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Yeah, I dont really know. It just seems like my braces are singling me out when Im with a girl. I mean no ones perfect but it feels like this counts as 10 imperfections. Maybe its because lots of people already have them off, and I still dont....? Thanks for the quick reply.

Im not a very shy person, and I dont have problems with meeting people. However I do have one thing that Im very self-conscious about- braces. Im 17 and still have braces on, it seems like they will never come off. And im at a point where I seriously believe that girls hesistate when with me because of the braces. Its hard for me to smile at a girl because Im afriad the first thing they'll notice is the braces. Ive been flirting with girls when they suddenly ask when Im getting my braces off. As if I dont already know its a red flag for, "youd look a lot better without braces" Which I know is a given, but what the **** am I supposed to do about it. Im not getting them off for a while, so Im wondering, girls, is it a big letdown when you see a guy with braces (highschoolers response needed). And how much of a negative is it. Thanks for replies in advance.

eh, I can see the freezing thing happening. I used to know a girl who was so pretty my friend and I would stop talking to watch her go by. But it wasnt like if she approached I would still be in shock, she was just able to divert attention onto her, wiping the thought process blank for a bit as she passed, hence the "freezing up" Ive never seen I guy actually freeze on the spot though, like during conversation or something, I always thought that was just hollywood exploiting nerds lol.

Thank you for the quick reply. What in quick response is a hernia? Should I be concerned if it is one? Thanks.

So Ive been kinda worried lately about down below. Ive noticed the connection from my left teste up to my body has "extra" stuff their. The texture is soft and like body tissue. It hurts if I move it around, but it hurts up near my lower stomach when I do so, and when I workout and do situps my lower back and the same lower stomch spot have a settle ache to them. Should I be worried about pre-testicular cancer and should I see anyone? Thank you.

How do I show a girl what I could be for her. I like this girl like no other but the problem is im her good friend. She is trying to get over another guy and having some trouble moving on. How do I show her that i could be what helps her move on. Sry about the confusing post im pressed for time and not really willing to go into detail. So how do I show a girl what i can be for her, she already knows me really well, just not that side. Ive tried to show her that side, but its kinda hard cuz I dont wanna completely dump on her that i like her. AHH!!!

Thanks for the replies, its given me that last boost of confidence. I'm going to talk to her about it hopefully I will get chance today, if not tom. I should let you guys know what happened in the next couple days for sure though. Thanks.

Please, anyone?

Wow I need some serious help now. OK so this girl is one of my really good friends, and I really like her, and it seems like the flirting is genuine. So I talked to one of her friends for an opinion. Her friend said "I would be careful about how attatched you get, she sees you as one of her best friends" And this is killing me, what do I do?! Do I ignore it and just try to be her friend (Which I doubt I will be able to do) Do I make a move risking it all? Do I confess to her? Do I get away from her (which would hurt her) Please feedback!

Wow Deadeyes, it has been a while, sounds like your doing better though. Its always tough to find an approachable environment isnt it But I guess thats life. Man, this stuff really is confusing at times lol. drydupfob, Yes I have considered which is more important to me, and I think I would rather go for it, but the only reason I'm thinking that is because of the flirting. We already go on "unofficial dates" asking each other if we wanna hang out lol, then we end up going to dinner or something, so.... I'm not sure about what that means. Do you believe in physical signs to tell if flirting is genuine? Example: if she is attracted to you when you look at her and she looks back her pupils will become dialated, her skin might become flushed, she fiddles with her hands, she speeds or slows her talking to adjust to yours, same with volume. Are those real signs or just BS to give guys like me a little more confidence? But I definantly wanna go for it. Ill PM you later, I have to go now. Thanks all.

Lol, well, arent we right back where we started? I just dont want to make a move and ruin a friendship because I was looking at things the wrong way, thats all. Thanks for your replies, anymore are welcome.

Well I agree with smallworld, its a good idea to pick out a conversation starter, just try not to overthink it and have a whole dialogue planned, just a simple question to ask after a nice "hey" or something. Try not to overanalyze. And I dont know how well I can explain this, but I'm going to try. Put yourself in her position, and imagine someone approaching you and freezing up, how would you feel, you wouldnt get mad or scared would you? So why would she? So just think it cant hurt to say hey, and if she does get mad is she really the type of person you want to be with? It helps me when I freeze up, maybe it will for you. I hope I explained that ok, I tried but I dont think it turned out 100% the way I wanted it to. But what ever does Hope that helps

Ok so I don't know how many times this topic has been brought up but I wan't to put it in my own words. Does flirting mean there is some connection? Is it possible to flirt and not have a connection? I have a good friend, who I never got to date but almost did. Well she had a boyfriend after and we got to be really good friends (even though I still had feelings for her ) while they went out. To make a long story short she broke up with him and is doing better. We hang out a lot now, and there is lots of flirting, really obvious things, staring into each others eyes. Really light touching, just innocent. So I know its flirting. Does this mean I can make a move? Or is there such a thing as flirting without a connection, just having fun? (Think I got my point accross? ) Thanks.

looks really do matter, no matter what people say. Maybe with the exception of a few relationships. Otherwise, its about looks, then personality.

please read this thread it explains the situation A LOT better. link removed and i really just need feedback

wo sorry kind of out of it, Iread that you dont qualify legally. Have you found that out for sure? if not than check, talk to you doctor about it.

Btw I dont ever take ritalin, I took it with the aderall (but in a very very small amount) that could have been the problem. just tell your doctor exactly what you said in this thread (maybe changed a little bit) peace

NONONONONO Exactly 12 hours ago I took aderall for the 1st time illegally, and yes it did make me feel good, BUT I DIDN'T SLEEP ALL NIGHT. It was the worst im so tired right now. If I ever do it again I will take it in the morning. Your getting ripped off for 10 bucks a pill, I can get lots for free. Your really getting ripped off. Talk to your doctor explaining your situation, and remind him about patient-doctor confidentiality. The doctor wouldnt risk his career to try and get you in trouble. so your safe telling him.

I can take 30 second to 30 minutes to get off. Try visuals it helps a lot. Dont give up sounds to me like your not orgasming. When your doing it stay concentrated, dont let your mind wander. Try playing music just to have some noise in the backround so its not silent, that always gets me off track when its quiet. Go to the bathroom before, and when your doing it flex as if your trying to hold yourself from going to the bathroom. use lube also. peace

Lol I think its different for each guy. I do it like 2-4 times a day. Most of my friends do also. I only know of a few guys who rarely do it, and don't know of any guys who dont do it. So it varies, there is no right answer. as for the thread starter, I dont think its wrong at all your doing that, ive cancelled plans to stay home and masturbate, granted it probally takes me a lot less time and I can just tell my friends ill be late. my .02$

I wish I could masturbate in bed but being a guy its not effective for me. Usually just in my room and often in the shower Ive done it at work ONCE, This girl was really turning me on. But I felt really really gross and guilty afterwards and regret I did. Probally the weirdest place ive ever done it peace

Ive never done it from masturbation or had it happen to me. Next time it happens, try to remember your moods, what you ate that day. Thoughts. And of course what was going on inside the bedroom. Peace.

go to the bathroom before if you can maybe? I cant talk from personal experience cuz I am a guy. But my friend when she masturbates in the shower likes to spread her legs under the bath stream and it works for her. But again it depends on the girl and if she likes it to be soft, hard, something inside you or on your clit. Experiment (combinations etc.). And maybe, dont give up to soon. Try going at it for while. If you pee, pee then. maybe take a quick break and start over again. And try to think things that turn you on, you maybe turned on by one thing, but search around, you may find another turn on you didnt know you liked. Goodluck, be safe. ps. I was reading another thread after this and someone had the same peeing issue as you, and went to her doctor who said it was a side effect of a medication (paxil I think) Could be the issue if you are taking something maybe? Personally I think its just something new your body needs to experience. My 2 cents

Thanks for all your advice you guys, it really helps. The reason I posted this was becuase I found a girl who was perfect in personality and looks, and I was so close to having her and life screwed me over. Things never got off the ground. Now, shes going out with my best friend. My friend and I are almost exactly alike, but he has the looks, and her. I'm still friends with her, and we are really close, as friends. And everytime I hang out with her, it's like a reminder of how I will be outdone. I guess in the end it was a combination of bad luck and a little lack of confidence. We had a good connection over the internet and phone (we've known each other forever but we hadnt hung out in a while), but she went on vacation for two weeks and then when she came back, I left for two weeks, and when I got back it went dead for some crazy reason (she started hanging out with my best friend) But between our two vacations there was a 3 day period where I didn't take advantage of anything. I want to be over her, I want to just forget about it all. And I am trying to make an effort to find someone else. And when I meet someone else, I connect and there are some really nice people out there. But its hasnt been as perfect as it was with her. And thats where I can't help myself. I keep thinking about how I could have had something But I screwed it over. I find a girl where I know there could be something possibly, but it could have been better with the other girl. My best friend and I are really alike, we look for the same things in girls, and when it comes down to looks we also have the same taste. And in the 8 years Ive known him we usually like the same girl, and he has ALWAYS gotten her. And I have gotten used to the fact that they will always pick him. He'll find a girl and start a small friendship, Ill meet her and just like him will start a friendship, we both like her. He gets her, hes not doing it to be mean or anything, hes an awsome friend, its just what happens. we both initiate things, its not like im not doing anything, she just has always chosen him. The thing that was different about this girl was, I started the friendship first, he barely knew her, and didn't talk to her. And he still gets her. When she told me that she liked him, I couldnt believe it. He is usually the one who finds a girl and when he starts liking her then I do after also. And I told myself I wasnt going to let that happen anymore. So I finally found someone else, and I started liking her. And he STILL gets her. I feel completely defeated and hopeless. The one big difference between his personality/ways and mine, is he is not good at keeping relationships. But I cant really go after the girls after he has broken up with her because by that time I'm just her friend she can vent on, nothing more, (and im usually over them). And it would piss him off (not that I would care if it was for the girl) And he actually just recently broke up with this girl (the one I like), and then realized what he was giving up and got back with her, and is definantly going to be staying with her. And out of the 5 years Ive known her, that is the ONLY thing I can find wrong about her, she took him back after he screwed her over. And the ONE girl that I've really fallen, he breaks up with her like normal in the cycle, and out of all the times this has happened, he decides get back with her, and of all the times, this one girl that I cannot get over. I guess its not mean to be. But then what is meant to be for me, what am I doing wrong. It really seems like fate is just shoveling all the bad stuff at me. All I want is someone to laugh with and love. And I found that person, but I cant have her, and I need to get over her, and I am prepared to (I think). But I cant find someone else that will be like her. She has raised the bar to high it seems. Please adive! I'd like to say its not me, but you people need to tell me if it is me. I just dont see how it can, I can hold a conversation fine, I'm really outgoing (im not nervous at all) I can really get a girl to talk to me most of the time. I'm normally a fun guy and usually see the brighter side of things (not this time) I never feel unconfident, I will make a move if its right. I just screwed up once and lost it all. Its a harsh world. Sry all Im rambling waaay to much, just had to get that out, please tell me what you think. I hope that post made sense, there are just so many aspects to this all and a lot to talk about. What do I do. It hurts. (wow it felt good to get that out and even better that hopefully someone will be reading it. because at the moment I have know one to talk to about this all (but thats another issue on how I was screwed over, lol wow I need a new life).) Sorry about the long post.....

are there any girls out there who look past looks, i know there are, where are you girls. you seem to find a good looking guy and then just say he is good on the inside. i will always be outdone by these guys...............