Katiebaby

Heya Ghost! Thats what I thought! We are still talking, bf doesnt seem to have an issue with it as i have nothing to hide really. We mostly talk about general stuff but every now n then we have a little flirt. Nothing major but inittially I was feelin really guilty about it... Now i dont feel guilt at all. Bf even sits in the room n we all chat togethe sometimes...

Just thought i'd add to that... The reason for having sex less is not because i am talking with other fellas, this flirty business has only been going on for a week or two, and the relationship has been feeling increasingly draining ever since we moved out. So for about four months or so. If the msn was affecting the relationship then I would end it no questions. It, like this very forum is a place I have been turning to when I need to talk or feel lonley or wanna chat to friends. And another thing... I am not talking with this other fella for the sole purpose of flirting, that would be using him. I talk with him because we are friends, we talk bout music, careers, bikes, all sorts of stuff. He lives in another state and is not my type physically he is just someone that is really cool to chat to.

Hey everyone thanks for your responses I'm pretty sure I agree with you all... KellBell hit the nail on the head. Now that I think about it it seems rediculous for one, but on the other its as if i'm substituting the attention i dont get from bf, with that from others. I quite enjoy the odd nod of approval in the street, and a flirty chat here and there, and he has seen the flirty messages and the flirty comments others have left me on my myspace page... Not that that makes the situation any better... I just wish that HE was the one giving me the attention. I do think about breaking up quite a lot. Altho u guys are the only ones who know about that... I couldn't do it to either of us- break up that is. My net friend encourages me to try and make things work, nd gives me some tips which have so far turned out helpful. 99% of the conversation is not flirting, but its just that when we do, it stirs up feelings inside that I haven't had for years. I never knew I had feelings like that in Me... Y couldnt bf bring them out? And the point from MoneyGod about being young... I have never even had that - gone out with the girls had a flirt, danced etc... him and I have been together for a long time... There has only been gaps of like 5 or 6 months between relationships with me so i really haven't experienced singledom, I tend to feel more secure within a relationship, but by then the chase is over, and it all becomes routine. I know damn well im not ready to be in this situation with the house and all. I wish I had waited but I think its high time I dealt with my issues like a grown up. See where the relationship takes me... Im just afraid of regretting anything. I doubt strongly that we will break up, but there is always that feeling...

First of all thanks for the replies guys! First of all let me clarif that i am not cybering or didrty talking with other men, just playful flirting... I have beel like that for ever. Thing is I feel bad about it because When I look forward to seeing bf, he comes home and is in a mood usually, and i am all huggy n trying to be sweet to him, and he doesn't want a bar of it. There are many times that I need a hug or a kind word, a compliment y'know nice positive things, and I seem to get all that off everyone else but him. It drives me nuts. But when I talk to other guyz they are happy to have a yak and all that... most of the time its innocent... Have me n bf ran out of things to talk about!? There is no real spark, nothing within me that screams yeah i wanna marry this guy, and i fear that there shud be... Which leads me to think maybe theres someone out there yet for me... But then theres the issue of leaving the relationship and realising 'oops'... I really want it to work out but its just hard playing the please him game all the time. I do so much for him and i just want some recognition. Some appreciation and some attention...And yes we have spoken - and been civil and tactful about it, but he always gets defensive. i even say, look its not ur fault but we both need to do something, we need to spend positive time together... I really wanna have a go of this and I make a bloody good effort but y wont he go out on a limb too... Like when I suggest we apply for a day off together to go n do lunch or something nice... I apply and he usually forgets or his boss says no at the last minute (not his fault of course) But yeah... lol sorry bout the 'novel' again Enotaloners!

Hi everyone. I have a problem. I have been chatting away on msn to a fella i met as a friend online. He knows im taken too by the way it was one of the first things i mentioned. Thing is we have been flirting a little and he has been so sweet. He knows about my homelife, and he sees bf's side, but he seems to b always there when i need someone to talk to, which bf usually isn't.. Let me just paint u a picture, sorry this may be long... Things have been difficult at home with my man and I. We have been together for almost three years, bought a house together, and been living together for about four months. The thing is, we have different weekends to one and other (i get sun n mon, he gets tue n wed) this has been the case during the most part of the relationship. It is not possible to have this changed, believe me, we have tried. When we see each other its only before and after work. there are always things to do around the house, and we tend to get grouchy at each other a lot. Thus, we fight, and then we solve it n sleep. So the good, fun quality time we have together is right there!! Another thing. I'm a person that needs me time. I need to be on my own for a little while each day to de stress, surf tha net, do whatever. I will also mention that he is a really nice guy most of the time when i have his attention. Okay heres the jucy part... I have been finding myself less and less content in the relationship, and we are having sex less, its almost like he feels like a posessive friend more than a boyfriend. I have been getting attention from a bloke online that we share a lot in common with, and also from co workers, male friends, you name it. I usually laugh off the attention because I knew bf would get jelous, he is like that. Now I have had many talks, arguments and heart to hearts with him about not feeling content but it usually ends badly or with a promise to take a day off together, which he has forgotten to do the last two times!! Giving me a chance to flirt with whoever will flirt back. The thing is with bf is that he is not always sensitive to things that I am... like when my uncle died he said for me not to be sad because it is dragging him down, and when i had the lump in my boob he said he didnt wanna talk about it. We have a house together. My folks went garentoor for us so if it goes bust and we have to sell and cant repay all of it, then it could b bad for mum n dad. I just feel really trapped. He doesn't pay attetion to me so I find myself looking for attention, but I feel guilty as hell. (oh and for ur info guys i would NEVER dream of cheating on him NO WAAY) It just feels yuk and i needed to get it out... any advice would b great! Thanks Luv Kate xoxo

Hey everyone first of all sorry it too this long to let you all know what was going on so much has gone on in life... but yeah. The lump disappeared the day of the appointment which lead the doc to think it was just a thing that goes along with ur period, and having said that, it has been about a month since all tht happened, so i have another lump this week... I will keep getting checked and she showed me how to check for myself. Thankyou all for the support and help. I really mean it you are all awsome xoxoxo Many many thanks

Hi everyone... my lump is still there... i am booked in for monday at 2pm, so i will jump on sometime after then to tell you all how it went. xoxoxo I just really want to thank you from the bottom of my heart for all your stories, support and well wishes... u guys are all great xo

Lol, so I am semi-normal lol glad im not the only one! I think i know what ur getting at... But heres the deal.. I have my day off, and I say right... " u worked hard all week, and today u can do NOTHING chill out, eat watch tv, just be an absolute veg..." But then i feel really crappy because i didn't achieve anything... my day wasn't productive.. If that makes any sense?? And then i have this enormous guilty feeling, and then I get really angry because im thinking "Hey, you could have done heaps today, but u did jack all" like i wasted a day.. But that seems intereresting about mini deadlines... care to elaborate??

OH MY GOD Girl we are soo twins right now!! when i was single i used to laugh my head off all day, go surfing, hoon around in my car, do whatever i wanted i guess i had an awsome time. My BF who ive been with for 3 yrs who i ABOLUTLEY adore have the occasional barney too, and he sits there all quiet, and i often find myself screaming put downs at him just to get him to spark up and say something back.... I often find its like arguing with a brick wall... then he gets upset and sulks off... meanwhile im standing red faced and heaving in the middle of the room... and after it all i think to myself... Gee Kate ur a for saying that... then i get upset all over again... So yes huni ur normal... I think maybe (like me) u need to stop and count to three before u hearl nasty comments in the heat of the moment... (i am VERY guilty of this too so dont worry) Usually i say to him i need 5 mins, and i'll go chill and be alone... sometimes just the look of him makes me want to get my claws out... but he just sits there like he doesn't care... and when he's revved me up i need someone who will fight back... step up be a man... When i was single i wasn't like that at all. I was one of those cool dudes who wouldn't give 2 if something happened... are u irritable like me? maybe we can help each other!

Hi honey... I feel ur pain... I'm 5"3, and aussie size 10 and my boobs are a large DD or a small E... My mate Sylvia was a EEE (tripple E cup) and prob an aussie size 14, so she wasn't especially big... She had breast reducion... so heres the 411 on that... *They wouldn't shrink her anything below a D because it creates problems for if she has babies and wants to breastfeed *The scars are not very nice. I've seen them. They cut around her nipple, and under her breast (like where ur underwire would go), and a line from the nipple cut to the under the breast cut. it cost her close enough to $7000AU. My boobs have shrunk to a DD thru excercise, but it depends on ur body... theres only so much weight u can loose before u start to look like mary kate olsen! I found a GREAT bra... its by berleigh, its a racerback sports bra... stops bounce by 50%, its the bra that that desperate housewives chick (the blonde one) is promoting... neway worth looking up. u can get them at Forbes lingerie, i think they go upto an E cup in bigish sizes... Breast wishes!! Breast of luck to you ! xoxoxoxo

hey raykay u are an absolute gem. it must have been hard going thru all that with ur family and mother. I think i would be prepared to get a masectomy... whatever to save my life... (worst case) but i think its a cyst. (being optimistic) I got regular excercise now, i train Arabian horses part time for a stud, and i teach young teens riding at a beginner level as i am not qualified. And yes, in a grat bra (the lump won't be from stres and the dreaded bounce) Lol... but you never know. im a size 8-10 in aussie sizes and a DD (natural, lol) Eating right is getting there... but the sleep thing needs work! I moved out of home three months ago with my Luva of three years, so getting used to his snoring, sleeping my bed, and being in a strange house too.... I think i am right to be worried. i will be much better when my Mum is back. I don't want to tell her yeat as she is on a trip to Thailand. I know she would worry... Thankyou to EVERYONE for all your love and support... I will keep you posted xoxoxoxo

Hey hun... no offence but if you had to push REALLY hard to get it in, she prob wasnt wet enough and you may have even hurt her... it's imperitive that u use lube in that sich... thats why ur condom broke. not enough lube... and thats why it happened to me im pretty sure. it can only take so much friction before it gives in and breaks.. Also, she wouldn't tighten up thru not having sex for a while. If she felt tight she was not properly aroused... I know cuz me n my man have the similar routine, and when he gets sensitive he'll put a connie on... But i know (from being a girl) that rubber well.. rubs. so he usually had to use some lube. that and when he puts the condom on he wipes his penis with a towel or somethin before putting it on.. just to be safe, AND comfy for him too gotta look after ur big fella! Lol

And it comes out again... Give and you shal receive... Lol Good luck chicky!! xo

Hey, Yeah Well in the future I will be checking! Can't wait to get it re-checked... it's just the not knowing that gets me! The lump is still there. she said if it was a hormonal thing, then it would shrink... lmao but it hasn't, so yeah... but you get that...

In a years time i will still be living here with my partner, be promoted at work (as i said im a hard worker) have a years worth of the house paid off i guess... I don't know... I have all of these wonderful goals, aspirations and dreams, but i have this annoying innability to finish what I start! Drives me nuts.