfriend of eight years for a younger model.. then cheated on his new girlfriend very recently. He's been a serial cheat all his life and i don't think any of the women found out. He was just clever about it =) my father was an adulterer all his life aswell. I believe you can pick up signs if you bf/gf is going to cheat - i.e morality are they into causal sex, how many previous partners have they had? if 20plus more likely to cheat, or dump u. Also self esteem is another one.. although its questionable. If your partner is very attractive, good in the bedroom and has a high level of esteem i'd imagine it would be difficult for them to keep it in their pants. I've got low self esteem and i doubt i'd cheat, i'd appreciate having a decent girlfriend ) my buddy whose super confident - well hung, good looking, tall and totally comfortable around women.. finds it very difficult to turn them down. If i was born with those genetics, i'd probably be the same. Living it to the max - maybe even cheating like he does, who knows =) If you don't want a guy to cheat be more selective over your men, look for the shy, more timid, although maybe less exciting they'd probably be more loyal - its a catch 22. Anyways, with humans being an adaptation of apes and other animals we aren't made to be in monogamist relationships it isn't part of the natural order of the nature. How many ppl have one sexual partner over a lifetime? it takes some mental strength to remain loyal or a belief in religion and its 10 commandments. I'm in a favour of this culture atm, its a free for all fu*k festival and its teh way it should be..it brings us back to our natural, powerful animalistic roots and thats where our happiness lies. In the IT our powerful drives for sex and aggressive which is the dominate force of the psyche - the sick unconscious which we deny.

Sorry, i don't really understand this sh!t, i suppose its just social dawinism and competition amongst the species for the most desirable mate and tahts why most relationships fail. People always want too much and there's usually somebody better around teh corner. thereforeeee they should probably have their sexual fun until the boredom sets in and go their separate ways. She is certainly after something long-term, far into the horizon and they aren't suitable atm unless he becomes very rich from his musical pursuits. Then the the large house, security and children in the future become a reality. hah flower99, your like this quote; "FOR WOMEN, THE MAN IS THE MEANS, THE END IS ALWAYS THE CHILD" - NIETZSCHE

As its a perspective -) i agree with points 2,3 although part is 1 questionable, even though i remember lastwords took offence to me comparing my situation as the same -) It depends on what side of the fence ur on - if its a chemical imbalance then your right, they can't help it, although if its from irrational thought patterns then showing that other people are worse off, in a non-partonising way, can be successful. It works for when i suffer from self loathing and hatred and it allows me to realise that i should be grateful for what i have. This is a stab in the dark, i don't know exactly when andrews problem was, as i never read all his posts like urself. But, it seems to be that he felt alone, an outsider, alienated from the world and justifiable at 23 having never dated(or did he date once)?. So for me personally, the prior was his circumstances which caused the mental illness and trying to help him see more rationality was a noble thing. Although, what worked for him was a compassion and empathy different stokes for different folks. Your probably right, when your suicidal iirational thoughts r difficult to escape and what causes them is irrelevant if they can't see past the fog. I'll be honest, when your suicidal your emotions, thinking is completely mixed up. Although, anyone taking the time out, to try and help is a positive thing. I offended andy although it wasn't intentional, i was only trying to help him. He shouldn't have seen it as a negative, but a postive that i intially took the time out along with many other people. It didnt work for him, but it might help others - it certainly helped me and it was one of the reasons i got past the depression. I mean, since he's found love.. hes being doing better right? which partly shows it wasn't a chemical inbalance.. but his understandable thinking was fine. What i tried to point out is look i've been there.. i've been single for eights years, doubt i'll date again and i came through it? i don't see what the harm was in that or why he felt guilty. Our situations were similar and i'd been suicidal aswell - just one had come through it and the other was on teh way. sorry i how that makes sense.. im seriously rushing lol out in 2mins footy

Its simple, the main reason for suicide are OTHER PEOPLE and the more secondary factors r materalism, capitalism even the collapse of religion as we no longer have a spirituality or hero worship - which creates a nilhilistic society, as without god anything is permitable morality, rape, murder and life is meaningless - also darwins origins of species was a killer - human beings weren't created in the image of god, we came about from pond scum and we have no more intrinsic value within nature. Its mostly other people though - their hopelessness over never finding a mate, splitting up with their girlfriend, feeling unloved, family problems, a lack of trust. I agree, in a more rural environments they have a bonding through strive, closeness, love something which even marx describes, even heidegger felt humans were better off being engaged within tasks, for him that was agriculture, he hated the technological advancements as it caused alienation. I think sartre sumed it up well in his play last exit and the famous line 'HELL IS OTHER PEOPLE' or freud in his final book after fifty years of psychology said the worse type of pain isn't physical pain, not fate with its slings and arrows, the most pain is caused by OTHER PEOPLE who also take great satisfaction in causing it, although they'd never admit it to themselves.. Homo homini lupus - man is a wolf to man - freud

heh imperceptible and guys if you had an extra 2inches most women would love you 25% more. : joking aside, or how about an extra million in the bank, or 20 extra iq pts women are the measure of all things

nps imperceptible and i'm sorry for high jacking your topic with my insecurities. You've got a good heart and i hope things go well for u and your bf.

I always jump into the small penis threats, as its close to my heart. I have to say imperceptible i have alot of respect for standing by your man, even though, u have a lack of sensation during intercourse. Many women, pretty much dumped me directly to my face and other more classy women did so more indirectly. If i ever date again which is unlikely, its coming upto eight years being single and if i did i'd hope to meet a girl as understanding as urself. I didn't come accross many ) and it limits my fun.. an average, espeically large penis sized... i could sleep with anything with a pulse.. with a tiny one.. one night stands are certainly off limits, most relationships when they become sexual end also. Its like a 1in10 chance for me, well so it feels. The main problem for the last decade is sex is no longer any fun.. i feel anxious when ever i'm about to become intimate after so many bad experiences. I can't really elaborate on quietgirl suggests, they are excellent. I disagree, that size doesn't matter, its had a huge impact on my life and its actually destroyed it heh you have to laugh. Personally, its not just a disadvantage when having intercourse..but it certainly drains your ego, confidence and pride. I felt with some women who were more understanding it was look carl 'your penis is too small' your gonig to have work on the foreplay etc to make up for it. Otherwords, you only half a man to me. Well, thats how it felt and i gradulatly lost interest in women, relationships and sex. Sorry i'm of no help, i've given up ) but hopefully i can give you some perspectives from a male's point of view and it might help you deal with ur bfs little problem. Things to say and what not to say )

Nice post man, Life is mostly about individualism and being completely dependant on yourself. Your asking for trouble, putting all your happiness, goals, wants, needs into another person. Your partner, should assist your life not be the essense of it. Its just focusing on each day and being mentally tough. Man, i've got few friends, i've been single for 8yrs and it sucks. But, i pride myself on living through this life, i ain't going to be weak and look for the easy way out. I want to see it out until the end and i can take joy in the notion alone.....