vanilla_princess

this may sound like a stupid question, but is having someone suck/bite your nipples bad for you? are nipples strong enough or too weak to handle teeth?

no wonder your friends are worried!!! to be absolutely frank, your eating habits are awful..... strangely enough, i used to do the same thing, except i only ate at 4 pm and 9 pm. initially it was ok....soon it got really bad. i lost a lot of weight, got really weak, and couldn't concentrate on my work. not just my friends, but my teachers started commenting on it. one put in my report card comments that i wasnt eating enough. seriously...you dont have to eat big meals in the middle of the day, but small snacks are good. i love yoghurt and banana bread. especially if you're on a volleyball team you've got to eat better.

it's really nice of you to have been so support of Ash through all this time, but she doesn't seem to be too grateful. have you told Ash how you feel about her talking about you? yes a lot of teens behave like that, but she could potentially hurt your first real relationship. forget her counselor...you seem to have given up a lot of time for Ash (i hope my friends will stick by me like that should anything happen to me) yet she still doesnt treat you like a real friend should. granted, she's been through suicide attempts for reasons i don't know, but you don't have to suffer just because she is. my advice: move away from Ash and enjoy your time with your new bf.

i'm always hearing people talk about which base they've gotten to with their bf's/gf's....i get that first base is kissing and a home run is sex, but what exactly are the bases in between??

hi kimmie, both of my parents died a couple years ago, and now i'm watching one of my grandmothers suffer through chemo. cancer sucks. i feel for you, and i understand how painful it must be for you right now. a couple of things: dragon girl is 100% rite: doctors do have to tell you the worst case scenario just to save themselves. 5-10yrs is a long time. cancer is curable. three of my mom's old friends are oncologists, one of them has even had both stomach and breast cancer herself. she's fine now (though she's only got one boob). your mom probably feels as awful as you do. i'm sure she wants to be able to see you through the most important parts of your life, and in addition to the pain of cancer, she's just as scared and frustrated as you. make the most of your time!! you are 16. your mom DOES NOT want you to miss the fun of being a teenager because of her. let her know how much you love her, how important she is to you, and do what you can to make her pain easier. whether you see it or not, you have a unique chance to get to know your mom really well now. treasure what you have while you have it. i know that sounds harsh, but life is harsh sometimes. for me, the hardest thing when my parents died was seeing other kids with parents whine about them. i wanted to punch them all - they just didnt get how lucky they were. i didnt have the chance to tell my parents how much i loved them before they died. they just left. for a long time i was the most depressed kid ever. but i realized that they didnt give birth to me so i would cry all the time. they would want me to go on with my life, even if they couldnt be there to see it. crying helps. really, it does. but just be careful not to cry too much in front of ur mom...you might make her feel guilty. and hey, you know how they say the best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer someone else up? its true. helping ur mom feel loved will help u too. pm me if you need to okay? good luck to you and your family.

it sounds like your ex just wants some time to explore....you've been her bf for most of her life..i guess she just wants to see if there's something she's been missing. who knows, if you two really are very serious (and it seems like you're quite close) she'll come back to you one day. like u said, u arent quite ready for marriage...i think she needs time before marriage to figure out what she really wants. i have a similar prob with my ex...we've known each other since 6th grade and are know seniors in high school. we were togehter for about 2 years..in between we broke up for 3 months but got back together. the problem was that we saw eachother all the time, and were in 4 classes together and had the same group of friends. we broke up for good a month ago, and now he has a new gf. granted, we are a lot younger than you and your ex, but it was still difficult to have to see him everyday, smiling and happy with that other girl, me not being able to talk to him as much. it was really, really hard, and very painful for me. but i realized, tho, that since we've known each other so long it isn't worth it to get so angry after a break up. our friendship is really valuable, and i dont want to let jealously ruin 6 years of good times. but hey, don't beat yourself up over this. i would say to let her have her space, get used to her new bf. but dont break off contact with her completely. lovelostlady is rite, she just needs her time. you'd do best to respect your ex's wishes for now, and not use pet words etc. don't worry. it'll all turn out okay.

first of all, happy belated birthday!!! Jimbo is completely correct. we all have our ups and downs, its just that the downs are always much, much harder to get thru. it is never easy to get over a break up (believe me, i know, i had to get over one...five days of non-stop tears) but consider it this way: if you risk hooking up, you also risk breaking up. its part of the process. try getting involved in something new, channeling your energy into a different direction. who knows, you may find something you completely love to do. then, your motivation for other things will come back naturally. as for your depressed friend, just sticking by her and giving her your undying support can be more helpful than you think. it'll be ok.

dancergirl, i totally know how you feel!!! my chem teacher (coincidence?) and i have an extra special relationship kind of like yours...he goes out of his way to explain stuff to me outside of class, and is always very flirtatious...not in a gross, sexual way, but in a playful way. the great thing is that he's such a nice change from all the other guys in my grade, who think there's nothing cooler than talking about who got the most drunk on saturday night. its so nice to have someone else who u can have decent conversations with that dont involve a swear word every five minutes. everyday i love my teacher more, cuz he'll always know exactly the right thing to say to make me laugh or feel wonderful. but at the same time, i dont think there's any hope of anything else. my teacher is much older than me...so its a bit different, but even with your teacher, you may be risking his job and your reputation. value your teacher as special friend. asking for more may ruin what you already have, and then you'll both feel awful, cuz you'll have lost something completely invaluable.