Massari Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 Hello All I haven't been here for a long time, been Married for a couple years and I am glad this site is still alive and active. Thank you all! I won't say my marriage is perfect it's far from it but a lot of the issues has to do with how my family is. They seem to interfere sometimes and to her this became a big deal. Fast Forward, She thinks I don't appreciate or respect her or don't care about her but I do. I sponsored her and she has Canadian PR now because of me. I did a lot for her and she keeps thinking I value my family over her and I don't! Even her family would agree that I was good to her. I don't want to go over details about her issues with my family as both sides including me made mistakes. Anyhow, I used to have a specific haircut due to my hair loss. I am not bald but I am loosing hair on my top middle or my head so the best haircut for me is 0 on sides and short on top with a line on my lift side to separate the side. She said why do I shave off so much and I looked bald. I usually get haircut like this. Before I was married to her I had this haircut. Even when I met here i had the same kind of haircut. She bullies her way for weed also. As you know weed is legal in Canada. I don't smoke it i like to eat it. She doesn't like that either. Can she dictate to me about my hair? I don't think she can. I have a right to do what ever the ***** i want with my hair. BTW this is not me in my avatar. but similar looking! Thank you. please advise Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 I think you should have your hair cut however you like it. You've been doing it for years, so has she complained about it before now? You have a reason for your hair cut, so stick with it. Link to comment
Massari Posted January 4, 2020 Author Share Posted January 4, 2020 sometimes she complains sometimes she doesn't! it's random. she is on her period now. Link to comment
Carus Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 I’ve been a customer of Ashley&Martin hair growth company for years now and I have a full head of hair. It really works! A&M are in Australia but perhaps you could see if they have an equivalent in Canada....* The ingredients to look for are: Finisteride. Saw Palmetto. Minoxinil. To your question, my gf wants me to cut my hair all the time. I tell her ‘No’....I’ll cut my hair when I’m good and ready! S’up to you bud. Becoming a ‘Yes Man’ or a doormat will not bode well for your relationship..* Carus* Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 You can have your hair any way you like. Link to comment
Carus Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 You can have your hair any way you like. Yes. I believe there’s deeper issues going on here...as in, it’s not just about the hair.... She sounds like what could be termed a ‘Control Freak’ who needs to feel like she has control of everything. The problem with that is that let’s say OP does cut his hair the way she wants...then it will be something else, then something else...ad nauseum... Only ways to deal with that is have good boundaries and a firm constitution....or leave... People will treat you how you let them* Again OP, Google A&M and see what you can find...You don’t have to be losing your hair at all* Regards Carus* Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 Are you saying she tends to nag a lot? Link to comment
Spawn Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 Why dont you both go together to your hairstylist and let the stylist advice you both on what best suits you...maybe she just wants hear it from a professional...try that it might close this once n for all Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted January 4, 2020 Share Posted January 4, 2020 Tell her you won't criticize about her hairstyle if she'll leave you alone regarding your haircut. Or, strike a deal with her. Tell her she can have her weed as long as she remains silent about your haircut. Link to comment
Gary Snyder Posted January 5, 2020 Share Posted January 5, 2020 Moody women are not very fun. Link to comment
Massari Posted January 5, 2020 Author Share Posted January 5, 2020 Thank you all for the advise. I have been thinking of divorcing her for a while and tonight some very harsh words were said I just need to ensure. Link to comment
Massari Posted January 5, 2020 Author Share Posted January 5, 2020 Yes. I believe there’s deeper issues going on here...as in, it’s not just abot CT ut the hair.... She sounds like what could be termed a ‘Control Freak’ who needs to feel like she has control of everything. The problem with that is that let’s say OP does cut his hair the way she wants...then it will be something else, then something else...ad nauseum... Only ways to deal with that is have good boundaries and a firm constitution....or leave... People will treat you how you let them* Again OP, Google A&M and see what you can find...You don’t have to be losing your hair at all* Regards Carus* you are right on the money, we have lots of issues and she keeps connecting all of the together, Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 5, 2020 Share Posted January 5, 2020 Sorry to hear this. Would you consider marriage therapy before contacting an attorney? Because you know this is not about haircuts.I have been thinking of divorcing her for a while Link to comment
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