Josh G.

Ok, So ive been going out with my gf for a week now, And I was wondering, How fast should things be going, Still having troubles getting past the acting like friends things, I am trying to get it to be more like a relationship, and apparentlly she is too, But I was wondering, How long should it be before I kiss her, Bring her to my house and meet my family, start hugging and holding hands etc... (etc meaning if you have any other examples that I missed what are they and how long should I wait). Everyone keeps telling me I should have already kissed her and hold hand sand stuff, Oh and becasue I am already here typing Im just going to throw it in the same forum, I think I should buy her something this weekend and give it to her at school, it might get things started a little faster, So... I was thinking, She said something to me a while back (2 or 3 weeks ago) that she wanted the movie dazed and confused on dvd, she said she hopes she gets it for christmas, but I think I am just gunna go pick it up, when I see her on monday, Ill just say, "I was walking through the store and I remembered you saying something about this, so I just picked it up" and give it to her, do you think that would go well and she would like it, is it a good idea? thanks in advance JG.

Id do it liek this, Pull out like a 20 dollar bill, that should cover it, if not, a bigger one then (and im not saying this to make u look rich, just makes her less likely to offert to pay) then say, 2 tickets for the incredibles. thats it. make it smooh and dont even expect her to pay, do it like uve done it a million times and so fast she cant get her money out, just watch in admiration. hope that helps, Josh

Well today, she kinda did the same ting was talking to everybody else and just ignoring me, so i leaned over and said "are you mad at me or something" she said "no y?" and looked really confused, so I said "then wut is wrong, you never talk to me, u talk to everybody else, It feels like I have to bug you to talk to me" she looked really confused again and kinda hurt (I have no idea y, I just got that impression and it wasnt one of hose things where they intentally look a certain way) she said, Im sorry, I didnt think there was anthing wrong, so then the teacher yelled at us for nto paying attention, so after class was done we went into the hall to talk, I told her the problem and how it made me feel, and how I felt liek i was invisible and she deosnt care, and that before we were going out we always talked and things were awesome, I then said, I really like you, but if you are uncomfortable, we can just be friends again, she said, no, but she is having some troubles in life right now and is kinda stressed and said she will try and correct it, she asked me if I was unhappy and didnt want to go out with her, I said, I am willing to work on it, and see how it goes. I told her that me and her should go do something and hang out besides school and get some time to talk, she agreed, and we worked things out, I hope everything is clear now and is back to normal, (wow, she really is confusing!) but, I dont understand this, When she doesnt talk to me, I get so mad and I feel noting towards her, and I just want to tell her its over, but when she looks in my eyes, I just have to smile, I go crazy over her again, I noticed it, when I was talking to her about this, I made alot of eye contact and talked very calm, trying to really get her attention, And i could feel myself smiling and she was smiling back at me, and we just stared into eachothers eyes, I jsut wanted to kiss her, SO I really dont want to break up with her, And im willing to do anyting to make this work, also, I dont want to bring her to my house, because I dont want her to meet my parents because I will for get embarrassed by them, but, should I ask her if she would like to come over and we can hangout? I would really prefer not too, but I was just wondering what would a girl think about this? Like I said, we both like eachother but she is not acting like liek she cares, and jsut acts kind of nervous around me or something, also, one of my guy friend knows her very good, hes known her for years, he tells me I should ask her If can kiss her, he said that might get things going better, is this a good idea? thanks alot, Josh.

I always thoght that an indoor rolleblading place would be great, But i guess some girls dont liek rollerblading to much, if u guys did go, u could skate around together and talk aot and get to know eachothe rbetter, what ever you do, let her talk and just listen dont tlak about yourself alot, they love to talk about themselves. 8)

Well. I live in the southern part of Ontario, and Ill pretty much do anything for a date with her, I want to find out what she enjoys, I dont care wut the heck it is ill enjoy it with her, as long as we get to settle things between us. I dont really think she would be into the whole spending a date or day outside thing, shes not really into that stuff, and she would complain about it being cold outside (which I really cant blame her) She is kind of athletic, I would enjoy someting liek that, becasue I am athletic, and would consider my self fit, but I would rathe rher, really enjoy it, I was thinkin of maybe an activity we can do? thanks again for the help.

well, thanks for the help, I agree with both of you guys, Im going to talk to her about it, and then try to schedule another date thing, so we can get used to eachother, (shes really busy right now, shes not goin to be here this weekend). Me and her friend starting talking on msn, she said, she noticed it too, that things were "weird" with us and she also told her that but she said she didnt say much about it. So tomorrow Im goin to talk to her and see what is going on. OK I really need some advice here, I think this is very important so any feedback would be aweosme, ok, so here is the important thing, I want to take her somewhere as a "get to know eachtoehr better and get eachother used to eachother date" (and if there wasnt such thing, there is now) , but I have no idea what to do, her friend said, take her to another movie, but that would be impossible to get to know eachother becasue you dont really talk, I wanted to take her to a indoor roller blading place where the play music and have lights and stuff, and i thoght we could skate around together and talk, but she isnt into rollerblading at all, I asked her as a date and at first she said yes, but then she said 'can we do something else" (she said she couldnt skate good at all, but she probally just didnt want to go there). So I need a good creative thing we can do together, that wouLd be a special night, and we can do someting tgether and get things going really good? anybody have any ideas for this? thanks in advance, i really appreciate it, Josh G.

Ok, Im not sure if this is a good place to post this, but I got a problem with my gf, She never talks to me, If we are alone we can talk, but were are hardly ever alone. If I go up and say Hi to her when shes with her friends, shell talk for a few seconds and then start talking to her friends and I ll just stand there like im invisible, today I went to the cafeteria and sat next to her, she hardly looked at me, barely talked to me unless I started talking to her, and then we she asked me if I could go to a hockey game after school, so I went for her, we went there, then she sat with all of ehr friends and ditched me , so I went and sat by my friend and we talked, he had to leave early so I sat there by myslef for a long time, and she kept walking by to go buy stuff, so she saw me and , Oh i couldnt believe it, she came and sat next to me. Then she said lets go over and sit with them (pointing at her friends) so we go over, and she went back to just talking with her friends again. It doesnt feel liek were really going out, and I dont want to invest anytime or anything into this if she cant even to talk to me, like I mean, her friends told me she has been waiting for me to ask her out for a year, so i dotn think its not that she doesnt like me, but I need some advice on what to do, what to talk to her about, how I should tell her how I feel, and maybe show her that I want to spend time with her, and talk to her, but not always be with "her" friends. Honestly, her friends are nice, but she stays in the middle of them liek they are her bodyguards and I dont really likt to talk to them that much. Oh and this morning, I went and said hi to her, she talked a bit, then went to her friends so i siad i will see in a liitle bit and went and talked to my friend, and all he rfrineds were snickering and laughing at her that i just left so I felt liek a jerk, but can you blame me?

Well, good job man! 8) gald I could help, hope everything goes well, good luck!

Ok, Ive posted about this a couple times, with not much of a response on what to say, So ill try to help you out as best as i can, It really depends how much you know the girl, I guess now I can only give you personal experience, What I did was, I planned out something to say, And I said, OK, im not waiting anymore IM doing this here and now, but the way the the conversation was I couldnt, so we were walking together and about to separate, I completely went blank, didnt do a thing that was planned (which is good, this worked out better) and I dont know how, the words just came out she just started to walk away, i said can I ask you a question she turned around and said wut? I looked into her eyes and said, will you go out with me? In my opinion, It went awesome, the way she responded showed me it was good, she just looked back at me and said yes, but her voice was really weak liek she just melted. So, my advice, dont plan something out, be spontaneous and let what ever happens happen. hope it helped.

man, alot of guys are like this including me, so this is what i did, payed really good attention to how i acted around all the other girls, when it was time to talk to the girl I liked, I started up the exact same way, just do it liek this, act liek she is a good friend and you have known her for a bit and can talk to her, talk to her liek a guy friend, (but not the same stuff lol) and make things funny and interesting.

well try not to be nervous, Just kind of bump into her, maybe, and start talking about soemting appropriate at the time, like a comment to someting that has just happened liek somebody tripped and fell, or your boss just said or did something stupid or is yelling at everybody, try to be co.cky and funny and spontaneous, and after you get her to laugh or get interested or somethign, introduce yourself, depending how professional your job is, maybe offer a handshake, she should introduce herself after that, now the real trick, keeping the conversation interesting and going.....

Before I asked my girlfriend out, I took her bowling and it was awesome! it was a rock and bowl thing where they play all kinds of music and have weird lights like neon and black lights, it was really cool, sounds like a great idea. For some reason it just doesnt seem liek your friend is very interested in doing this, It kinda sounds like he would jsut be doing you a favor and tagging along, if that is the case, i would go without him, It kinda seems weak to bring him anyways, especially for a first date type of thing. I can understand you dont want to say it is liek a date, but maybe you could hook it up with something like this wehn you are talking to her.... Hey' Ive been wanting to go bowling lately, but I cant find anybody to, to u wanna go? or hey, do you wanna hangout sometime besides school, theres a great bowling alley we can go to. I hope that helped a bit, Im definatly no expert in this area.

Ok, Now, I finally got a gf, but dont know what to do now, At school, I see her in the morning right before class and I pretty much just walk up with my frineds and say "Hi" and leave because I dont want to hang out with all of her frineds and I dont know what else to do, the next time I see her is in my 4th period class, I sit next to her, and we talk about normal things, pretty much, nothing has changes since weve been going out, the boyfriend girlfriend thing is just a title, and if we wernt going out we would act the same around eachother, what I need to know is what is it supposed to be like, should I hang around her more, should I get more personal in what we talk about, things like that. Also I for some reason, I dont eat lunch, I prefer to go to the library on lunch and fool around on the internet and she is always in the caf, should I start eating lunch and going and sitting by her? Pretty much we talk a bit, then I say, ill c u in a little bit or ill talk to you in 4th, but I dont want to be a boring boyfriend who isnt very commited and doesnt do much, well, thanks in advance Josh G.

There is nothing wrong with tall girls, I am 5 '10 and my girlfriend is 5 '10 and a half, so shes just a bit taller than me, it doesnt bother me at all, I still find her very attractive. (it just makes me want to grow a little bit more )

Ok I feel really stupid again, Im just going to let anyone know whats going on if they are interested, I talked to her today, everything is good between us, She must have just been really shy and nervous or something but everything went awesome today, then her friend came up and talked to me, andshe was really exited and apparently "it was a bg deal" so that is also a good sign and she assured me that ashley liek me Thanks again Josh

Ok, thanks again for the help, It has made me feel a whole lot better about the whole situation, I think you guys are pretty right about this, Ill give you a bit of backround info between us, I have known he rfor almost a year, and we have always talked alot, I Think (thought) that she has liekd me for awhile, but I did not feel like getting into a relationship, I had alot of things going on so I just always acted as a friend to her, Even if I thought she was trying hard to be a bit more, I always stayed where I wanted to be, as just friends. Deep down inside, I knew I liked her more, but i tried to hide the feelings becasue Like i said, I had alot of things going on and didnt have the time or anything, to be in a relationship. She has never changed the way she has acted around me, I started to liek another girl, but I kept secret to who it was, She knew that I liked another girl, but she didnt know who it was, and she always bugged me to find out who it was, like, non stop for the longest time. I thought I really did like the other girl, but I realized I probally started to liek her so I wouldnt get into anything with this girl. I always thoght if I wanted to i could go out with her anyways (if i ever had the courage to ask) but like i said I wanted to stay single for awhile. Then the "crush" for the other girl completely went away, and I was dead nuts crazy for this girl, and I couldnt hide it no matter what, and she seemed interested in me too, so I asked her on o few dates, but I did always et the hint that she didnt think they were dates just more of just hanging out (but guys dont usually pay if your "just hangiong out with a girl") but I cant blame her, as much as she tried, I always showed her I just was a friend. But I decided that I liek her so much, I dont care how hard it will be for me, I want to be with her, no matter what is going on in my life. so lately, I tried showing her signs that I like her, Like taking her on dates, flirting, looking her in the eyes alot, giving her alot of attention, giving her time to just talk to me while I listen and be interested in wut she is saying and give her input on what she has said. So then, ya now were up tp date, I asked her out. I just now realized becasue of you guys, that I always acted like she was jsut a friend because that is all I ever wanted with anybody, so thankyou fro helping me understand that, Becasue I think she has let in sink in I can never be more, which is why it shocked her when I asked. I do have more questions tho, Do you guys think I have ruined somethign in the process of doing all this, maybe hurt my chances with ehr, making her feel liek I will never like her? also, if things go good, and she says somethign abotu her jsut being a friend to me, shoudl I explain to her what I just told you guys? Thanks again, Josh G.

Well, I hope you are right, thanks for the advice, I havnt talked to her yet, she is gone somewhere , but I might get to talk to her tomorrow night, if not monday, Ill see how things go there, I got some more questions now, If she seems to be acting really weird, and not interested should I ask her what she wants to do with our relationship? If she is acting normal should I just keep going along and pretend like I didnt care or notice anything, and would a girl say yes if u asked her out if she isnt interested in you, and do you think that when she kept saying that she thought that I thought that she was just a friend to her, that she just thinks I am just a friend? Any help is greatly appreciated and thanks for any previous help.

Well, I hope you are right, thanks for the advise, I havnt talked to her yet, she is gone somewhere , but I might get to talk to her tomorrow night, if not monday, Ill see how things go there, I got some more questions now, If she seems to be acting really weird, and not interested should I ask her what she wants to do with our relationship? If she is acting normal should I just keep going along and pretend like I didnt care or notice anything, and would a girl say yes if u asked her out if she isnt interested in you, and do you think that when she kept saying that she thought that I thought that she was just a friend to her, that she just thinks I am just a friend? Any help is greatly appreciated and thanks for any previous help.

Well i think I will just act normal, on msn, and when i see her monday, I will see how she is reacting more than what she says, her facial expresions and bodylanguage, and if i think we were better off as friends , I will tell her, that I still really like her, but I value our friendship, and If it isnt going to work out as a relationship, that I wouldnt want anyhting to be akward between us (even tho that is inevitable, I showed her my feelings). Even if things dont work out, i would like to be her friend, In dec were going to a concert (again she invited me to go, i took that as another hint she liekd me) and I would still liek to go if im going with her, but if i cancel, it would look kinda weird too, so no matter wut i should stll go to with her if we are just friends and just hangout. I really hope this works out though, I would really like to be her boyfriend and I would do anythign for her right now and I think about every second, but if i can only be her friend, I guess i am just going to have to move on.

well, after i asked her out, i didnt get to talk to her again until after on msn, and i noticed she wasnt acting herself, so I thought maybe i scared her asking her out, so i said im sorry if i freaked you out earlier today, she said, its ok, i wasnt expecting it, i didnt think u liked me that way, i thought that you just liked me as a friend, so then that kind of threw me off a bit, so i said, I do like you, but im not sure how u feel, and she said, I like you, but i just thought that you thought that I was just a friend. So i am confused wether she just thinks I am a friend to her and I dont know if she meant it when she says she liked me 2?

she did say yes when i asked her out, so i thought everything was awesome, until I i told her I liked her but I didnt know how she felt (because she was acting strange). also, here are the colognes I wear, Alfred sung, Hei, Davidoff, Cool water, and some Adidas, Move.

ya i think i might have been stupid, but i mean she was always flriting with me, not acting liek she does around other guys, she would get kinda nervous at first if i ever went to sit next to her in the cafeteria, she would start blushing, her frinds awlways made jokes to me about her likeing me, she would play with my hands and fingers and look into my eyes, alot, we would talk like crazy on msn, she would always rest her feet on my legs in class, do really cute stuff, a whole bunch of other stuff that showed she liekd me. One she said something about us having a song together (which i dont know if it means anything still?) and kind of laught at whatever i say, but she might be being really friendly, (also she had a thing going around everywhere that i was the best smelling kid)( she liked my cologne) but i dont know, if she did liek me, i might have waited to long, and she might have just thoguht there wa sno way i liekd her, which wold be the friends thing, but she still acted the sam around me she always did, Liek i siad im really confused, would a girl say yes if u asked her out if she didnt liek you, and i guess now she is talkng alot on msn, back to herself, just im really confused and this is stressing me out, I dont know how I should act around her, but thanks for any help. Oh by the way, im really sorry about the typing errors and bad grammar, I just am not in the mood to perfect what i write right now

Ive got a sugestion, Im not sure how good it will work and maybe people should read to wut other people reply to this before taking my advice, but I am not bullied at school, and i do not bully, Kids started to make fun of me but i stopped it right away and got respect. I was always alot stronger than most kids in my grade, I have been working out for a long time, and If someone ever gave me a problem, Id say a really clever comeback, that they could nto have a good one back, and they would look stupid, and walk away and not give me a problem and later i would talk to them like they were friends and we became friends, if they got offensive by me making them look stupid, i would let them start up real good then a would scrap them, afer awhile, nobody wanted to fight, so they just gave me respect from then. Im tellin u tho, if u just go out and start beating the piss outta everybody u dont like, u will not get respect, and u will be a bully, Ive never thrown the first punch in a fight, I always let them start it, If you show them ure not afraid of them, u should get respect, think of it like this, (ive been around horses all my life so i kno) If you act scared around a horse, it will detect it, and take advantage of it, so basically push you around and try to scare you, If you go in there calm, friendly but treat it as equal to you, there will be no problem (unless u have a phsyco horse), but it is the same wiht kids, I hoped this helped, And im not saying violence is the answer, Im just saying that you have to give them a reason to give u respect if they r giving u none.

ya kinda, i kno some of her frineds but really dont talk to them much, and she knows alot of my friends