Fender Bender

before i start, i need to explain why we broke up: about a week ago, my g/f had to go to rehab cause her mom found some drugs in her room. she's actualy quit that certain type of drug, but was sent to rehab anyways. all of a sudden she was acting depressed. it was hard upholding a relationship with each other, and eventually she gave in and she broke up with me. she said she didn't want a boyfriend right now, but i just found out she still liked me. problem is, i can't seem to stand looking at her anymore... i was po'd when i heard she had done that drug to the point that her voice gets annoying and i get a strange sense of anger around her.but apparently, half of the people i hang out with claim they've gotten wasted or high or whatever, and those were only the people who hang out w/ her too, which makes things worse. I started hanging out with some other friends for a few days (ever since Thursday), when i finally heard that she still liked me. it was the last day of school until spring break, so it was the only time i could see her for a while. Now i feel like, cause of all this crap going on, i'm probably not going to be friends with her anymore. I still like her (i feel like strangling her cause she did the drugs, but only cause i care), but i can't find a way to approach her. I tried after i found out she still liked me, but when i got near her, she shunned me. I don't know what i should do with her anymore....please help

i'm not old enough to drive a car with a group of friends and go see a rock concert, but that would be the first thing on my mind when i could. a great hobby would be to start playing guitar. it can be a stress reliever when everything else sux and there's nothing you can do about it. it's also fun hearing yourself doing something cool for once. other than that, myspace can get addictive when some people you know are on it.

well, aren't we thinking positive! i'm sure my world would be loads better if i thought of all the positive aspects in it. unfortunately it's not that way right now. i'll try my hardest... 1) music. if i could live without music, holy crap. 2) internet. what would i be doing without you... maybe it's the famous.... 3) TV. The Colbert Report is friggin sweet!!! I love the Colbert Report!!! 4) random events that spark my interest...um...i'll get back to you on this later. 5) friends. I've told myself about a thousand times I would've killed myself by now if they weren't so cool. 6) myspace. I didn't know my friends were online. kinda cool talking to them online instead of on the phone or at school. 7) um........ 8) I know there's gotta be something cool going on...I think.... 9) eNotAlone. Yup. i dunno why, but it's better than talking to my parents about stuff sometimes. They're too restricted sometimes.... 10) parties. they don't always happen, but when they do they rule. Well i dug em out for ya. i think that took up about 10 minutes out of my life. for now, i probably just need to sort my mind out. school's in spring break, so my friends are gone for about an extra week... this is probably the first time i've ever hated spring break...

thanx for the help, guys. btw, to that last post, we go to the same school. anyways, she's been depressed lately and it REALLY affected our relationship. in fact, we just broke up today. ironically she hasn't picked up the phone since i started this topic, but we'd talk at school, which sucked cause i always feel kind of restricted there. i know why she was depressed, but she was getting too avoidant... couldn't go anywhere with her, and i'd only get a hug from her here and there. we'd talk some, but only during our 30 minute lunch and around the halls, which sucked even more. I'm over it, which surprises me cause i really liked her even though we didn't do anything, but thanks for the help.

let's try to not get too off topic now...

really? i've topped 4 on a three way once. that's kinda off topic, but yeah. 2 hours... That's a long time? It seems so short...

So you're talking to your gf/bf for 2 hours over the phone. For once, there's an awkward silence cause you can't think of anything to say. However, sometimes you may feel like carrying on the conversation anyways cause you don't want to throw in a crappy excuse to hang up. Then the awkward silence gets noisy and you can't think about anything to say to stop it. So what do you say when there's nothing to say? (goodbye doesn't cut it)

well, i think you should find out for yourself. it's either that or never find out and look for someone else (by the sound of it, i would)

hey lemme try As long as I go where ever my mouth takes me, I shall forever follow in the footsteps of the words i knew i was going to say when it never happened.... that almost sounds like poetry... i fell better now 8)

sounds like mike's had a tough life... you know, if you really like him, you should get him professional help. drugs are addictive (no, i haven't and will NEVER try one even once in my life), and screws the mind up. if you don't get help, he'll always be like this, and nobody who cares wants that, and if you're the only one that cares, just get help. good luck

I went to the school dance yesterday and i met this one girl who i asked out and stuff, got to know her (for like, 10 minutes cause we met near the end), and i asked her if i could kiss her and she said no (when she was about to leave). then i was just hangin out with some friends for a few minutes and saw her and walked toward her and after a few minutes she started getting nervous (she said it was cause her mom wasn't there or something, but we're 14 y/o, so....) I walked outside with her (she started pacing and looked sort of nervous) and she was talking to her friend (still pacing) and I finally said goodnight to her (just a friendly hug and that was about it...) and went back in (and she's still pacing). ne-ways, i don't know if i'm just jumping to conclusions, but is she a little prude? and if so, how could i change her (yeah, we just met, but still)?

hey guys. I have a problem with my girlfriend that sort of just came up and i'm still questioning it.... her cousin came up and told me she was with one of the more drugatic freaks of the school and something happened (take a good guess, cause i'm not telling you directly. she wasn't cheating either). if you catch what i'm saying, what should i do? I feel different around her, like all of a sudden i'm a little shyer than usual, but i still love her. please help

err... we ARE going out and she's always around her friends when i get to see her.

what kind of patience do you think she wanted? from this point of view, it sounds like she sort of wants you to do something "special" or she'll forget about you.

i think it's fine. just work on your pre-pre-approach: did she smile at you when she stared? did you lock eyes and she look away or just smile? a smile can say more with a stare in the eyes for a few seconds. then think... know her much? not knowing someone can make a great way to a conversation. but yeah. maybe she's just nervous. just hang out with her more or something. maybe then you can get a date or she'll like you enough for something more...