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aww, that really sucks how long have you been going out?

Okay, i just read the thread you reccomended, and I have to say that you are very intelligent. But in my case I was saying I don't fear rejection so I couldn't figure out what was wrong with me. Then i realized i truly do fear rejection, but not from a date, from a realtionship I could really seee working. I'm afraid to loose soemthing I never had. I also tend to give myself a panic attack whe I attempt to ask him out. One time I actually thought I said his name outloud to call him over so I oculd ask him, and I absoultluey froze and forgot what I needed to say (it turns out I never said anything outloud, but stood there with my mouth open for about a minute while he walked away).

Why can't he say something! lol, sorry me being difficult. Alrigth the guy think that it really wasn't that big of a deal, and the girls think that it was. He being a guy I would have to agree with you on that, but me being a girl, i have to speak in a generality here, we tend to blow up everything and, i especially, tend to overanalyze EVERYTHING! My brain is my curse..... just kidding, i swear i'm not full of myslef. And i am scared of missing my oppurtunity too......... ahh!

I'm sorry, but let me start off by saying "aww!" Typical girl thing to do, but never the less i will tryo to provide some useful information. IT is kind of geeky, but in the it's-cool-but-gekky kind of way (that's good) I can understand liking someone for a long time and never actually saying anything (going on 1 and a half years here, lol) but i think you are confusing like with love. You like her alot, and u've probably never felt this way about a girl before, and having such stong feeling towards one person can confuse you as to wether you liek or love her. Since it's an online thing, I wouldn't expect anythign to get too serious, but hey, stranger things have happened. Before you tell her you liker her, tell her the truth about your age and anythign else you may have stretched the truth on (if you want to start a relationship u cant start it on a lie or it will crumble) Just come out and say it! (i've been telling myself to do that for a long time, so please, lead by example) Possible answers are I feel the same way. i feel the same way but i don't want to get into anything serious/ online/ long distance, i would rather be friends. I don't see her saying anything harsher then that with the way you described her. But she might have been hinting that she didnt want to get into anything serious when she said that YOU shouldn't get tied down in high school. Some girls work in those subtle ways (i raise my hand). But just give it a go mate! You have to tell her how you feel or you'll never be able to move on, either with her or someone else. I hope that helps.

Oh, but to answer your question, i've never told him, nor him i

lol, oh gosh i know i should have but im just soo nervous and hes shy so he wouldnt do that i think he might know just like i think he does because i always catch him staring at me or looking at me and when i talk to him he looks right into my eyes...... but i get so upset thinking about him yelling at those girls! everytime i want to yell..uhhh and its actually been over one and a halfs year (some say that's cute, i am personally starting to think it's sad)

i'll do it for you if you do it for me

omg, thank you for answering (sorry for the length again) the ask him out thing made me laugh because thats what half the school has been telling me for the past 1 and a half years, and coming from a complete stranger, that makes me really think i should (i really dont know why...) oh, by the way, im usually quite cheerful and not at all emo, but this weekend just sucks!

P.S. does anyone mind advising me on my dilema? (still posted on the main page) Thanks, and once again, remember to breathe.

I agree If either of you have issues with one another, you need to work throught htem seperatley first and then together. It's hard to see now through the tears, but once they're gone the world will be clear (that thought of mine will be more clear in the morning)

What do you mean you were too protective? How did you treat him badly?

Summary of below: I like guy for 1 and 1/2 years + all friends think he likes me always soo nice to me yells out that these two girls are hot (completley out of his character) my friends think what the hell his friends think what the hell i think what the hell and cry i wonder how much he could hurt me if we actually go out i wonder what the hell again and try not to cry i wonder if its worth it i start to cry because i don't know why (i like him so much) Long story short (or not, we will see) this guy i've liked for over a year and a half (we talk with his other friends every day, but i dont actually hang out with him) was talking the other day and all of a sudden yelled ur hot to these two girls crossing the street. This shcoked me because he is usually such a shy guy, but he has been acting weird the last couple of days (and i know he doesnt like the girls because he didnt know who they were). It was just so out of character for him. like so extremley out of character! (i apologize for the previous "like") my friends could have sworn he felt the same way about me, even his best friend said i should ask him out (we're pretty good friends too). He would always deny how other girls (even teh ones i knew were pretty) were pretty when i was around and when his friends were going on about it, but the last couple of days he's been acting so weird. Some of my friends said that he was trying to make me jealious, but that just doesnt sound like him. The others didn't know why the hell he would do that and were jsut as confused as i am. One of my guy friends who's a little older and mature said that he was probably just showing off to his friends or that maybe he was stressed out (exam time right now) and just acting out. It was just so unlike him! I still can't believe he did that. Even his best friends was in shock. I don't know if he was trying to seem more outgoing or macho or if it was his twisted way of trying to impress me but, again, what the hell! Not like him at all! I don't know what's going on. He made me so mad that I had to fight back tears in front of them though none of them noticed because i hid it very well. I sort of lost it wheni walked away though. But if he can hurt me this much when we've never even gone out, then how much could he hurt me if we did. I just don't know if it's worth it. All of my friends don't know what the hell is up with him. HE WOULD NEVER DO THAT! HIS BEST FRIENDS SINCE FOREVER THINKS SO! Even my good friend who has been reserving her opinion ws shocked and came right out and said she though he was really into me, but had no clue why he would do this. I just don't know.................. (sorry for the length)

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She doesn't want to make either of you feel uncomfortable infront of the other if she likes one of you more. But if she was acting the same around the both of you then she could just be a big flirt (i'm not calling her a * * * * though). Make sure you don't lead the other friend on by naking her think one of you likes her because she could get hurt that way. Alos, don't lket a girl come between the two fo you, because that's the most stupid way to end a friendship (believe me, but replace guy with girl)

I would say yes, you're moving way too fast. Please don't think i'm making fun of you here, because i'm not, but it seems as if you're trying to make up for what you think you should have been doing in the past. It's almost like now that you're finally with someone you like and feeling everything for the first time, you're getting a bit greedy and wanting to experience everything and anything as quickly as you can. You might be afraid to loose such a good thing. I think you have to ask yourself if you're doing this becasue you really like and respect her, or because she is the first girl that showed interest (again, i'm really not trying to insult you). I would say it is possible that you were waiting for the right girl, but since you are acting the way you are, it really doesn't appear that you are. But for all i know this could be your way of showing you care. You're new at this, and you could think that this is the way u care, by becoming really intimate really quickly. I also have to tell you that you were right, you are supposed to take things slowly (e.g a peck on the cheek the first night and so on). That's what you're supposed to do with a girl you really like and respect. As for the thing you said about not being so sure if she really is as innocent as she appears, I have only one question for you. If you're moving this quickly, do you really want to become intimate withg a girl that's lying to you? I'm sorry to tell you that there is no way a good little Christian girl practically jumps you the second night, especially if you were as close as you said and if she knows your history. She should have been gentle and let things progress slowly. I hope this helps a bit. (p.s. This is my first time writing on this thing and I'm jsut wondering if i'm any good. i only signed on because i wanted advice about this guy but i ended up giving adivce... funny, that karma)