TheOutsider1 Posted August 22, 2016 Share Posted August 22, 2016 The day right before my birthday, I told my friend that “my birthday is tomorrow,” right after she asked what I was doing for the weekend. It was a normal conversation, she asked if I was going to celebrate it, and I told her that I had no plans. After that, we talked about school, guys, regular stuff. The next day was my birthday, and I didn’t hear from her. It’s been a couple of weeks since then. I know she’s been online lately because she posts stuff sometimes. So I don’t know why she’s been MIA. I am hurt that she didn’t wish me a happy birthday. I’m always there for her when she needs me, and I notice that’s usually the only time when I hear from her. Most of the time she cancels plans with me at the last minute, just because her boyfriend decided that he wants to see her. She basically drops everything for him. She also only contacts me when her boyfriend is out of town because she feels lonely, otherwise, she can go weeks to a month without talking to me, even when I try to reach out to her. She'll either ignore my texts, or she'll be very short. I’ve been considering to end the friendship, but I don’t know if I should just ignore her, whenever she does choose to contact me again. Or maybe I can reply but just be very short/brief in my replies, and then distance myself over time. Her, not wishing me a happy birthday isn’t the sole reason for my decision to wanting to end our friendship, that was more like the final straw that pushed me to be fed up with feeling unimportant to her. What do you guys think about my situation? Link to comment
pippy longstocking Posted August 22, 2016 Share Posted August 22, 2016 It sounds like it is a little one sided and I think we have all had * that * friend who ditches you at the first sniff of a pair of boxers . But said friend does also need time with her man ..I have a feeling you are good with that anyway . I wouldn't do anything hasty , but don't be so readily available for her in the future . Yes it would have been a nice gesture for her to get involved in your special day ... that says more about her then you .. Link to comment
mustlovedogs Posted August 22, 2016 Share Posted August 22, 2016 She is not as invested in the relationship as you are. You don't have to formally end this. It'll naturally peter out. Just stop initiating things. Don't make a huge, formal announcement that you're severing ties. Link to comment
melancholy123 Posted August 22, 2016 Share Posted August 22, 2016 Mustlovedogs summed up what I was going to say. Link to comment
j.man Posted August 22, 2016 Share Posted August 22, 2016 Friends aren't spouses. You're allowed to have more than one. Find a friend who likes doing birthday **** and is more dependable. Go to this friend for whatever she does that you enjoy. No reason for drama. Link to comment
Hollyj Posted August 22, 2016 Share Posted August 22, 2016 She's not your friend. She uses your companionship when it is convenient. I would simply stop replying. Get out more and meet new people. Link to comment
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