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Yeah she misses me but i spose im most confused about where she's at? Think about her all the time, i didnt show i was sad at all during the call. I just dont know what to do now, i want to send her an email telling her where im at and what i want and ask her to tell me how she is going with things but i think it'll just hurt. ugggh, i'd love to tell her maybe in time we could be back together is this a good idea? I just need the space now to get myself together.

Yeah i broke it off with my gf 7 weeks ago. I felt it was the right move until about 2 weeks ago now im starting to be uncertain. She called recently and all those feelings were there, i'm totally uncertain adn while i am i'm just going to keep getting on with my life, keep building on myself. I really dont know what will happen and dont know whether anyone really does. At the moment though because im unsure i want to try again (which would be like the 4th time for us) im not going to. If you think its right pika go for it and talk with him, he'll be missing you and if you make it clear what your intentions are you're giving it the best chance. The 2months thing would have been shock and denial. Good luck

Man you need to see someone and talk. Its a common place you're in i was like that a few yrs back and it was really bad. But we get through it. See a counsellor then you'll have someone who understands. Nooone can understand your situation if you keep it inside. Noone's a mind reader. Society can be hopeless and is to anextent blindly followed, but you can make it your choice not to blindly follow it. And there are lots of good things in society too that i dont think you're picking up on because you're caught up in all this other stuff. Take the pressure off yourself. See someone.

I think she likes you man. and if you like her its time to make a move or you might lose the chance. Maybe im wrong but sheesh if you like her you have to have a go. Just be confident, sounds like you're worried to try, dont be. Just say hi again and keep the convo going. Even just ask her out straight away after hi next time. Ask her what shes doing after work and if she wants to meet up somewhere. Confidence mate, confidence. Smile too. Hope it works out.

Hey people. I was hoping to get some advice on what my 1st ex gf is up to. We were together for 2and a half yrs. I left and there were other times we broke up. Its been almost 7 weeks and im still hurting. I'm getting there though. Anyway she rang the other night saying the local calls part of the phone bill had been delayed and was on this bill. We'd already sorted this stuff out b4 and hadnt talked for the last month. Anyway to cut it short. The three things im confused about are. 1. the bill came to $15 for me? couldnt she have just payed it. 2. I asked what her account details were then she said to put it in our shared account and said she had kept forgetting to close it down? 3. She had ben harper (a cd i loved and own she only sortof liked it) on in the background??? Dont know whether she borrowed it or bought it or what? We then talked about how we were for 20 odd mins, it hurt so much to hang up. I'm heaps confused now, i still love her alot and often think in a couple of years we could be ready to be together. Can anyone tell me what their take is on this? What might she be doing? Thanks

So you want to get back with him but its not happening yet? A restaurant is a good idea, im just not sure what you want out of the night other than having him think of you for his summer. I reckon you should let him know how you feel if you really want himback. Talk about what you've learnt and how you want the reship to be

Yeah you're both right. There are heaps of women out there, i was just really attracted to this one and there was a flicker of a spark there aswell. I spose im still in disneyland a bit after our breakup, im not really going fine, its heaps hard. I want to be single for atleast another 6 mths, just had some dreams of connecting with her friend after that period but i should leave it. Thanks again.

Yeah good advice ched. Mate take it easy on yourself, life does work out but once you hit your age you see the waves better. Some are huge suckers that'll keep you under for awhile, but millions in the world ride them out, and head back out the back, somtimes you wipe out but there's heaps of awesome rides in your life that its well worth getting back out there so to speak. You should talk to someone if your physically urting yourself. What you have to remember is your not crazy. Counsellors are for everyone and your form of physical punishment isnt that bad. People resort to all types of physical punishment, drugs alcohol. But as chad says you have to look after you first buddy, your doing this 'cause your not happy with yourself for what happened, chill on that and have a chat to someone. 8)

Hey people, i've broken up with my gf of 2 and a half yrs five weeks ago. The pain is still there but i think im going ok. What im wondering about though is i sortof had a crush on one of her friends. In time i would love to meet her and go out and date but i just dont know if its too weird. You see i dont have her phone number only her email and she doesnt even know that so it would be a complete surprise for her or even quite weird. Also i really dont want to hurt my ex and even though this friend isnt her best friend (they catchup probably 2/3 times a yr i just dont know what it will do to her. Any suggestions?