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Break-up Song thats has the POWERFUL lyrics
CybereXtremer replied to nychick's topic in Getting Back Together
These lyrics to the song Release are very powerful i see the world feel the truth which way to go windowsill i see the words on a rocking horse of time i see the birds in the rain oh dear dad can you see me now i am myself like you somehow i'll ride the wave where it takes me i'll hold the pain release me oh dear dad can you see me now i am myself like you somehow i'll wait up in the dark for you to speak to me i'll open up release me release me release me release me -
I sent her an email on Wednesday afternoon and she replied on Thursday morning. I have listed my email and her replay below. Now, she has never said we are breaking up or made that clear, but she did say she needed time in her note. So, review her email and let me know what your interpretation is. I am not going to give you my opinion because I want an unbiased opinion. My email: H, Good afternoon H! Hope everything is going well. How did your class go last week? Was it what you expected? I know you were very excited to teach it. Anyway, would you check and see if my TV cable terminator tool is at your house? It was in a plastic ziploc bag with some terminators and a cable cutter. The tools actually belong to a friend and he needs them for a cabling job. Let me know if you find them. Take Care J P.S. - If you get a chance and want to meet over lunch let me know. Her Reply: J - Things are okay, but I'm more stressed than ever (guess you know by now, this is a problem for me). Honestly, in sum, my "nerves" are very bad, contributing to my moodiness, and as a result, I continue to struggle with personal life issues. I'm in counseling and hope that it will be helpful. I know things will be better when I finish teaching this course since it has added a ton of work to my plate and consumes a significant portion of my time. I really enjoy teaching, though. I also have some medical problems right now which cause me discomfort and additional stress (possibly organ damage from accident they're now finding), and I've been very sick since Thursday and can't seem to catch up. I teach again tonight, am unprepared, and have no energy. Sorry for complaining...you don't need to hear this! I guess I'm sharing because I know you care, and because I want you to understand that I am sorry that I haven't been in contact and have no intention to neglect our friendship which is very important to me, but have been more overwhelmed than usual. I would like to catch up over lunch sometime, just don't know when it will work until I get through the semester (end of June). I spend lunch working. Glad to hear things are going well for you - ball is going okay, shoulder is causing no pain, bathroom done, etc. Hope things continue to go well for you!!!!! Will return the tools as soon as I locate them (I'm sure I've seen them). Take care of you! H I am interested in hearing everyones opinion on what she had to say in her note. Thanks Cyber
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Girlfriend no longer in love????
CybereXtremer replied to fIIsion's topic in Ex-boyfriend/girlfriend Relationships
I am going through a similar situation at the moment. Except my gf hasn't said anything about breaking up or anything. She hasn't even tried to initiate any contact, but is seeing a counselor. My gf was on the Atkins diet for about a month when she began to have similar changes in her personality. I did some research on the internet regarding the Atkins diet and found that it can cause mood swings and depression. The limiting of certaion foods causes a decrease in the amount of ceratonin the brain creates. Ceratonin is responsible for your moods. I am not saying this is the cause, but maybe she is showing signs of depression. I don't know what is going on with my gf counseling sessions due to limited communications, but I am hopeful that it is helping her. Maybe you just need to give her some space and let her work through whatever she is going through. It's not you, it's her. She is going to have to figure out what she wants. Just start using NC to give her some space and see what happens. She may just need a little time to adjust to her new found freedoms. Keep you chin up because you never know what might be around the corner. These are just my thoughts. -
I sent an email today asking for the tool and if she would like to schedule some time to meet. I didn't ask for my other stuff. I will now wait and see what her response is. Will she want to meet? I think she will. The more intriguing issue will be if she just wants to return the tool or if she wants to return all my stuff. I will keep everyone posted.
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If you need more background into the matter read my post in the Ex forum section. Also, just before she stopped communicating with me she gave me a set of keys to her place. Go figure?
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So it would be better to send an email and ask for all my stuff back or just the stuff I need.
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Recently my gf decided she needed time to figure things out with her life. So, out of the blue she just stops contacting me for now reason. Leaving me in limbo of not knowing where our relationship stands. I have had limited contact for the past month. I have been using NC for most of that time period to give her space. I was hoping to meet her in person to discuss our situation. The only time I can contact her is when she is at work. I don't think I should discuss our relationship in an email or over the phone while she is at work. I still have stuff at her place, but she hasn't made any effort to return it. Now, one of my friends is asking about some tools I borrowed from him to do some work at my gf house. So, I ask, should I send an email or phone asking for my friends tool or all my stuff. Should I push for a face to face meeting? How should I approach this situation? Thanks in advance for any opinions.
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Butterfly, I was sending her text messages, but she never returned them. We were suppose to meet a few weeks back, but she cancelled because she got an appointmet with a counselor. She has initiated contact since she left the note. I spoke with her last week to see about getting together and talking and she said she had been meaning to call, but there was never an opportune time. I think she could have made the time if she wanted. She wanted to meet 2 wks after the call, which would be today, but I am going to be out of town. So, she said we will play it by ear. So, I left it in her hands, but I have no idea why she is NC'ing unless she feels guilty, scared or is really getting help. If she is getting help she might not want to talk to me because it might involve her feelings into wwhat she is working out. Wouldn't you think out of respect she would tell me what is going on. She never said we were breaking up or anything. Pretty much what was in the note. The only time I am able to contact her is at work and I don't want to discuss this over the phone and while she is at work. I don't want her to break down at work. So, I am at a loss. Thanks Butterflycloud
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I didn't contact her yesterday to wish her good luck with teaching her class last night. I am going to continue NC until she contacts me. I don't want to wait to long, because I want to get my stuff back. I don't know if she is feeling guilty, scared or if she is really getting help and using this time. I don't know why people can't move past playing these high school games. Just tells us what you are thinking and move on. The world is not going to end because you are going to break up with us. I am continuing to live my life and if she contacts me she might be in for a big surprise.
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Well, if anybody is curious I didn't contact her.
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I need some advice on whether to break NC. My relaitionship with my girlfriend is in limbo. I don't know if we are breaking up or what. She just needs some time to think about things. She will begin teaching a graduate class on Thursday. This is a new opportunity for her and she was very excited when she told me about it. I am thinking of sending her a text message wishing her good luck with her class. I have no problem continuing NC, but I'm worried she might think I don't care anymore. Any suggestions on what to do?
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I need some advice on whether to break NC. She will begin teaching a graduate class on Thursday. This is a new opportunity for her and she was very excited when she told me about it. I am thinking of sending her a text message wishing her good luck with her class. I have no problem continuing NC, but I'm worried she might think I don't care anymore. Any suggestions on what to do?
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She hasn't tried to contact me in over a month. She hasn't told me we are breaking up. I still have stuff at her house. Do women normally act like this? Come on ladies help me out. Is it over and she is afraid to tell me or is she taking her time sorting things out?
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detox, thanks for the support. Talking with friends and writing my thoughts in this forum has helped me a lot in the past few weeks. I've started moving on due to the lack of respect. I'm going out and doing things like I used to before we started going out. I'm just waiting for the finality of the situation to happen next week. I've concluded that things are over and she has probably just been stringing me along. I just wish people could be more mature and stop playing high school games. All I need is to get my stuff back and it's on to bigger and better things.
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My girlfriend and I have been dating for about five months. Everything was going great until around St. Patrick's day. Out of the blue she says she needs to see someone (counselor) because she doesn't know where she is right now. She dropped off an Easter basket full of stuff at my house with a note inside. The note reads as follows: Love The Rabbit P.S. - You are, without a doubt, the most special and valuable person I've ever been fortunate enough to share time with. I'm very sorry and saddened that things aren't the way I'd like them to be right now, but I'm confident that with time I'll work through this process. I wish you endless happiness - thanks so much for you. We have had limited communication for about a month. I've been trying to give her some space to work out her issues. Since she is not trying to contact me does that mean she is breaking up with me? I've been doing NC to a point, but I have no idea what is going on in our relationship. What are women thinking when they write notes like this and say the things that they do?
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Has anybody ever dated somebody who went to therapy? If so, how long does it normally take for them to make progress? We haven't seen each other in a month and we have only spoken a few times within that time period. So, I'm giving her space in dealing with her issues, but this lack of contact and not knowing what is going on is driving me crazy. How has everyone else dealt with these issues. Any insight into this matter would be greatly appreciated
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Do you think she is going to get back with the father of her kids since he is still satying with her? I trust what she has told me about nothing going on between them and that she is seeing a counselor. The lack of communication between us or the lack of her trying to let me know what is going on is driving me crazy. Ladies, what do you think is happening? Should I continue to N/C and wait until she contacts me next week? Does anybody have an opinion on my situation. Thanks in advance.
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Well, I'm disappointed I didn't get any opinions from anybody on this site. As of right now I have continued NC, but am wondering if a reminder wouldn't be beneficial prior to our meeting next week. Looking for opinions before the end of the day? Thanks
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Today marks the 6 month anniversary of a significant moment in our relationship. We are both very sentimental about moments in our relationship. Last month she sent me an email reminging me the moment occurred 5 months ago and added the following to the bottom of the email. "You are even more special than I realized back in H-bomb October. Lucky, lucky me." Should I send her something today reminding her or should I just continue the NC?
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Well, another day in the books with NC. The count down to doomsday continues. Dwelling on the fact of not knowing whether our relationship is over or she is just trying to get her life in order is frustrating. As the days go by it seems as if it will be harder to discuss matters, because I don't know where she stands. It gives me a queasy feeling in my stomach thinking about all this. These feelings could be a great way for people to lose weight. It is so difficult to control the emotions when it comes to dealing with someone you love. I was wondering if other people feel like this? It is almost like being on death row and waiting for the walk to the execution chamber.
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Here is some background into the what might be happening. She seemed to change a little after she had been on the Atkins diet for a couple of weeks. Not that she really needed to lose weight in my opinion, but she wanted to get back to where she was prior to having her first kid. She told me that she had always had migraine headaches every since she was a kid, but she never wanted to bother telling me when she would get these headaches. She would take a bunch of Excederin to make them go away. I told her one day she shouldn't take more than what is prescribed on the bottle. She also told me that she might be bi-polar or ADD. Before she went back on the Atkins diet everything was great. I did a little research and found out the Atkins might cause depression or mood swings due to the lack of carbs. Certain carbs are responsible for producing ceratonin which controls your mood. So, is this another possibility for what is happening? I am at a loss, but I appreciate any help you can provide on my situation.
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Well, I've given her space. It's tough going without any contact especially when she is the one who is doing the NC. I would like to know if she is still seeing the counselor. She has a lot of baggage, but I never complained. I accepted her for who she is because she is just a great person. She always told me that it wasn't fair because I did all the sacrificing, but I always told her that what you do for love. Besides, it is easier for me to do the taveling since I don't have 4 kids to be responsible for. Also, she told me she has never had a relationship like the one we have. She has always been in an abuseful type relationship and you know what that means. They don't what to do in a normal, healthy relationship. I think if she was over her Ex who is staying there she would just drop him off at his parents or give him a date to be out by. Her nature is to always help people and I think he is taking advantage of it and trying to worm his way back in like he has done in the past. Also, I think she uses her career as a crutch to escape reality. I think she has a depression issue and withdrawls to her sanctuary of home and kids. I am going nuts, but I appreciate all the support I have received from others in this forum.
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Why does she want to wait 2 weeks to meet and discuss our relationship? It is like being on deathrow. Any insight into this matter would be greatly appreciated.
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Update! I spoke with her today. We chatted about things going on in our lives. She has a new opportunity to teach a class once a week in the evening, but the Ex will be watching the children. He is still living at her house. I didn't want to ask the big question on the phone "Are we still together?" I wanted to meet in person to discuss our situation. It will be two weeks before I get to see and talk to her. She said she needed to get ready to teach the class which is why she moved the date back so far. She said she has been wanting to call, but it is so hard with the kids around. So, is she buying more time to see the counselor or is she waiting to see how her Ex is doing and whether she is going to take him back again? Is this the typical "have your cake and eat it syndrome?" Some female perspective on this would be appreciated.
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Here is the note she left verbatim in the Easter basket she delivered to my house. XXX - Belated Happy Easter to You!!! Love The Rabbit P.S. - You are, without a doubt, the most special and valuable person I've ever been fortunate enough to share time with. I'm very sorry and saddened that things aren't the way I'd like them to be right now, but I'm confident that with time I'll work through this process. I wish you endless happiness - thanks so much for you. What is the interpretation of this note. She hasn't said anything about breaking up, but she is seeing a counselor. This is the most contact we have had in about 10 days. Should I continue to NC or should I try and find out what the heck is going on? It would be nice to know what women are thinking.