nauum72

Hi Jaela, Sweetie, hang in there. It happened to me this past May when my BF of 2 years just left with no excuse and wouldn't answer anything I sent or even my calls. At this point, it's gotten easier but I have the same type of anger that you do in the fact that he should be told that its wrong and that I never accepted it in the end. I feel like I too played Mrs. Nice the whole time and now after months of therapy wish to speak out. The other day was my birthday and he didn't even have the decency of wishing me one when lasts year he went all out with dinners, limo, bubble bath, etc. In my point of view, what comes around does go around and they WILL get there's. Just takes time. I do think though at some point it is beneficial to express anger so that you can let go Keep your head up Dani

Hi there, Thanks for all your replies. Tigres-yes his parents both died fron cancer when he was in early 20's and I know from his sisters that he handles situations like this. Well I finally did get a response from him when I texted him that I needed the files and not just IM'ed on the computer. I made it very direct and he texted me back that he has everything I need and it was very direct too. No-how are you? Just casual conversation? It was very business like. I am going to call to set up a time either tomorrow or next day but how do I act? Do I just walk in-get the files and seem Ok? Or is it acceptable if I still act OK (and not agry like I want to) but say-you know I know now may not be the right time even after 2 months of NC but I eventually want ot be friends? I know in other posts they say to act nonchalant and all and not bug them-and I'm not-but should I say that when I go or say nothing/ Thanks,

HI ther folks, OK this is killing me. We broke up over 2 months ago after being together for 2 years. He did it in a terrible way wouldn't answer calls, emails, etc. then I finally went over to his house for an answer and he was crying and just said he had major problems and that I loved him more than he loved me, and it wasn't fair to me. I asked why he just couldn't say that weeks ago (he kept stringing me along for time) then he said he was just going to let the whole thing go and never answer me. So hurtful!! Anyway, now its been 2 months later, gotten stronger, done NC, etc. and all I want is my computer files, digital pics off the computer (I'm planning a bridal shower and need stuff from a previous one off his computer). I figured the dust settled and I texted him for the files. NO ANSWER!! NOw, I am shocked, but my anger level is rising. I don't understand his response, b/c its not like I cheated on him, or did anything wrong. I figured he might even be wondering how I'm doing, so that he wouldn't ignore me once again. Question: Why? He back talking to people cut off during our breakup but acts as if I have leprosy. I need those damm files and I was doing well with forgiving him and not even wanting him back-but to still treat me this way. Has anyone gone through this before? Does someone like this just never respond to you or need more time? Unfortuantley this shower is in 2 weeks and school starts up in 4 and i have ALL my back to school files on his computer too. I'm wondering if I again have to go over there and "pin him to thewall" this time not for answers, but for stupid files. Maybe he thinks I'm still into him, get over yourself jerk. It's just plain decency to answer someone when they ask a question. No? Please help and give your examples too Lynne