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Games games games... if everyone stopped playing these games we would have less hurtin... and more lovin!

It's good to see you followed the NC rule to the letter! Unfortunately not everyone here understands how important it is. More people would be healed instead of hurt if they followed the simple easy steps of NC to the bone. People keep rationalizing and strategizing ways to get back into a relationship that's only a band aid soilution. EThose hurt should take a look at their own ego, pride, fear of failure, stupidity, and an unwillingnesss to listen to the advice from people on this board. I guess that's humanity's flaw.

We told u not to send it and you do the exact opposite. What's the point in giving you advice if your not going to listen to it?!? Give her space dude. She will respect you and you'll thank yourself later on. Don't keep pushing and even asking about friendship. Just back off and cut her off completely. If she wants friendship let her come to you. Hope things turn around for you bro.

My EX had too many issues... she dumped me before I was able to do it first. I tried to help her out but I realized that people can only change from within. Now if 2 - 10 years down the road she comes back a stronger person and I am still single there might be the slight chance I would take her back.... ... No no I'm kidding. Friends at best. =)

I was able to heal quickly by remaining positive and I was brutally honest with myself. Expressing my feelings on this forum have also allowed me to share my experience and see what other people have to say. Smiling more and avoiding bitterness also helps alot.

To the beautiful women on this forum... would you take this man back if you were in her shoes?

It has been 2 months of NC since me and that girl broke up... For the readers sake we'll call her "The other one" simply because my mind has become numb from thinking about her... Yes I still have feelings for her but I smile with a huge grin because there is more to life out there. I would have given her the world. However nothing is perfect. I have to thank her for everything because it has opened my eyes to the possibilities of experiencing the finer qualities women have to offer. For each day I do not hear from her, I become stronger and more confident to do my own thing. You really only get one chance (two at most depending...). Love is war, war is love. You only get one parachute. There is no going back. If you mess up someone else will put the extra effort to appreciate and show you love. I am learning so much from this experience and because of this I come out more happier more wiser. Currently I have 4 girls that are either interested in me or that I have interest. One girl accompanied me to a Christmas party that "The other one" attended. We'll call her Girl A. So far she seems like good gf material. A little tempermental but heck nobody is perfect. If it wasn't for "The other one" I would have chosen her instead... it was bad timing because she held back and I went with the latter. After I broke up with "The other one" I found out Girl A had feelings for me. What could I have done? Gone for someone new with the possibilities of rejection or someone that was my friend for over 3 years. No regrets... I have all the time in the world to make it up. I recently met Girl B when my buddy brought her out for drinks. She seems really outgoing, funny and energetic. Things I would have never seen had I stayed with "The other one". I am not sure if she is GF material but she is great to hang around with. One night Girl B got drunk and came over to visit me @ work. She kept hugging me and it was a sure sign because her eyes told me everything I needed to know. Girl A knows Girl B so I have a dilemma. Meanwhile... Girl C is from a LDR that I've known for 5 years. We've been on and off but it is more of a comfort feeling. Through thick and thin we have realistic expectations in the event that either party finds someone closer we will respect their decision. She too is a great person and so much more "experienced" than I even though she is 6 years younger than me. Girl D just got out of a relationship. She has great personal qualities. Her past bf's have been real losers. I feel that she would be a good choice because she is smart outgoing yet a good girl. I find her physicaly and mentally attractive. She dumped her bf because he was not attentive or sensitive to meet her needs. Too busy playing video games... yeesh! As a result life does get better. NC is a great tool for healing and discovering yourself. If "The other one" calls I would be courteous and show her respect. However my belief is that you should never take back a dumper. If they hurt you once they have the power to hurt you again. Have respect for them and for yourself. You can only go back with someone if the problem has been 100% solved. From here on I have many choices so I am going to take all the time in the world to get to know Girl A, B, C and D. There are over 6.5 billion people out there in the world. Of which roughly 4 billion are women. Do you know what that means? That's 4 billion possibilities!

Hi I was browsing the web and i would like to share with you members an interesting article found on link removed link removed Man begs wife's forgiveness in $17,000 ad Wednesday, January 26, 2005 Posted: 7:45 AM EST (1245 GMT) JACKSONVILLE, Florida (AP) -- When five dozen roses didn't work, an estranged husband took out a full-page newspaper ad to ask his wife for forgiveness. "Please believe the words in my letter, they are true and from my heart," read the ad in Tuesday's edition of The Florida Times-Union. "I can only hope you will give me the chance to prove my unending love for you. Life without you is empty and meaningless." Larry, who declined to give his last name, sent the $17,000 apology to Marianne, his wife of 17 years. She left him almost two weeks ago, he said. "It was a culmination of things," he told the newspaper. "But I am desperately trying to save our marriage." Larry, who lives in Orlando, said his wife is staying with her parents near Jacksonville. But they blocked him from entering their gated community and she changed her cell phone number so he can't contact her. A relative told him that Marianne saw the advertisement. "She said my wife read the ad and started crying. But so far I've had no response from her," Larry said. But the ad drew the attention of many other readers, who contacted the paper. "They want to know if she has responded and if they have worked things out," said Jay Weimar, director of display advertising. "We tell them we are pulling for him." WHAT ARE YOUR THOUGHTS? Personally I think he has a good heart but 17 grand could of gotten him a new car or a lifetime supply of steak and potatoes.

Bah she'll be back if she really wants you. You just passed her first test. Question is do you want her back?

My b-day is coming up. I have no expectations for her to call or e-mail me, that's plain stupid. If in any case she does try to make contact, I will take it was a joke and laugh it off. She has hurt me twice in the past. Never again will I fall for her tricks. If I acknowledge her I would be easing her guilt, and that would be an insult to my manhood. Let her live the rest of her life knowing she missed out. It would be detrimental to my self-esteem to waste my time on someone who doesn't want me. Don't sit around moping and wishing for that person to call you back. Esp, if that person is the dumper you should have respect and cut them off completely. Life is short, I plan on only giving my time to people who show me affection and value what I have to say. Nevertheless my birthday will consist of friends, family and a special someone that has caught me eye.

Don't wait... heal yourself then go out and meet as many girls as you can. Eventually you'll find someone who is willing to put in the effort to be with you not the other way around.

I would have to say this new girl is great... I'm sure she is interested in me because my friend and her best friend are trying to hook things up. I saw her last night and I'm sure she is pretty interested in me. I've never seen her looking so good! I knew something was going on because she has a new hairstyle and wears makeup -- which she rarely puts on. They say the best thing to get over someone is to find someone new. I'm sure these words heed well to my EX because she was the one who wanted to break up and basically told me it was ok to see other people. I think this really backfired in her face because she thought I was friendly enough to stick around. Instead I opted for NC and I found a girl 1 month after the breakup. From my last relationship I have realized that my EX lost everything. Not only did she lose her only chance to be with a wonderful guy she's missing out on all the fun my group of friends are having. I have also realized that my EX wasn't fully into me. She never made the effort to make the relationship work and she really never gave us the chance to work things out.

Hi I would like to thank everyone on eNotalone for their support. I was devastated when I first broke up with my EX. Talking to friends, going out to the gym, and helping others with their breakups have allowed me to move on. I have realized that it was a good experience and it has surely made my life more complete knowing that I was able to get someone I longed for over 3 years. I can look back and say I had no regrets. This cowboy is ready to move on! Sure I may never be 100% healed but I came out stronger and more optimistic as ever. I am not bitter about the whole ordeal even though I tried to make it work. Atlas, it was her decision to break it off after two months that felt like a rollercoaster ride. I realize that NC is my only option because it allows me to heal and discover myself. NC allows me to save my dignity because I liked her too much. She is a great person but in the end I have accepted the fact I would have been miserable in that relationship. During this time I have met someone new so I'll keep you guys posted.

Woah Dragongirl should be my therapist. =P

This thread totally made my day. You guys rock!