Girls That Don't Want to Be Eatin' out..

[heap23]

I'm sure my g/f is not the only one, but can someone tell me why some girls think it's so "weird" to be eating out?

 

That is probably my favourite sexual act to perfom, and my g/f doesn't want me to do it to her.

 

Here's the thing that I can't understand, she's never had it done before. There is no bad expience or anything, she just doesn't want me to do it. She just keeps saying it's too weird.

 

I was wondering if there is anything I can say to at least give me the chance, to go down on her, and also if there are any girls that feel the same way as my g/f does, can they shed some light on why you guys feel this way.

 

Thanks a bunch.

[annie24]

some women may feel self-conscious of their bodies or how they may smell. You could compliment her more on her body and her scent.

[miserableme]

I'm the same. As much as I love having it done to me, I always stop them after a few seconds. I'm scared they might have a problem with the smell or taste even though they tell me otherwise.

 

Just try and reassure her.

[itsallgrand]

In some ways, a man going down is even more intimate than intercourse or kissing. It's a vulnerable state to be in. She may be nervous about it, which is understandable.

 

Can you get her to open up a bit more about how she feels about it? 'weird' is very vague! You could try gently bringing it up every so often, when appropriate (and not pushing the issue) to see if there is something that can be worked on to make the idea less 'weird' to her.

Only she can say why this isn't an option for her right now, so you do need to talk to her.

 

Other than that, I would suggest the regular old good bf stuff: listening to her, make her feel special and secure, respecting her, taking it slow and following her cues with solid encouragement along the way. Maybe she is not willing to have you go down on her right, but she might be up for something 'smaller' that would lead up to it.

 

And if she's young, it may just be timing. Patience, grasshopper.

[Aurian]

If she is worried about smell or something, try having foreplay in a shower together. Then you'll both be squeaky clean before getting dirty

[Cardinal]

This situation comes up fairly often it seems. I know I would have a very difficult time dealing with it also as it is my favorite thing to do too.

 

For better or worse, I would probably have a talk with her about honesty in your relationship. If someone is not comfortable enough with themselves to be open and honest, what often happens is they lie. Not necessarily intentionally, but at least they will give you a lie of omission. Or in this case an answer that makes little to no sense.

 

Looking at the bigger picture that would frustrate me more than anything. If she will lie about this, she will lie about other things that make her insecure and she won't end up opening up to you and communication channels will suffer.

[TheRedQueen]

I am comfortable with my body, including my vagina, yet I personally do not derive pleasure from being eaten out. It is just a matter of sexual preference I believe.

[itsallgrand]

Red, do you think it's 'weird'?

 

I get having a preference. Not trying and missing out though...dam, it's a mightly pleasant experience to nix cause its weird.

[n83]

I am uncomfortable with it and I wish i wasn't..

[AFRIQUE4488]

REASSURE HER, RELAX HER, BUILD HER CONFIDENCE!!!!

i believe once shes experienced it she will want more n more...........it is delicious

[pesh]

I am uncomfortable with it and I wish i wasn't..

 

So true!

I dunno, it hard to explain. We have grown up with being taught that these are our private parts, and for our whole lives we have covered up this area of our bodies (forget infancy and such), and now to finally expose it... it takes some getting used to.

I thin kthat it also has to do with being self conscious about our bodies.

[EvaGina]

I freak out for hte first wee while, he is lovely about it tho

Its such a vunerable position to be in!

[TheRedQueen]

Well tickle me pink, I recant my original statement.

 

Getting eaten out is AWESOME!!!!

 

Thanks Mr. M *wink wink*

[TheRedQueen]

Its such a vunerable position to be in!

That's exactly how I feel!!

 

My first instinct is to clamp my legs shut (what can I say, it's strange to have my man's face up in my muff). But once I lay back, take a deep breath and relax, my oh my, does it feel good.

[Parsley]

It freaked me out too...as pesh said, it's always referrred to as your 'private' parts. The whole vulnerability thing is spot on, I thought I just wouldn't know what to do with myself while he was down there. But...then he was and all sense of decorum flew out the window along with any sense of who or where I was.

[applepie]

I think it has the potential to be great, but I've never had someone do it to me the way I would like. Despite lots of direction giving, it just hasn't happened. I get particularly upset when they don't shave their faces beforehand. That is truly painful.

[EvaGina]

That's exactly how I feel!!

 

My first instinct is to clamp my legs shut (what can I say, it's strange to have my man's face up in my muff). But once I lay back, take a deep breath and relax, my oh my, does it feel good.

 

Oh my yes... Im very glad my bf enjoys giving as well as reciving.

[kr356]

I'm the same. As much as I love having it done to me, I always stop them after a few seconds. I'm scared they might have a problem with the smell or taste even though they tell me otherwise.

 

Just try and reassure her.

 

i agree, i love getting it done... but a lot of the time i am sitting there freakign out over how i taste or smell.. i am scared that he is doing it to make me happy and is hating every min of it.. i want to know he enjoys it as much as i do

 

 

so yep reassure her

[DDRFreak]

Lol it's true. Some people might not expect it, but for me at least i sometimes worry i'm having more fun than she is. ya right!

[StarLily]

Did she give oral to you yet? She might be worried about having to give it back. It might be uncomfortable until she gets more comfortable with you first.

[joiseygrl]

Besides the obvious (worried about smell and taste) maybe she was raised to believe that kind of sexual act is "wrong". Talk to her about her reasons. Don't push, but find out if there is a way to work it out where both of you are happy.

 

On a side note, Am I the only woman who has no problem getting orally satisfied? I've never had any hang-ups about it. As a matter of fact I LOVE IT!

[EvaGina]

-I cant orgasm from oral unless i have porn...

I come close tho

[urubamba]

It's never been my favourite thing.

 

It's nice but not that exciting.

 

And oftentimes I feel like I am being washed.

[Parsley]

Oh no I do love it! Just before I'd experienced it I was just a bit..."AGH!!" but then that sort of merged into "ooh.."

 

I was the same about giving him oral too. Before, it freaked me out, but after the first few seconds I just relaxed and found I enjoyed it too.

[EvaGina]

^^^^

BAHHHHHHH HA HA HA HA, these two posts are classic!!!

v v v v

 

It's never been my favourite thing.

 

It's nice but not that exciting.

 

And oftentimes I feel like I am being washed.