destinyshine

i think you are very right.. but u know... thats how i am 2 years ago too... anyway, thank you for giving me advises ^^ i will keep the progress informed

yes.. i will ask her again i asked her if she is vegetarian when i was asking her to go to BBQ or not (i havent ask her again yet) she is not vegetarain, she just dont like BBQ stuff at that time, she WAS a little between not going or going, she is like well.. umm.. hmm.. maybe not... while her best friend is next to her trying to get her to go to... so.. i will ask her again on monday! my friend told me something really important - library really isnt a good place for asking this kind of stuff! so.. maybe i will wait until she is going to class from library then i ask her on the way, since our class is perfectly in same direction. i probably would ask her.. "hey.. you dont have to eat those BBQ stuff if u dont want to.. just have fun you know? ever since u been to USA i bet u havent have some fun like this, why dont you come and social a little with me and my friends? you can also bring your roommate to come if you want to" and maybe add on if u come u would make me and my guests really happy if she dont want to come still... then i will just let it go for this one because some how, i dont feel like its because she dislike me and dont want to come. because me and my some adult online friends talk about it, there are couple points that points out my image in her head isnt so bad: 1. she COULD've do homework at some other classroom, but she now do hw in library everyday because i told her we always hang out in library before (this one could really just be coinsident) 2. she always sit directly at the opposite of the table of where i am sitting - which u can just saw each other when u get ur head up 3. before i was gonna ask her if she want to come to the BBQ, i was thinking about ask her after i finished organizing everything, but then my friend thought i'm embarrassed so he said he is going to ask her for me while i try to tel him to stop. they (the girl and her roommate) saw this argument and her roommate just said: you better be the one who come ask her that (me) because your image is better in her ( i dont know how to translate this well since its in chinese @@ but u should get the point) i dont know.. maybe she is just shy or afraid to trust me since we only know each other for like a month?

ya.. i been thinking about it.. so i decided to make a BBQ event on next saturday with my friends and her. i orginzed stuff but today i asked her if she wanna come that she said: sorry... i dont really like to eat BBQ stuff... although her only friend were trying to like, "u sure u dont wanna go?" i was a little down about it but that time i said thats fine. I then asked my friend maybe i shoudl ask her again, he told me we should give her some time and ask her again on wednesday do you guys think its a good idea?

now i thought about it i start feeling that to her i am probably like a weird boy who just came in to the library everyday and walk up to her and say something boring for 5 minute , froze, and walk away god..

i asked one of my best friend about this... he told me: sure, that could be a good idea. but first before you do that, you got to ask your self are you cabable of buying her lunch, is she the kind of girl that would accept such a semi-date kind of thing so early? suddenly i think he is reallly right. i only met her for like... 2 weeks? and only talked like 5-6 times and each of them is only like 5 min because i just blank out! i nervous and worried too much.. i dont want to rush anything.. or scares her off.. (specially scaring her off, i really dont want that happen @@) so.. what is you guys's opinion on this?

hmm.. that sounds really good idea, but it came with couple problem... 1. I dont think they ever gonna finish studying, they always come in and homework/study until bell ring 2. if i ask her, her friend will problem wanna come too (manner stuff... u just cant drag someone's friend away and left that person alone) and... how do you put it.. she REALLY isnt the TYPE of the girl that i wanna get in to anything with her, not even all my friend want to. 3. my friend is POOR like hell =-= one of them (we call this guy "pervert" because he is such a player he always go to different people's house at night cuz he have no place to live, he messed up his house and too lazy to clean it) have NO money at all... they possiably have NO way to buy lunch... @@ they will probably follow us and pretend drooling over food and fooling around..................................................................... it would be so nice if i can spend some time alone with her, and with stuff that i can actually say which can just came out of my mind... a frozen atmosphere is really what always what happen to me, which so far i am doing a pretty good job avoiding it while talking to that girl

I am 17, a senior on HS, and I really havent have any love experience until resently, there is this new freshman chinese girl (i am chinese too, been only living in USA for 4 years) came to our school... my first instinct is "wow, she really could be the one" even though I am a shy guy, I just go up without thinking and started talking to her... it was a pretty nice chat. After that day, days after days I found her in school sometimes and talk a little to her. JUST alittle. why? because I got so nervous and my mind just blank out.. she is a very shy girl too. couple days ago i told her she can hang around in the library with us (well of course what i really wanted is to hang out with ME) so.. about since 3 days ago she starting to show up in the library with her ONLY friend (since her english is not really well, she only have this chinese girl roommate girl as friend, who always do stuff with her in school) They just walk in. find a table to sit down (always the table next to the table me and my friend are sitting in) and start doing homework together... my instinct tell me, its not the time to be shy! you gotta go talk to her! So.. i walk to her.. and start talking to her with the topic i been thinking every night that I can talk to her.. then after like 5 minute... blank out again.. one of my adult friend from online said i should make a excuse and leave for like 5 minute to calm my self down, find a topic and come back.. but.. its just blank blank blank!! when i go back... all my friend on the other table all came and start fooling around... acting like idiots... and they just sits down at the table where that girl i like is! The My friends part, i can tell them to stay away. But now the problem is... 1. blanking mind... 2. she is doing homework with her friend... do you know what i mean? it is really hard to... chat with her while she is doing homework.. i mean.. I feel like she is answering my question... not to start a chat... and that makes me feel like i'm disturbing her studying.. my adult friend also told me i can ask her what she is interested in... like "what book you like?" (she like book) "what do you like to do?" favorite stuffs.. etc.. but I just feel like, that is something you ask after you know someone more, and got more into a chat..... can anyone help? btw, I dont know how american dating works.. but in chinese teen culture.. its usually saw a girl -> talk to her ->know her more ->friend -> do stuff together -> confess -> girl friend

well... like some people know me before from previous post, i am kind of person that try to get a rl relationship from online (onlien bf/gf first, and maybe rl later) I met this girl she is from canada and.... she look exactly like the girl in my dream... i really liked her and i met her from a online game called Talesweaver. i knew her for about 2 weeks now and... now she is playing another game called Priston Tales. Well.. even i dont like it but because i wanna get near her i start playing it too.. I play really hard just try to catch up to her.. but... she have to say no to most of the stuff iasked.. here is a conversation: me i finally can level with u now wanna level togehter? her its ok me her canot heal me, you cant tank me me i can kill stuff for u so u can level faster her can kill stuff too doesn't this kind of obvious that everyday right when she go on i'm already there waiting for her and say hi to her excitly, and i always try to make up topic just to talk to her...? I really dont know what to do... and i really dont know what she is thinking, can someone that have experience please help me...? its been troubling me really bad these couple days...

well... i already love the girl i met online which is what i'm talking about, i dont want to have real life relation cuz i dont like any girl in my school.. so anybody can help me plz >.

i'm 16.. she is 14... i like online love.. i dont want love to affact my real life till like college lol. but i really love her, i know i'm crazy T-T

well hi again... i had always come here when i have trouble with my love problem... after i got rejected by my ex online gf to come back to me, i was very depressed. then when i was playing the online game "ragnarok online", i met a girl in my guild, and she was kind of depressed too, she talks to me alot, so we start playing game together, and one day i told her i love her. She said she love me too, but she think she is not ready yet, but since she really love me we can act as boyfriend and girlfriend without being in a couple. So i guess its the best, i get to talk to her and tell her i love her and she do the same. But lately she told me that one of the reason that she dont want us to be couple is, she dont wanna hurt other people. because she love alot of other people but alot of them dont even know or some of them just being mean to her. She said she is thinking about it and trying to elimate as many people as she can, maybe only me and her because thats what she want, only 1 on 1. Even i kind of got hurt by this.. i still tell her that i will give her as much time as i can to let her think about her feeling and when she is ready she can tell me and we can finally be a real couple. guys did i do a wrong choice..? I mean, do u count this as cheating..? if i do this, is she gonna take advantage and countiunesly love so many people, or she is really gonna be with only me at the end? She said She really love me alot... she think i'm different then the others becasue when she told people she is depressed and she should just go die, other people always ask her to get help, but i'm the only one saying i wanna share her pain and help her.... Guys... I really, really love her, i love her more then anything i ever loved.. I am ready to give anything for her... but there is always a scary chill on my back when i think about it... how if she choose the other people instead of me? or.. how if she is being a couple with so many people? (she never tell anybody lets be a couple though even me) I mean i really trust her, but i just still have that scary feeling, what should i do >

sometimes i felt that she is too young to understand how i feel about her u_u (i just turn 16 and she is 14)

how old are u? i think that might help the question

sigh i want a friend anyway u_u just dumped and i felt so bad No i live in USA, California CA/M/16

i guess i can ur friend.. just not to meet in real life though

how about me??? how can i make this awful feeling disappear? everytime i saw her in the game, it renew my wound, i dont know wtf should i do... >_

ya, so like the same online gf i had mentioned before, she made her choice, she wanna broke up with me, but she want me to be her "Closest best friend" I REALLY DONT KNOW what is going on, i really REALLY still love her, we still play games together, sometimes she did the kiss emotion to me in the online game and say that is a friendly kiss, i dont know what to do. but now, she just said she like me and another guy and he dont know what to choose. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO!!! ;-; I MEAN I LOVE HER SO MUCH i can either do 1st. be selfish - do what ever ican with all cost to get her back 2nd. be openminded - let the other guy have her, even i will have a hard heart broken, but she should be probably happy cause she won't feel stressed no more by choosing who... I dont know why the hell there is the second option, but that just in my mind... I really love her, i dont wanna see her felt stressed, that makes me felt pain as well, but the most pain is if i got heart brokened. This time i dont know why its so different then the online relationship i had before.. Before when I broke up with some body i just felt kind of sad and think o well i will find another one, but this one i just CANT let go! i can't stop liking her! gosh.. please help me, this feeling is in myself i cannot express and it is killing me... please help..... its driving me crazy.. well, here is teh full record of chat between me and her, u wlil understand more if u read it (From [L]una) : we r best friend now aren't we -_- (To [L]una) : yes because thats what u want (From [L]una) : ............... (To [L]una) : you know i am sacraficiing just wanna make u happy (To [L]una) : i cried when the day u ask me to broke up u just dont know (From [L]una) : i cry too -_- (To [L]una) : then why?? (To [L]una) : do u know how much i love u? (To [L]una) : u are my life (To [L]una) : now its gone (To [L]una) : i'm messed up (From [L]una) : please don't say this to me again > (From [L]una) : i really ......................> (To [L]una) : confused abut ur feeling? (To [L]una) : i really feel sorry about being so mean to u sometimes lately (To [L]una) : just if i dont get mad i will get sad and start cryingagain You got Apple 1 (To [L]una) : i really really dont wanna be like that to u (To [L]una) : i am really sorry (From [L]una) : i don't know i'm confused tai!!! (To [L]una) : u do know that i still wake up so early in the morning (To [L]una) : and still giving u stuff and help u all i can (To [L]una) : because the feeling i had about u still the same (To [L]una) : even as friend u want (To [L]una) : i hided my feeling (To [L]una) : cause i dont wanna force u (To [L]una) : if u want to be like that i can force myself to be like that (From [L]una) : i don't know tai > (To [L]una) : as long u are happy and i can be with u (From [L]una) : i want to have freedom > (To [L]una) : that is not a problem for me (To [L]una) : yes i understand (To [L]una) : we can change the format for bf/gf if u want (To [L]una) : i did think about what i did wrong in the past (From [L]una) : let me left this game for awhile i feel STRESSED > (To [L]una) : i nag u too much (To [L]una) : nonono (To [L]una) : sorry (From [L]una) : i don't know (From [L]una) : i love u both i don't know > (To [L]una) : ._. (From [L]una) : > (From [L]una) : oh well... (To [L]una) : just remember this (To [L]una) : luna (To [L]una) : i might not be rich in the game like some people (From [L]una) : ........ (To [L]una) : i might not be strong in the game like some people (From [L]una) : is not rich problems........ (To [L]una) : BUT i do know one thing (From [L]una) : i don't care about wealth! (To [L]una) : i love u more then anybody (From [L]una) : don't see me like this (To [L]una) : with all the power i can (To [L]una) : i wanna help u till end (To [L]una) : to see you to be happy (From [L]una) : i don't know (To [L]una) : even if it took me can't go online or something (From [L]una) : > (To [L]una) : as long u are happy (From [L]una) : let me go.. please let me.................. (To [L]una) : i did (To [L]una) : i just (From [L]una) : i myself leave =( (To [L]una) : express my feeling (To [L]una) : NO (To [L]una) : dont (To [L]una) : please (To [L]una) : i need to say it (To [L]una) : cause this feeling is killing me inside me for so long (To [L]una) : i ask my friend what should i do (To [L]una) : my friend say i should let it out (To [L]una) : i am very loyal luna, even u dont trust me, (To [L]una) : u are my life u_u (To [L]una) : they want u to be their gf might just think ur character looks cute (To [L]una) : but i like u as the person u are (To [L]una) : not just a character (From [L]una) : no he don't... (From [L]una) : we been good friends for a long time (To [L]una) : sigh.. (To [L]una) : i cant force u to do anything.. (To [L]una) : u_u (To [L]una) : the only thing i can prey (To [L]una) : is to hope u can love me again (To [L]una) : thats all i can do (To [L]una) : i know i'm not a good bf (To [L]una) : but i try to change (To [L]una) : change to what ever its suitable for u (To [L]una) : i dont know how to explain it (To [L]una) : UGH (To [L]una) : what am i kidding I NEED YOU LUNA X_X (To [L]una) : I TOLD YOU YOU WILL HAVE ALOT OF PEOPLE IN RO (To [L]una) : i was afraid something like this will happen (To [L]una) : i need u so bad luna ;-; (To [L]una) : u are very special to me (To [L]una) : really (To [L]una) : i never bluff u or anything in the place when i saying anything good a (To [L]una) : about u i nthe past (To [L]una) : I TRULY BELIEVE U ARE (From [L]una) : bye kun u_u (To [L]una) : u really is the girl i can ever dream of (To [L]una) : NO (To [L]una) : wait (To [L]una) : what kind of bye is that? (From [L]una) : I DON"T WANNA STRESSED ANYMORE (To [L]una) : bye for going off? or by for u are choosing him? ;-; (From [L]una) : TOO MUCH (From [L]una) : THAT TOO MUCH (To [L]una) : u know what (To [L]una) : i made my choice (To [L]una) : if it feel less stressed (To [L]una) : choose him u_u (To [L]una) : i can sacrafice myself (To [L]una) : as long make u happy (To [L]una) : its ur choice (From [L]una) : I DON"T KNOW TAI............. (From [L]una) : bye.........i'm leaving (To [L]una) : u can have time (To [L]una) : from the past experience (To [L]una) : u can have all the time u want o make choice (To [L]una) : and i promise u (From [L]una) : bye kun hope u find a new gf (From [L]una) : i'm leaving (To [L]una) : if u choose to choose me (To [L]una) : i will let u have as much freedom as u want (To [L]una) : and as always (To [L]una) : my answer is no i am not gonna find a new gf ([L]una)There is no such character name.

this is not the first time i post here for help, maybe u guys still remember me, i was depressed and wonder whhy i should be alive in this world. You might wonder, where did i go in the pass 3-4 months? well, this is what i can answer: I had found the answer i want, i am not depressed anymore, i realize there is still light in this cruel world I found a girl on the online game i am playing, amazingly she has everything i can ever dreamed of that my gf can have. so i play game with her, and she pull me out of my sadness and depression. we go really well for like 3 weeks, and i asked her if she can be my online gf. First of all she dont accept cause she don't trust guys anymore (cause her first online bf dumped her for some reason) but then i finally open her heart and we turns to online couple. Things go very very well in the pass 3 month, even we got like 2 little fight, but still, i can say i love her like crazy. because she lives in singapore, i didn't mind to wake up 5AM in the morning just to see her. As long i'm with her, i'm happy. She is one of those girls that have 100% NO confident at all type of girl. She think she is ugly, mean, cruel, stupid even i think she is totally opposite. She always think stuff at the bad way, and i'm worried about it. starting from like a week ago, i kind of felt that i spoiled her or something, i did so much stuff for her, taht i got a feeling she is taking it as granted and not that thanksful anymore. Yesterday, we were playing on the game, there are 3 poeple in my party ( game team), there is me, her, and another guy. since she is the healer she can heal people, but when we were fighting, she is following the other guy healing him instead of me, even though i know they are nothing but friend and she will never betrate me, but that jealousy feeling just raised up and i really felt unloved, lonely, and mad. I talked to her about it and.. "you were just like my first bf ;-;" "no... i'm not.. i love u..." "if i made your life so miserable, then i shouldn't be your gf at the first place" "no..." I dont know if she just said those without thinking or so... but it hurts me alot alot... i really love her and i am not gonna dump her or something.. all i want is wish we can be together more...(her first bf dump her because he got pissed off when she is healing other people instead of him) after that we both go off and i went to sleep, on the bed i can't fall sleep, i am so worried, scared, and mad. I am so afraid she leaves me, but in the same time i also felt so mad that why she never think of my feeling. Finally the nice side win, and the next day i go on and said i'm so sorry to her... i said i wish she can forgive me.. but she don't reply, after my couple beggings she said "I need 3-4 days to think about it" "oh..." "=(" I AM SO AFRAID!! WHAT SHOULD I DO???? all i want is she to be happy, i will do anything for it... ;-; but now i made her like this, what should i do??? i dont wanna lost her >_

well... i talked to her yesterday... and she was like mad because she think i don't trust her... she said "You believe to dave??" i'm not sure if i like her like that much anymore since all this stuff happen, i don't know who should i trust to. I don't wantto trust my friend, but i dont wanna trust her either. But i don't wanna leave her because if i do, i will be lonely again, i'm talking about REALLY LONELY u_u i live with my grandparent and i dont' wanna have deal with them, and i don't go out of my house at all when i'm at my house... u_u

well, yesterday night, my friend (online) told me that my online gf is cheating on me. She cyber with 1 other friend almost everyday, and she even ask my friend, but my friend rejected. I cried all night, is not because her. i wonder, why is people in this world so selfish? when they want to be friend with you, they only want to use you, and when you have no more they wanted they betrated you. Yahh i know i know you guys will say like "big deal! its online online!!" yah, that's why it make online so un-real. When you go online, had you ever think that every "screen name" online that is talking is actually another life, that is sitting infront of computer? When she hurting me like this, had she ever THINK there is a life on the other side, that his heart is bleeding? My heart was all frozen before, i put a heavy armor on it, becuase i don't want to trust people anymore... then she let me opened it... i thought i can trust people again, but when i strach my heart, she poke a sword in to my heart and make a critical hit.. (sorry i play too much online game) i start wondering, is there really a person in this world, that will really be there just for you, listen to your story, and want to understand you? or, there just another person who see your weakness, and just wanna use you , don't even care if they hurt your feeling? i want to have somebody that loves me, at least, only online. A person that feel happy just to see me online like i do to her. But I DONT TRUST PEOPLE anymore ;_; its like you want to open it, but you put a lock on it... i don't know how to explain that feeling, but that is the most that i can describe... This world is full of selfishness, at least this is what i saw, i feel hopeless for this world.... and i feel so alone WHAT SHOULD I DO?????? i mean, what the hell should i do day after days? 15.6/M/California

well.... my friend's mom is a freaken *beep*..... my friend is diffinally not a bad child, he make good friend and never have bad attitude, but tonight, his mom had called the social worker and took him away he keep saying sorry to me before he got taken away and want me to tell his girlfriend to say goodbye for him.... and he told me i had always been a good friend to him i feel sorry and i cant do anything to stop him from taking away....

i believe from the adult view they will say HELL NO DONT DO IT but since i'm a teen (15) and i'm a guy , i think you should do it XD by the way, that's one good keyboard you got!

about 2 month ago, i'm exactly like him, i have no friend and stuff. i feel like killing myself because i feel like life have no meaning. i don't have any friend in real life becuase they make fun of what i said (i am chinese... moved to US for 2.5 years so far, i had been living in taiwan for 13 years) i was once a really happy boy who have no problem at all, but then i came here my heart went cold like frozen v_v i went completely depress just like the guy in that post above. But i then met my online gf and she incourage me to talk to people, that time, i had hope again, and give another try to making friends. and its a success, i finally have more friends, and not so frighten to talk to some girl in my class, even jokes around with them. that time, i was very happy, every day i move my leg and take a next step, its a step with hope and happiness. the topic that me and my online gf can talk about are gone. There's not much stuff we can talk about, and we just like have really boring conversation and the end. I once felt lonely, and i feel SO EMPTY! i feel like there's something missing in my life, there's a place that is empty and i can't find anything to fill in. i got a feeling that is love. In my school, there's not many choice for me to choose, its because: 1. in my stupid chinese culture, i must have a chinese gf v_v 2. in my requirment the girl should be able to speak chinese 3. most of the asian girl that look pretty are taken 4. i hate to go to parties or club i don't know what else i can do, i'm a super computer person and i don't go out at all, i'm 5''6, 125lb. my family told me that if i got a gf before college they will kill me. what do some adult here thought about this? I think i'm using that as a excuse for me not getting a gf... online is the only place i can get a gf without looking at them and judge them with look. I KNOW ONLINE LOVE IS SO FAKE, but what else can i do? i really feel empty, i don't know what's the meaning of life, i don't know why should i be alive or exist, i don't know how in the world to get a gf, and i wish there's somebody for me that can let me hug and tell her my story! there's so many stuff i wish to understand! but... i don't know what should i do in the next day. My friends said i think too much, but that's the personality i have! can any experenced learned people that's older then me or something help me? maybe tell me what can i do to make my life better? answer the question all those "i don't know" questions above? how do i get a girlfriend in a situation like this? is online love the most suitable thing for me right now? if so, how do i make it better between me and my online gf? we need idea and topics ;-; or some new changes how do you make this empty feeling STOP??

THANK YOU TAHNK YOU THANK YOU FOR SUGGESTION!!!!! X3 i love you guys

no neopets is at link removed a online website game, the scam i'm talking about is i trick some other player to get their password which is not allowed