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    That's a great attitude to have, Foz! You definitely can't be friends with an ex that you still have feelings for. That only leads to heartache and more pain. Hang in there.....it does get better.
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    Your quote really struck me, Trish! I also remember laughing, making future vacation plans (7-day cruise), and both of us confiding things in each other just HOURS before my ex broke up with me. I still can't figure out what happened (although I make guesses and get options), but fortunately I don't think about it all the time like I used to. It will be exactly 4 months for me as well and I'm also feeling much more in control of my life. But there were days when I never thought I could EVER get over my ex in spite of other people telling me that it would take time. Do you know what? It does take time, but it happens! For anyone going through a breakup....eventually you will start feeling better and feel more in control of your own life. Even if you can't see it yet, you will. Do I still have moments of sadness? Of course! Do I still feel angry that my ex just threw our relationship away like it meant nothing to him? Definitely! But I'm moving on with my life...and am realizing that there IS someone better for me out there...I just have to be open to the possibilities and go out and find him.
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    I completely agree with you there! All the wishing & hoping in the world will not do you any good unless the person that initiated the breakup wants you back. And don't wait around for that to happen either! Live your life and you will heal a lot faster than if you put your life on hold for them. And many dumpers do exactly that! Or they throw out the "let's be friends" line and many people actually agree to it because they want to maintain a connection with their ex, not realizing how much it will hurt them in the long run (or hold them back from living their life). Excellent points, Mazurka!
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    Blue Eyes, I'm so sorry for the pain that you are going through. It takes time to get over a relationship. One of the best things to do (besides exercise - great job starting that!) is keeping busy. Go out with friends, take up a new hobby, sign up for some classes. And when you're feeling down, call one of your friends and talk to them or if it's the middle of the night and you can't sleep... come to these message boards and read/post a message (or any time of the day!) Many times there is someone else who can't sleep either because they are going through the same thing, and it definitely helps knowing that there are others who feel the same way that you can talk to. Hang in there. Angel
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    ITA! Same situation with me...he kept saying that I was the best thing that ever happened to him, he still loves me, etc., yet he kept coming up with reasons why the relationship was not working. It was just excuses maybe to justify to himself why he wanted to end things. Sometimes you just have to listen to what someone is saying no matter how painful it is in order to move on with your life.
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    I wish that I could get to that stage. What happens when you have to constantly see them....at least weekly if not more....and they keep hanging around you (or hovering in your general area), but won't say anything to you? I've been very successive at ignoring him, but it's so difficult! I just refuse to let him see how hurt I still am since he'll try and take advantage of me (again) and play the "let's be friends" card again.
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    Foz, I'm so sorry for all the heartache you are going through. We've all been through it and it's one of the hardest things to live through. Sometimes it seems as if you can never get through a day (or even an hour!) without crying. But eventually the tears will stop....maybe not today or tomorrow since the pain of the breakup is still fresh, but one day soon, you will not want to cry anymore. I would definitely go back to doing NC. As for being friends with him? NO WAY! Not only will seeing him will be a constant reminder that you are no longer together, but you will have to deal with him telling you about his life. You need to focus on yourself right now without having to deal with talking to him. It's self preservation. Keep coming back to these boards and post whenever you start feeling down. You will find a tremendous amount of support here and it helps. Hang in there. Angel
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    This post is even BETTER the second (and third, and fourth) time around. Anyone going through a breakup should print a copy of this post and keep it around to read whenever you start feeling depressed. KUDOS on some excellent advice.
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    Both of you have great points! It could also be that they don't want us in their lives, but they don't want us to be happy living our life without them either especially if their life isn't so great since they broke up with us. Just my 2 cents worth.....
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    I've been doing this myself! After being dumped, it's amazing what having other guys flirt and show interest in you will do to improve your self-esteem. Something that I really needed to experience after my ex shot my self-confidence as a woman to H***. It's good to know that others are doing the same thing.
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    Trish, I agree with Blue on this one. Since you didn't know you were breaking NC by sending these jokes, you've maintained the NC on your end. The minute you realized what was happening, you took him name off the list. And at least you didn't send out the life stories. So give yourself a break, girlfriend! You've been doing GREAT for the past 4 weeks. Angel
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    WOW! Awesome words, Michael! There were several traumatic moments in my life and I remember thinking at the time that I wouldn't survive them. But you're right - with time, I did. And my ex breaking up with me doesn't even compare to what I went through and when I think about it that way, I do know that I will get past this too. All of the posts in this thread have been very insightful and they definitely help.
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    That's exactly what my ex is doing to me! As soon as I implemented NC, he began calling & emailing me constantly, but once I responded, he took off running again. He's also a classic commitment phobe and you're right! I don't need that! I definitely have to put myself first, but that's hard for me since I tend to put other people's wants & needs above my own. (Part of the problem with my relationship with him). Any suggestions?
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