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ok, i am sooo confused its not even funny, i dont know what to do.....i love him to death, but i cant stand the way he is treating me, and i will loose everything if i leave him, i wont have a job, no transportation, i wont be able to get my daughter to the doctors office or anything. i cant see myself with another man, yet i dont want to leave him i love him. i have tried talking to him, but he just doesnt seem to get the message. this is a loose loose situation. i want emily to be able to grow up with both of her parents but i dont want to live this way, i want to be able to go out with my friends, without him getting mad. i want to be able to do things without him getting mad, i want to be myself without him critcizing me. i love him....sooooo much but i hate living like this... i need help. i dont want to live alone. someone help me.

dang on....yall got some really good, ideas....my man ant that kinky, ive seen porn really really kinky and ive always wanted a man that kinky...

The donkey punch sound like it would hurt, lol....i would never like to have a man do that to me. ive always liked the man to have the controll and do whatever he wants to me, i might sound weird but, i like it when my man pretends to rape me, i dont know, it turns me on....i guess you can say i like it rough. although i can get a good orgasm in missionary but i get mulitple in doggie, got to go with doggie!!!

Hey fun survey!!! 1. I love giving head, its fun to look up at him and give him that sexy look guys always have loved...ive only swallowed once, i dont like it too much, but i would prolly do it if he asked me to. 2. OMG, i love it when he gives me head, its like almost the best feeling in the whole world, as long as he knows what hes doing, i still think woman are best at it, only because woman know what woman want!!! 3. i like it doggie style, and i love it when he goes down on me. oh! hes pretty good when it comes to fingering. 4. The most imtimate way of making love is prolly vaginal i agree, that way you can see your partners eyes and feel the passion. 5. Anal sex is nasty i think, ive never tried it, and i hate to say it, but i saw it in a porn one time and her you know what was hugh from doing that....im sorry its sick! but i guess its your preference.

i know the reason why i have been mislead by men like that, is because i am turned on by the bad boy image and the tattoos and stuff like that, i dont know why but i am...i think tats are sexy as goes for the bad boy image....lol call me weird but i do.....somegirls are attracted by that, either that or they are just trying to rebell against their parents, it just depends on the girl and her situation....but girls do appreciate men that treat them right....i know i went from loving the bad boy image to wanting to have a real romance...i think its woman growing older...

i know the reason why i have been mislead by men like that, is because i am turned on by the bad boy image and the tattoos and stuff like that, i dont know why but i am...i think tats are sexy as goes for the bad boy image....lol call me weird but i do.....

ok, first of all my current does not know that i have feelings for this other guy, now he does know that if he doesnt strieghten up then i am going to leave him, i have not and will not cheat on him, just because i have thoughts about another men does not make me a bad person, yall men have thoughts about other woman all the time....i love johnny( my current) very much, but i dont love him to the extent that i am willing to stay in this relationship with him hurting me. i dont know why he is sooo insecure but he is, he has had really hurtful relationships in the past where other woman has hurt him...so that is probably the reason why, and he hasnt married me yet because he has seen his family go through horrible divorces and he doesnt want to go through it himself, and i dont blame him, i dont want to go through it either, im glad that i am finding out that we are not getting alone good at all now, rather than to find out when we get married, i am not a bad person, and plus this ex of mine is a really close friend of mine, i can talk to him about anything, and i trust him.

Johnny ( my boyfriend) and i have been together for about a year and a half now, we have gone throught soooo much together, some really hard times, and have grown really close, but i believe his insecurity is really hurting our relationship, i have known Jamie( the other guy) for about 5-6 years now i think... like i said we have dated off and on, and they have been off and on for 5 years, but she treats him like crap, and its because of her insecurity also!!! Jamie treats me soo good, but last time we were together i wasnt ready for a relationship and i screwed up...i asked him if there was ever a chance that we would get back together then would he, he sounded kinda puzzled...and he said that he would have to think about it. but i am going to sit and talk to him tonight so hopefuly i will get some answers.

i have my mother, but i dont want to move back home, i want to be out on my own. uumm, my grandmother but they have my 17yr old brother, and trust me they have enough on their platter....my father who is moving down here from chicago, but thing is i live in Haymarket, and i love my job, and i dont want to leave it, its good money, and hes moving to norfolk and thats like 4hours away from here. but i would love to live with them, but just really need to be financially stable, my father also knows that my relationship with him is rocky and he said that his doors are open anytime i need them...i dont really have many girlfriends anymore only because once me and him started dating and i got pregnant...we stopped hangin out with them, cause when we met all we did was drink and party.... and plus those people were nothing but DRAMA, and johnny (my boyfriend) couldnt stand me hanging out with them...he hates my friends, he hates it when i hang out with them, i dont know why but he does.... i mean thing is, im also wanting to see other men, cause i dont feel loved enough is this relationship, is this wrong??? should i be thinking this...actually i have been feeling this way for a long time now....IS it wrong????

yes we do have interesting views, but men do also, wouldnt yall men like to know what we talk about when men are not around....lol us perverted??? lol, thats funny

if hes telling you that he hasnt spanked his money in a while then hes lieng, all guys do, more than we see and hear about! trust me ive caught mine doing it a couple of times. then he denys doing...., so its a hugh lie, unless your man is completely and i mean COPLETLY SAT-IS-FIED, then hes lieing....

ok, i am with someone, been with him for about a year and a half now, but theres this guy that i have known, lets see i graduated in 2002, and i met him in the 10th grade, i dated his bestfriend... so ive known him since 1999, we have been bestfriends for soo long now, we have even tried dating...but didnt work out, i wasnt ready for a relationship with him. but its been a while since we have talked, i guess ever since i started dating the one i am with now. well just this past April i called him, to ask him a question about my car, i always trusted him like that. (i am very picky who i talk and let touch my car) ever since i started talking to him again, everytime i talk to him i just want to run into his arms and have him old me alll night long!!! hes soo intouch with my feelings and is sooo sweet to me no matter what i say or do, hes not worried about me going out and doing what i want to do, and he lets me be who i want to be. but the other catch is, he has a girlfriend that hes been dating off and on for 5 years. things are not working out for them, shes VERY VERY VERY VERY VERY insecure so you can imagine the misery with them. i want to be with him, but i dont know what i should do.

I dont know how many times i have talked to him and told him that what he says to me and how he treats me, hurts me. everytime i tell him so.....all he does he get mad and say "whatever, whatever" and gets loud with me, and tells me that hes just joking with me, i tell him that it hurts when he critizises me for everthing and jokes with me about little things, like things i want to do or things i say...like wanting to go hang out with my girlfriends, something i do every once in a blue moon. or tell him that theres something that i want to do, see thing is...we used to go out before i got pregnant, and before we actually "got together" well i tell him that i want us to go out and do something together and when i suggest to him where i want to go, being as i want to go somewhere, the places we used to hang out. if i suggest something that we used to do together, he gets all mad and says to me " i dont have the need to go out anymore, i dont want to go out anywhere. and just gets all mad...i dont know what to do with him, but he wont change. theres where the belittling comes in, he treats me as if i am still a teenager and acts like i need to be grown up and act as an adult, and i do....but once in a while i would like to go hang out with friends and do things i used to do, like play pool or go bowling, having a child does not stop me from going on with my life and doing things i would like to do. does that help yall out a little????

Hey dont stress, concentrate on school and your family and friends, when you meet the right girl youll know, and it will be sooo awsome. your education and family/friends are the most important thing in your life now, trust me youll be ok...

LIVE TO LOVE- ok, now dont take my word for this but, it seems almost as if you had feelings for him that he did not know about. i have been and i am in the same position you are. you want to talk to him about this, which would be a great idea, it would give you resolution and closure and might, just might bring up feelings that he didnt know he had for you. it could give you something that you wanted, i mean it never hurts to try...

ok yall, i need some info...my sex life isnt all that great, i mean hes great in bed, but i need some new ideas to spice it up in the bedroom!!! i like it kinky, he just wants it period!!! lol help me!!!

A girl and guy yalls ages should not worrie even about the opposite sex, have fun, go out party, hang out with your friends and especially your family, althought most importantly concentrate on SCHOOL!!! and education is more important than anything. i made that mistake, i mean i did my fair share of partying and i didnt do too good in school, i dropped out cause i was on drugs, and i was dating "the coolest guy on earth" haha yea right...so yea concentrate on your SCHOOL WORK, family and friends, its not worth it if you blow it all away!!!

so even if we do split up, if my daughter has his last name would he have more rights to her than i do????? im scared he could take her from me...

You have no idea how much talking about this with yall is helping me, hearing other peoples stories helps to know that i am not the only one going through this, although i have to say that im not sooo sure how much longer i can deal with this, although i have no money and i dont want to go back living with my mother, i want to be on my own. so im going to have to ruff through it until i cant get on my own two feet, i mean i love him and all, and i mean hes a good man, hardworking, and loves his daughter, but only helps me around the house when he wants to, laundry, cleaning and with emily (my daughter) he only does things when its a good time for him. when she comes home at night from being at my mothers, he doesnt change her diaper, he doesnt get up with her in the morning when hes off, the only nights that he puts her to sleep are the nights that i am not home, which are 4nights a week. all of the other days i am the only one doing things. and he complains when i need him to do something, i dont know.........im hurt, ive told him, but he wont listen....how can i get through to him, i want to make this work...give me some segestions.....

thanks for the advice guys i appreaciate it, its helping me make my decision, the hardest one i have had to make.

i greatly appreciate you replying soo quickly, im new to this site but i find it very helpfull, only because these are people you dont know and wont feel embarrased to tell them your problems, i cant really rely on family they tend to just tell me what to do instead of telling me to follow my heart or whatever. although i was for sure that this was the one guy that i wanted to be with for the rest of my life, i wanted to get married to him until i started getting angry with him for little things he said to me, for example he kids around with me but somethings he says really hurt, they are mostly pertaining to the way i do things, and to my body. sometimes he will critisize me for things that i want to do or have done, or he gets mad when i want to go out and hang out with my friends, i mean i dont hang out with my friends at all i mean i have hung out with them maybe once every 2 months or so. the only thing holding me back from leaving him is if i do leave him, i will loose everything, the car, my 2jobs and a place to live, i dont want to go back to my mothers, i want to live on my own. im sooo confused...i mean im hurting sooo much that its affecting my work.

my boyfriend and i have been together for about a year and a half now, i have gotten from numerous people, people that i rely on, that he belittles me and takes advantage of me and the way he talks to me is not right, would it be abuse if he does belittle me, and the way he talks to me makes me upset and angery? he does not hurt me physically but he does emotionally... i dont know what to do, we have a daughter together and i dont want to stay with him because of her,but also i know that she loves her daddy, but i cant stay with him if we are not happy, im tired of fighting with him,he thinks he is not doing anything wrong. its not worth my time and stress. what should i do and is this real abuse?