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    Messaging and cheating?

    I am in a long distance relationship. Message with my boyfriend every day, night. Last night he messaged me the usual good night message. He then repeated the message with slightly different wording. I asked about the "echo"and he said he didn't know what happened.

    I'm jealous so need impartial advice. Could he be cheating?

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    It's possible. That's one of the many cons of LDRs. If a person is cheating, it takes longer to find out about affairs because you're not around the partner often enough to see what's going on.

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    I agree with you. That seems a bit odd. I dated a scatterbrain once and it wasn't pleasant. I do believe people make mistakes but I'd find it very out of character if it was my husband. If it's out of character for him to carelessly message you that way, well... you have your answer.

    Have you met him before? Why settle for a long distance relationship?

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    Have you met?

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    Have you met in person? How often do you see each other? How are the in person interactions? Are you thinking he is texting others the same thing as you and he forgot/mistexted?
    Originally Posted by suesullivan1
    I am in a long distance relationship. Message with my boyfriend every day, night. Last night he messaged me the usual good night message. He then repeated the message with slightly different wording. I asked about the "echo"and he said he didn't know what happened.

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    Originally Posted by Wiseman2
    Have you met in person? How often do you see each other? How are the in person interactions? Are you thinking he is texting others the same thing as you and he forgot/mistexted?
    We have been together for 2 years. Up until last weekend we saw each other every weekend. We lived 2 hours apart, both near our work. I suspected him of sexting but he adamantly denied it.

    He decided to go back to truck driving so now we'll see each other every 2 weeks at most.

    He is somewhat of a scatter brain but when I asked him why he texted the same 3 messages almost identically why didn't he just say "I spaced'. He replied "I don't know"
    Before him I was in a 35
    plus year, abusive, marriage.
    Last edited by suesullivan1; 04-12-2019 at 12:09 PM. Reason: Typo

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    Originally Posted by suesullivan1
    We have been together for 2 years. Up until last weekend we saw each other every weekend. We lived 2 hours apart, both near our work. I suspected him of sexting but he adamantly denied it.

    He decided to go back to truck driving so now we'll see each other every 2 weeks at most.

    He is somewhat of a scatter brain but when I asked him why he texted the same 3 messaged almost identically why didn't he just say "I spaced'. He replied "I don't know"
    That's a tad jerky, Sue, unless he was texting and driving or sleep-deprived when he wrote that. I don't think this is a steady or good relationship. I decided long ago 'IDK's weren't really my thing. Ever since then I never expected more out of people who use "I don't knows" and I also don't worry or stress about them anymore. I just walk away. I wouldn't date someone like this. There's so much more to life than worrying over cryptic or scatterbrained messages.

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    Thank you. I really thought I was in love with him. I'm questioning my feelings.

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    Seeing each other every few weeks might be enough to keep a relationship, but I would prefer once a week.

    Why is a repeat message so concerning to you? Were you cheated on in the past?

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    I think his answer of I don't know is what is bothering me. It's not the first incident like this. I haven't been cheated on before. I do however let my mind run wild. That is why I reached out for other's thoughts!

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