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  1. simon_uk
    So here I am sitting at me desk, have a date tonight, trying to get over the ex and her games and guess what? Yes, I get another text message. It says 'Hi, sorry to bother you but my hotmail isnt working and I dont know how to set it up. My site looks great, thank u. xxx' So wtf do I do, do I help her and look like a wuss or do I ignore her and look bitter and twisted!!! Why the F won't she just leave me alone or say she wants to try again. Whatever!!!! Simon
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    Just following on from that, think of this. Say you meet ten different people out at night and you act the same way with all of them, what I mean is your personality remains consistent, you dont change for each interaction. Now of those ten people, three may think you are the nicest person they have ever met, two think you are the most gorgeous person they have ever met, two are indifferent, one thinks you are really funny, one thinks you are boring and one really hates you. What do you do? You pick up on the one that doesnt like you and start to feel really self conscious. It doesnt feel nice and you want the one that doesnt like you to like you. It doesnt matter that most of them do like you, what gets to you is one doesnt and you question it and question yourself. What am I trying to say? Well I am certainly not trying to say your ex doesnt like you, of course he does otherwise he wouldnt have been with you. What is my point then?.Well what is the only consistent thing in all of those meetings with the ten different people? Answer: You! You are the one thing that has remained constant so if some people dont like you it isnt because of you it is because of them and their thoughts and ideals. Similarly if your ex is ignoring you and being nasty it is NOT because of you or anything you have done, it is because of HIM and the way he handles things and reacts and interacts. Hope that helped? Simon
  3. simon_uk
    I have to admit that after her sending me a text last week saying "I think I still Love You" I am really struggling not to contact her and spill my heart out. She later apologised for sending the message saying she was drunk but I still cant help believing that she really does love me and is just scared. Any Help much appreciated. simon
  4. simon_uk
    Echo, i agree it is childish and I also agree she will drive me bonkers. I think i made myself clear and told her to delete my number. I dont want to speak to her at all unless she calls me and tells me straight out she loves me. I dont think she will so the next time she does it if she does it will be ignored.
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    I guess she was drunk and I guess I must be stupid beyond belief! I sent her a message this morning saying I dont know if you were drunk and I dont want to get hurt again so I probably shouldnt say anything but I would prefer it if things were different. She replied I am so sorry, I thought about you yesterday and had a glass of wine. I am so sorry. So I replied Just delete my number from your phone She said OK I am so sorry, you ok? Then the ultimate pathetic reply from me No I am not, I paid the price by losing you in the first place please dont make me suffer anymore. Not a day goes by that I dont miss you and I am not drunk. Boy I must be stupid but at least this time she might finally understand that I cant be toyed with it isnt fair on me! Perhaps I should have just been more harsh with her but I am too nice I guess. She replied with I really am sorry puddin! Me So am I, so am I. Maybe one day you will understand how much you meant to me.
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    Well its 40 minutes since I replied telling her I was watching the UFC and she hasnt responded so..........................
  7. simon_uk
    Thanks Vert, I just replied and said the computer is on but I am watching the UFC. No Reply!!!! This is so hard because I KNOW I still love her!
  8. simon_uk
    It has been just over three months very limited contact and I just get a message that simply say I think I still Love You then another that says confused. Then one more that says, You got a new girlfriend I understand if you have youre a cool guy, just ignore me!!! What am I supposed to do? I just replied and said I am Confused!! Then she says are you on the computer? Help!!!!
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    As hard as it is Urban, in my opinion I would avoid making contact. It is just so distressing when you get the door slammed in your face. As you can see from my experience by not making contact I have given her space, given her time to cool down and now she is contacting me. It may not be for the reasons I hope but I am giving her the opportunity to make the moves. Just the slightest thing can create hostility if they are not ready for contact. So I would definitley advise leaving things a little while longer.
  10. simon_uk
    I am just concerned that a) she wants something more from me, which may or may not be nice, I mean I love her but I dont know how I would react to it if she did want to reconcile. or worse b) that she continues contacting me now and again and I end up finding out something I dont want to hear ie she is with somebody new. At this point I dont want to give her any indication as to how i feel nor do I want to be nasty or hostile with her as that is not really my character. Just really want to know the best way to handle it, I should have really asked her what she called for but again I bottled out for fear of what I may hear. I will just try to forget it happened again I guess
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    Do you think Urb that I handled the conversation well? Didnt say anything to give her the wrong impression either way?
  12. simon_uk
    Just received a text from the ex after dropping her stuff off, had a brief text chat. Her: Sorry for ringing you last night, hope I didnt wake you up? x (I had no missed calls) Me: Didnt realise you did call? Her: O rite, cool. Well sorry anyway. x Me: No Problem. Did you get your things from your mum? Her: Not been up yet but my sister has got the hair straighteners out. x Me: OK, have a nice day. x Her: U2 x Me: I put the jelly bean machine in and certain DVD's thought you may like them. Her: Aw Fanks x So I ask you folks, what is all that about, she hasn't been for her things yet so it wasn't a message to thank me for dropping them off. She didnt say why she called (even though I dont think she did) and I didnt ask her. Still it was a pleasent conversation and no animosity, which will do for me even if it means nothing else. Any thoughts?
  13. simon_uk
    Hi Doc! Yeah well I wouldn't be leaving all those CD's and DVD's, that would be like cutting my arm off!!! Get them back ASAP Doc! Cassy - Thanks for the input. I imagine she may be angry and vindictive because I put certain things in the bag, like a jelly bean machine we bought together. I mean she was the one who wanted it so why not right? But I bet she thinks I am a right cruel bastard! you are right she has no reason to contact me now, so if there was something more to the request for her stuff she is going to have to come right out and say it this time! I am trying not to expect that to happen though. Simon
  14. simon_uk
    Hey Doc! Did i say that I was feeling better? Mmmm? Well I am not! In fact I feel bad. I, like you thought she was leaving her things as a kind of tie to me in case she decided she wanted back, I guess now she has had time to think she has decided she doesnt want back and thus asked for her things to break any ties. On the other hand it was mostly clothes that she didnt wear or hadnt wore for the past year so I thought there was more to it, I guess not! Anyhow I would suggest that if the things you have at the ex's are things you want I would get them asap, if you can do without them just write them off. Simon
  15. simon_uk
    Ok folks so I dropped the ex's things off it was soooo hard, didnt expect it to be easy, but it is done now. I packed everything I could up and put it in a bag. Went round to her mums who seemed pleased to see me, the ex;s sister was there also I was expecting her to say something mean or tell me the ex was seeing somebody but she didnt thank god. Anyhow, dont know if I did the right thing, I mean I put some stuff in there that we bought together, just too painful seeing it laying around the flat. I also put in the photographs of us, dont know if that will be taken the wrong way but again I do not want them lying around. Her mum asked how I had been, what I had been uptp today etc. I wasnt cagey but didnt give too much away. She said so you have cleared your flat of 'X'? I said yes. She also said well you seem happier than you were last time I seen you (three weeks after the split) I said yeah I am. That was it, I said I had to go as my friend was in the car. I put in a cd, we bought it together last year and it really says how I feel. Against All Odds (The Phil Collins song) by the UK's Ex Factor winner Steve Broostein. Yes I did put a note, just two lines on the CD that simply said. I will never forget you baby. I wish you Everything! That is it now, over, done and dusted. Did I do right or really really wrong?
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    Ok folks so I dropped the ex's things off it was soooo hard, didnt expect it to be easy, but it is done now. I packed everything I could up and put it in a bag. Went round to her mums who seemed pleased to see me, the ex;s sister was there also I was expecting her to say something mean or tell me the ex was seeing somebody but she didnt thank god. Anyhow, dont know if I did the right thing, I mean I put some stuff in there that we bought together, just too painful seeing it laying around the flat. I also put in the photographs of us, dont know if that will be taken the wrong way but again I do not want them lying around. Her mum asked how I had been, what I had been uptp today etc. I wasnt cagey but didnt give too much away. She said so you have cleared your flat of 'X'? I said yes. She also said well you seem happier than you were last time I seen you (three weeks after the split) I said yeah I am. That was it, I said I had to go as my friend was in the car. I put in a cd, we bought it together last year and it really says how I feel. Against All Odds (The Phil Collins song) by the UK's Ex Factor winner Steve Broostein. Yes I did put a note, just two lines on the CD that simply said. I will never forget you baby. I wish you Everything! That is it now, over, done and dusted. Did I do right or really really wrong?
  17. simon_uk
    Yes you are right Mr Meh, I cant help thinking she is using her things as just an excuse to contact me though. BUT I AM WRONG ARENT I?????
  18. simon_uk
    I probably know the answer to this before i even ask but i am hopefully dropping the ex's things off on Sunday. I will go to her mums and not tell her until after I have been. Now my question. Is it wise to put a note in the box at all? I mean I wasnt going to write a love letter or anything but just feels a bit strange not to say something, I dont know what to say or what is best but any advice would be greatly appreciated. Want to tell her that I really would have married her! But doubt that would be good?
  19. simon_uk
    Well I think it may be done now. She replied and the conversation went thus "Ok No Probs, will you let me know when? Nice touch with the ignoring thing, I never ignored you, huf, whatever, you take care 2 x" I replied and probably F'ed things up "It is very difficult for me to talk to you, I thought you would understand? I will let you know" Her "Ok understand then but its not hard when u want to talk to me x " Me "Of course it is hard especially after the last time I called you, I dont want to upset you anymore or hurt myself anymore" Her "Ok x" So I guess that is that? I will drop her things off and try and forget it. Have I made a major co8k up here folks?
  20. simon_uk
    Thanks for the reply! So should I tell her that she isnt one of those who I wont call again and that it is just too hard for me to talk to her?
  21. simon_uk
    So today she rang me at work, I didnt answer then she calls my mobile and leaves a message, quite annoyed she says "so I guess I am one of those you arent going to call back, I need my stuff so please ring me" As I am listening to her message she calls again and leaves another, this time she is half laughing and she says "I know you got the last message because it went straight to answer machine, call me" So I sent her a text saying. " X I will send post your things to your mums or drop them off when I can, Take Care" She didnt respond?????
  22. simon_uk
    no i am not assuming she sent me a message yesterday asking me for her things the post is further down
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    no i am not assuming she sent me a message yesterday asking me for her things the post is further down
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    no i am not assuming she sent me a message yesterday asking me for her things the post is further down
  25. simon_uk
    So my ex just called again, I was in the bath so I genuinely missed the call. This time she left no message. I drafted a text reply but havent sent it yet. Sorry, cannot speak to you for obvious reasons. I will post your things or drop them off at your mums when I can. Take Care Is this too much. I mean I want to keep the door open if I can but dont want to sound too bothered. Suggestions Please! Want to send it asap get it over with.
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