The Impossible Dream: Getting Back Together and What to Do

Dreams are enigmatic and mysterious, offering glimpses into our hidden thoughts and feelings. But what happens when a dream involves getting back together with an old flame? What do you make of it, and more importantly, what do you do with it?

The dreamer’s dilemma is a tricky one. The urge to follow through on the dream and reunite with the loved one can be strong, while the fear of getting hurt again can just as easily linger. When that happens it’s important to consider your options carefully, and think realistically before taking a leap into the unknown.

It’s easy to gloss over the fact that relationships don’t always end for a single, simple reason. It can stem from multiple issues, from a lack of communication to incompatible lifestyles. These are all things that could still exist come reunion time, and need to be discussed openly in order for everything to move forward. Of course, this requires both you and your partner have the courage to honestly face all the reasons the relationship ended in the first place. Otherwise, solving conflicts might result in the same pattern of unfulfilling arguments and cycles of negative behavior.

You need to look at the evidence and circumstantial facts, such as living in different cities, or past issues that you didn’t manage to tackle while being together. Then, compare them to your feelings, to understand how either of this factors in. Do you feel strongly enough about the relationship that these matters can be handled and solved? Are you sure these feelings are genuine and not borne out of loneliness or irrational hope?

Because the truth is, getting back with an ex is an emotional journey, and nobody can predict the outcome. One thing’s for sure though, if you’re unable to talk clearly and objectively and get closure with the help of someone objective and impartial – a therapist, for example – then trying to revive the relationship isn’t appropriate. If anything, you’ll find yourself as painful stuck as when it ended.

Dreams, however fleeting, have a powerful capacity to inspire and stir deep yearnings. This is why it’s important to explore the symbolism behind the dream, because it holds important clues as to how to handle reality. Taking the dream further can reveal your own hopes and ambitions, your strengths and weaknesses as well as motivations.

If, after careful consideration, it’s determined there’s still something between you and your old flame, trust in it rather than your fears. As life’s unpredictability can’t ever be predicted or controlled, the only thing one can do is go for it. Own up to the changes and uncertainties in your life, and use them to figure out what’s best for you.

So, go ahead, take a look back and see if it could work. With humility and judiciousness, you may be able to recreate the love and start something new. However, if your tests get inconclusive results, don’t be too hard on yourself. Maybe the dream was only wishful thinking that had to be experienced so that it can be tucked away, cozy and secure within your heart.