Geno101

lol, yeah. I really appreciate every ones time. i'll see what happens. I'll TRY to come back and keep you guys posted... Its hard to say i'll be able to resist though. Lol. But, we may not have enough time anyway. i'm gonna find out though...

excellent, excellent advice... Tying to hold off is SO hard though because for one, she's SO DAMN SEXY and beautiful and all the fantasies we've shared over the past 11 months and what not.. its just...ahhh.. and i never know when i'll see her again, so sometimes i get impatient so i just.. initiate and we do stuff. and we're both touchy feely people at times, so... Jokingly we brush and touch and squeeze and tickle until we begin touchin specific places and turning each other on...

LOL. yeah. Well. I'm the type of person that gets off by pleasing someone else. just the sound of her moan or the movement of her body or the spead of her breaths, or the expressions on her face gets me going. When we'r ein the middle of this. she says thigns to me that she knows i fantisize about. I likes it when she calls me a certian thign and she moans it over and over and talks to me. She knows my fantasies. So recently began stroking me up and down and jus tplaying with it. She actually did LICK it once for like 3 seconds, and said "okay, is that good?" i laughed because i knew she didnt want to. but yeah. She follows instructions and i become the dominant male figure when we're doing the do. She listens to me and she does everyhting i say whcih also turns me on ('m not abusive or controlling thats just a form of role-playing)

extremely good advice. I was thinking that too. but its so hard to resist her and to even keep my hands off of her when i'm with her. she's so.... man oh man. I'm sure some of u guys know what i mean when i say that...

I actually graduated from highschool. She's in college now, and i think i'm gonna be picking her up from class today, and i wanted to try something which is kinda why i wanted to type this post NOW. lol. We talked on the phone before she went to class and she was acting extremely horny. Which makes me wanna try to do some stuff even more than intially..

LOL! Carpet. nahhh. The thing is, we usually dont have anywhere to go besaides my car, because her family is always home, no privacy, and my house....is liek privacy free.. Close Quaters. And she refuses to give me oral, because she doesnt like doing it. i could convince her, and i almost did, but she looked like she genuinly did not want to, so i just kissed her and told her it was okay.

Whats up everyone. some background = [i'm in a very odd-type relationship, but i dont mind. She's just getting out of a relationship (maybe two months ago) and when she first got out of the relationship, she was so distant from me that it hurt, because she was saying she wanted to avoid a "rebound" relationship and she needed time alone. So now, two months down the road, we have been talking every single day possible and hanging out and stuff. And it has grown into something like a 1/2 relationship, 1/2 friendship type thing. Where now, we have dry sex and oral sex and... "fingeR" sex and stuff. lol., but she DOES NOT want intercourse until marriage...] Now to the point. we've had dry sex and oral and stuff like that about 4 or 5 times in the past week or so, and i fear running out of ideas. Its not the point where its boring but i fear that it could approach that. I'm a very passionate guy, and i personally think i know how to touch a woman the right way because she goes wild with the slightest nip with my lips or the softest rub with my fingers, the softest kisses, she pants heavily and fast, and she squirms and shifts and moans just from slight touch. but, I can feel some of the passion draining. We last did something 2 days ago (sunday, September 3, 2006), and it wasnt as passionate as the first 2 or 3 times. Not a big change but there was one definitely. My normal routine is to talk into her ear to get her juices flowing, nibbling on her ear and slowly caressing the special area from outside her jeans. She goes crazy right there in my arms. Then i rub it and slowly give her instruction, like slowly undo her belt or her button and zipper for me or something or tell her where to touch herself. Or sometimes she cant take it anymore and she begins stripping before i tell her to, lol. (and thats when i drive her even more crazy by telling her to stop and wait for me to give her permission, and i make her beg for it ) anyway... i then rub it thorugh the panties (very slow, long process), eventually i go into the panties and i finger her, play with all the right things, the lips, as i like to call them, the clit, then i ease my way in.. Now. A few extra things i do is: I tell her to grind on me with just her panties on (she has orgasm'ed from that twice so far) and sometimes i eat her out (she orgasmd from that once) but beyond these things i honestly dont know what to do. I kiss her neck, i massage her breasts, and i lick her anywhere on her body. But sometimes i feel as if i'm gonna run out of things and the passion will die. and i'm DEAFLY afraid of that happening because encounters with her means so much. Does anyone have any ideas on keeping passion flowing or any new ideas or specific things i could say to her or... I dunno you guys throw them out at me, i'm all ears.

EXACTLY my thoughts. Thats the only time where i feel as if i'm safe from the pain. other than that, anyhting i do, i hurt. Once i laugh and begin having a good time, i forget temporarily. But as soon as the room gets silent or i get somewhere secluded, alone....theres that constant thought again, back to kick my * * *.

that post spoke straight to my soul. I feel the same way. The...terrible stomach feeling. and i often times feel like everyone is just not on my side. I cant do anyhting right. Dont want to watch tv, can barely eat, cant look at anything or do anything without being reminded of that person. Its just, a haunting torture. Lingering pain. I jsut dont know what to do about it all.

yeah, i agree. that is great. It reduces problems and small unnoticed annoyances. thats good.

yeah, you're right. she does. I dunno what to think anymore. I dunno what i should do. But, i'm gonna figure something out, because i have ample time to do that.

the thing with me is, what happens when you run out of things? ..how many letters can i send before you get sick of them? or how many times can i say i love you before you get tired of saying it. i drop my girl messages everyday. when she gets home its in her email or as an offline message on the Instant messenger. its like leaving her a small bit of our love story everyday. But i dont know what to do once i run out of things? do i cycle through techniques? or do i absolutely have to think of new ones or something? i can send letters, and emails, and messages, and say it over the telephone. but...how long can i keep that up before i run out of things. I can get creative, but right now i dont exavtly have an oppportunity to be creative around the hosue or anyhitng because we odnt live together and we rarely come around each other. what do you guys do? being that you're older than me.

point, once again, well taken....i have a lot of thinking and talking to do....we're gonna see how she reacts or what she thinks tomorrow. I'll be sure to let you guys know what she said, just to give you somewhat of an opportunity to see what type of person she is and to see your advices live in action. we'll see,

yeah i figured. I understnad what you're saying though. but, i dunno...even if i had talked to my girl all day, i'd still stay on the phone..we'd both stay on the phone, even in silence sometimes, no matter what we had to do the following morning. We just love the company of each other.

yes, i certianly feel as if i love her way more than she loves me. and i need sort of way to filter that. some way to...decrease that. or bring her lvoe for me to a greater level. but the thing is, i love her so much because she's like a new bodily limb for me. I've been feeling like i've been mising something and SHE came along and the fact that she;s so in tune with me and we have so much in common makes me that much more possesive of her and unwilling to let her go. because she has showed me feelings and emotions unkown to me before October 15th, 2005. But i havnt been giving the opportunity to show her my maximum level of physcial affection and the thing is, she loves me enough now to cheat on her first love, but she hasnt received even HALF my love yet, which is why i'm so confident in our relationship. I have things up my sleeve for her that will have her cheesing and crying (from joy) for days on in. She hasnt experience even half my love yet, nor have we had the pleasure of getting sexual pleasure from each other. I think me and her has a long road ahead of us which is why i'm so hestiant to throw this all away.

well, her bringing her friend could be a positive thing and you should probably say yes. because that means she's probably nervous and/or happy about going out with you and she may need a friend to acompany her and help keep her calm and cool for you. not in a bad way but because she could be so excited about it. And saying yes to the friend would show her you're willing to accept her and her world, you know? you're cool with her friends, and her. it shows a sign of consideration and kindness.

well it really depends on the man. because i have deprived myself of so much sleep to talk to my girl or call her back. sleep is uninteresting to me when i want to talk to her bad enough. Lol. Thats just the truth. if you would've texted ME and said that, i would've called you and talked anyway.

aha.....i feel for you...and you're right. I could do it, especially since you jsut opened my ignorant eyes to somethign far worse than my situation. i dunno, its just so hard for me because this is my first swing at love. and conveniently, she has had so much in common with me i'm afraid to take that risk and venture awya form her and not be able to find someone that matches, or outdoes her and not be able to find my way back to her. I believe me and her are so much alike because i truelly think my "best frined" foundna girl that was just like me and was attracted to her for that very reason. because he talks about not having me around anymore and he reminisces about the old days and i think he liked her so much because she was like me, which is why you have me and here as damn near perfect matches. it was sort of like...he brought her straight to me without knowing or trying. He isnt right for her at all, i know that.

yeah i hear you but i dont feel as if she's exactly toying with me. I think she just made bad decisions like you said and thoguht for the MOMENT and had sex, and then felt terrible enough to cry for me later. and she proved tha tby now restraining from ever letting it happen again. I've thought about moving onto other girls, but she's so in tune with me, and we're so much alike tha ti dont feel tha ti could be with another girl and not realize somethign major is missing. You know? we have so much in common. And insecurities i have about myself, works perfectly around he preferrences and personality. like i have a penis size insecurity and She DOES NOT care...at all. and a couple other things and she makes me comfrotable with them. while with her, i have talked to other girls in school or whatever, but they all seemed to fall short of her. the only reaosn i endure this is because she Also has plans on being with me, after she finds it in her to break up with him. because he's her first love.

hmmm. thats what i've been aiming towards. but being without her just doesnt feel natural after 8-12 hour phone conversations almost EVERYDAY. you know what i mean? I know i could do it, but i'm just scared of how its gonna have me feeling. I'm already a bit depressed, and its because of her, mostly.

well, i would say just stay spontaneous. Do things she wouldnt expect and let her know you miss her as much as she misses you from where you are. if its inf act true, let her know that you think about her everyday, you miss her very much and you wish she were there, or vise versa.

i'm WITH YOU. i know exactly what you mean sir. I have just posted about my girlfriend moments before joining this thread and i mentioned my girlfriend not exactly showing signs of suffering as i am. And i wish i could deminish my feelings like she's doing. But look at it this way. For what she has done, she will pay the cost, one way or another. You might have been the best thing to happen in her life, and sooner or later, if thats true, she will notice. She will see the difference between you and other men and just wont be able to find anyone to give her what she's feels she's misssing, no one to fill that void, because you will be the only person who can give it to her. She's gonna be searching forever if you did what you were supposed to do for her. Things will work themselves out whether you have anything to do with that or not. She WILL suffer without you, because 3 years of her life has your name all over it. She will remember you for as long as her life stretches, so you have a guranteed mark on her life. you know? you did what you had to do, now she will either embrace you, or make the mistake of her life and miss the boat...She will be miserable sooner or later when you're gone.

good quesiton. yeah, she's my first LOVE. once before i told a girl i loved her...but i was so young (about 13) that i didnt know AT ALL what it meant. when i told her, i was saying it like general love...and she reacted like "you do?? awww" and i....i was shocked at how she reacted because i didnt even mean it that seriously. It was just like...generally, i loved her. Like that. and i later realized what she THOUGHT i meant. but, that girl was my first girlfriend, officially and we only lasted a month because i had no idea how to show emotions or be a boyfriend. Thats when i was a freshmen in High school.

hmm....point well taken. the only reason i'm enduring this is because i have big plans for her and i. and i feel she's absolute wife material and i feel as if i'd endure anyhting to get her. because she amkes me more happy than most people without even trying, aside form the few thigns she does . But, her in my life makes me feel like a new man, and this is jsut from a PHONE relationship. We went out one time. And there were fireworks, but at the same time, hesitation and restraining due to guilt issues. but. i feel like i'm enduring hell now because theres VARIOUS rewards at the end of my road. But right NOW. I feel so miserable without her sometimes. i dont know what to do.