Escorts...

[CynicalGuitarist]

Not only am I sick and tired of all these happy, healthy couples, but I'm sick of having all this stress from not having sex. Damn it, I'm a college student, and that's what I SHOULD be doing. It should good for my health. It's a stress reliever, and I've been really stressed out no matter how much I relax. Not to mention it's a workout and I'm out of shape in every way possible, no matter how hard I work out my body. Plus, girls don't really like virgins anyways.

 

I'm thinking the ideal solution is to get an escort. Now, before you go on and yell "HEATHEN!!", hear me out. Is it really much better to spend all your time on a relationship with a woman I really won't get along with anyways just so I can find this relief of stress? Is it really healthier to spend my life stressed out and depressed? I think an escort (and the practice of safe sex a.k.a using a condom) could probably heal me much better than the prudes, [Removed by moderator] , and all around me. At least she'll acknowledge the fact that the relationship isn't gonna go anywhere for either of us anyways, so what's there to lose?

 

But then again, smoking pot is bad for you... because the government says so!

[monkey1]

Um, maybe you need to find some other way to deal with your depression and stress?

 

And it's not true about girls not liking virgins ... my guess is you have been meeting with the wrong girls. You're 18 and sex will happen for you. I think sex is a bit overrrated, but that's just me. Personally, I'd rather have sex with someone I'm in a relationship, but if sex is really all you're looking for and don't care how and where you get it, then I guess an escort is an option. Sucks though, cuz you gotta pay money Hopefully it'd be worth it.

[CynicalGuitarist]

Um, maybe you need to find some other way to deal with your depression and stress?

 

And it's not true about girls not liking virgins ... my guess is you have been meeting with the wrong girls. You're 18 and sex will happen for you. I think sex is a bit overrrated, but that's just me. Personally, I'd rather have sex with someone I'm in a relationship, but if sex is really all you're looking for and don't care how and where you get it, then I guess an escort is an option. Sucks though, cuz you gotta pay money Hopefully it'd be worth it.

Other way? HA! I've tried it all... medication, meditation, pot, baths, cooking, hobbies, improve diet, warm baths, spending time with friends, exercise, and then some. Nothing works.

 

I'm looking for the "wrong girls"? I've looked for love in all different types of girls, and all I get is problems of all sorts, stress, feminism, prudishness, cattiness... and those are the "outcast" girls that supposedly have "perfect personalities despite their looks"... They're just as bad and elitist as the overly-sexual popular girls! Hell, at least a "relationship" with an escort would be on a simple level that we'd both know that we'd be getting into... but yeah, I guess I really am a heathen?

[rowboat]

have ya tried masterbation? If you really need to let the stress out try that before paying for sex.

[CynicalGuitarist]

Yeah, I've done it on a regular basis since I was about 15, and while it does aide my guitar playing, it just doesn't relieve stress like it used to.

[heloladies21]

This probably isn't the way to go if you look at the big picture for what you want to accomplish. Do you really want to get stuck with this expensive, dangerous habit for the rest of your life? Not to mention the toll it would take on your self esteem because you couldn't personality you way into it so you would have to pay for it.

 

So I have a better solution buddy, let's solve the REAL problem. And that's your ability to communicate with women. If you learn how to do it the right way and make sure you stop taking all of chick's personalities and statements so seriously, then you'll find what you're looking for and suffer less problems. So go here if you're ready:

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[TheRedQueen]

I have deflowered male virgins before (2 in fact), and I think you are overreacting about how you think females perceive male virgins. Good luck and happy hunting.

[CynicalGuitarist]

I have deflowered male virgins before (2 in fact), and I think you are overreacting about how you think females perceive male virgins. Good luck and happy hunting.

You wouldn't be saying that if you lived where I do.

[OceanEyes]

Your stress doesn't sound like it is going to be solved with a few quick trysts. There is obviously much more going on here that you're not talking about, whether you want to admit that or not.

 

I get a feeling that you have some contempt for women as a whole, and trust me, this sentiment will display in your personality. I understand that you've probably had some negative experiences with females in general, but if you look around here, many of us have with the opposite sex.

 

You're going to do what you want anyway, but after having read your posts, I don't believe that sex with a prostitute is going to solve your tension issues. There's more going on that you're not dealing with.

[Spugly Fuglet]

Other way? HA! I've tried it all... medication, meditation, pot, baths, cooking, hobbies, improve diet, warm baths, spending time with friends, exercise, and then some. Nothing works.

 

I'm looking for the "wrong girls"? I've looked for love in all different types of girls, and all I get is problems of all sorts, stress, feminism, prudishness, cattiness... and those are the "outcast" girls that supposedly have "perfect personalities despite their looks"... They're just as bad and elitist as the overly-sexual popular girls! Hell, at least a "relationship" with an escort would be on a simple level that we'd both know that we'd be getting into... but yeah, I guess I really am a heathen?

 

 

I think your going about ts the wrong way theres is an opertuntiry here to make some real cash. Ask your self this why buy sex when I can sell it, see your in CA full of rich older women who would take kindly and with coin to the ataions of a young happy go lucky giy like your self.

 

If I where you I would get my self a nice now out fit, you know some thing thats would show off my * * * and beast past, and if I did not have them as small inversment would get me some from any Plastic Sergen on town.

 

Then I would head off to where the rich ladys are like the Bingo hall or Riding club (with a pun) the I would work the crawed see if I could not find myself some nice rich lady to take me home. Once there I would over drinks bring up the matter of payment.

 

This that sounds like to much work I could sign up to an agancey that maches up older woman who dont wont the hassels of a relationship with you money hungry men like my self.

 

So I think you shoudl be selling not buyin, get out there! and start shilling

 

 

 

 

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No, not to you tast,

 

Well thats what you lady of the night sees you as, coin, a Jhon, her next dress. As shes lying under you and your come in my paints heven shes thinking, Hummm red dress or blue.

 

Makes you think dont it

[CynicalGuitarist]

Though I'm not exactly the best-looking guy in the world, not exactly happy-go-lucky, and am not sure how old these ladies would be, I can see where you are coming from. Seeing as I don't really have a job, this seems a helluva lot more ideal than some of these other solutions. At least you're being original.

[Carnatic]

I'm pretty certain that hiring a prostitute won't solve all your problems... I have friends who did a similar thing, felt they NEEDED to have sex, and eventually paid a prostitute. They didn't feel that great about it afterwards, the crucial stress relief that was missing was the affection you can only get from someone who loves you, sex on it's own doesn't help... it's just overly elaborate masturbation.

 

As for the virginity thing, I know you live in California but I still think it's probably more your age than where you are... more people are a virgin at 18 than you probably know, and at 18 people can be immature about it. When I was 18 I would have agreed with you I would never have let on I was a virgin, if conversation veered onto sex I'd quickly change the subject or make an excuse to leave/go to the bar. Now I'm 23 and I'm still a virgin, and that's a fairly well known fact amongst those who know me, no-one makes a big deal out of it, I know other people my age who are still virgins too; we aren't social lepers and girls don't turn us down because of it; we're just guys who haven't been that lucky with girls in the 5 or 6 years we've been dating and haven't resorted to hiring a prostitute. And that's fine by most people.

[CynicalGuitarist]

I wish I didn't live in California... even though it's one of the better states to live, it's a cesspool of popularity contests and needless materialism. Almost everyone there thinks their crap doesn't stink and they're so insecure about themselves, they drive at least 100mph in their fancy sports cars and brag about how many times they've been laid and how wasted they were at that party last night. They live lives of overt shallowness and stupidity and belittle anybody who doesn't do the same. Despite it being described as artistic, I've been playing guitar for 4 years; supposedly, women LOVE guitarists. Well, most of the women I've talked to think I'm a geek for being a guitarist. California sucks.

[Meow18]

Trust me, girls would prefer a virgin to a guy who paid someone to have sex with them.

 

Do you realize what kind of impression you give off when you seem that desperate for sex? Seriously, that's not attractive to girls.

 

So you are stressed now. What about next month when you get stressed? Will you hire another escort?

 

You don't need sex. You just need a way to relieve your stress.

[Meow18]

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[RayKay]

I don't see why your options are:

 

1) escort

 

or

 

2) loveless relationship to just have sex

 

Why would you need to settle for EITHER of those? Answer is, you don't.

 

Why not wait until you meet the one whom IS emotionally AND physically fulfilling?

 

You are 18, that is VERY young, and I would guarantee there are many, many, MANY other 18 year old men and women whom have not had sex yet either.

 

 

And neither will make you happy or fulfilled. Someone above was right...sex without sentiment is just glorified masturbation. Get a blow up doll if you feel that in need, but don't risk your health, your finances, and your future relationships on paying for someone. Trust me, if I EVER dated a man and found out he had paid for sex previous to me, I would NOT be with him any longer. To me it just shows immediately a very different set of morals and beliefs and it would unacceptable to me.

 

How much of a stress reliever will it be when you are paying for it, when you are being used for your money by some women whom really has NO interest in you, or even the sex for that matter. She just wants the money. How much of a stress reliever will it be when you get a bump on your penis and are panicking about it (because, even WITH condoms, there ARE STI's that transmit with skin-to-skin contact). How much of a stress reliever will it be when your future girlfriend, one you want to be your wife, finds out about this and is so hurt, she ends things with you?

 

As for being in shape, sex won't fix that. That takes working out, and emotional and physical good health.

 

I would say this is a far deeper issue than "sex". You are building sex up to be the answer, the solution to all your ails, instead of looking at the solutions to those ails themselves. If you are unhappy and lonely, sex wiht a prostitute is not going to fix that. If you are insecure, sex with a prostitute is not going to fix that. If you are stressed and unhappy with your body, sex with a prostitute is not going to fix that. See where I am going?

[Day_Walker]

If you believe that having sex is going to make make the stress or the depression go away then you are mistaken. Potentially it can actually make you feel worse. I think that your negative attitude as scewed your perception about the issue of sex and what girls actually want.

[spider007]

it can get into a habbit very quickly....and it's an expensive hobby, trust me i know....USE IT AS A LAST RESORT. In the mean time, i'm gona pm you a site that will make you understand women hell of a lot better (as long as you keep an open mind.

 

I used to be a tool when it came to women (back in highschool)....I wish i had the knowlage and the confidence i do now, because my life would have turned out very different.....now I'm just lazy...why go out when i can make a phonecall and get laid......that's getting old too....

 

 

edit; it seams i can't send you pm for whatever reason, contact me if you want the site

[BellaDonna]

Trust me, girls would prefer a virgin to a guy who paid someone to have sex with them.

 

That is true. A virgin is much more appealing than someone who hires prostitutes.

 

I think the world "escort" is a silly euphemism. Let's not sugarcoat it. An "escort" drives a limo.....what you're looking for is a prostitute/hooker. Call it like it is.

 

Whatever term you use for it- it's not going to get you anywhere in life. You'll be wasting your money. And when you meet a woman to have a relationship one day and you have the famous conversation about who "your first" was- you'll either have to be a liar or tell her the very unattractive truth that it was a hooker.

 

Lastly, condoms do not protect against all STD's, and can fail. Crabs for instance can still crawl right on you condom or not....link removed

 

if someone has a herpes lesion on their inner thigh it can still rub against any part of you that is not covered by the condom.

 

I would say that pubic lice and genital herpes are probably very common among people who sell their bodies for sex on a daily basis and only use condoms. Do you really want to risk it? Do you really want to have sex with someone that could have had another man inside of her within the past 24 hours, right before you? You'll even PAY money for those sloppy seconds????????

 

Try getting sex from a normal woman after contracting a disease from a prostitute-you'll know what true sexless misery is then.

 

You really need to re-think this whole thing....

 

 

BellaDonna

[Spugly Fuglet]

I still think he could make a killing as a hehore, but all you say is also true

Love takes stress away not sex, its the holding onto you loved one after the act that destresses.

[BellaDonna]

see your in CA full of rich older women who would take kindly and with coin to the ataions of a young happy go lucky giy like your self.

 

I have a hunch that it wouldn't only be women who would want to hire him. "Hehores" tend to called upon by more than just women for their "services".

 

Unless his sexuality is "flexible" - he probably would have a hard time keeping work. And then there's the whole pimp problem.....

 

 

I think he should refrain from both buying hookers AND becoming one.

 

BellaDonna

[heloladies21]

I wish I didn't live in California... even though it's one of the better states to live, it's a cesspool of popularity contests and needless materialism. Almost everyone there thinks their crap doesn't stink and they're so insecure about themselves, they drive at least 100mph in their fancy sports cars and brag about how many times they've been laid and how wasted they were at that party last night. They live lives of overt shallowness and stupidity and belittle anybody who doesn't do the same. Despite it being described as artistic, I've been playing guitar for 4 years; supposedly, women LOVE guitarists. Well, most of the women I've talked to think I'm a geek for being a guitarist. California sucks.

 

Bah, see this is just a bunch of passive aggressive behavior and misplacing the blame for your unhappiness. Don't you realize that your life is in your control? And all of these problems (which i'm not sure exactly how someone else driving a fancy sports car affects your life) would be solved if you made a decision to make a change?

 

That materialistic shallow behavior is everywhere you go, but it's not their true personality, and if you were to communicate with people in a way which would break down their fronts, you'd see the real side of them.

 

Being a great guitar player will not get you laid. Women aren't attracted to your playing guitar because you don't talk to them about it/describe it in a way which makes them interested in you. Your problem is how you communicate with women/people. I gave you that list of sites, which is only for starters. There's much more out there and it will help you if you give it a chance and persist at it.

 

It's not life's job to make you happy, it's your job to make you happy. The answer is right in front of you, and if you're not willing to do the work to educate yourself then you really can't complain anymore because it's a choice you made.

[neva_black_n_white]

interesting indeed.

if sex is literally all you want, and your not bothered about the whole paying for it and possibly not being your type.

 

then thats cool.. go for it.

but its better when theres emotional involvement.. or someone knows you.. and its more that looks.

 

BUT your a student, all about the sex.

half of my friends would agree. even when theyre in relationships, they state, "im young, if the sex aint good im out"

 

thats not me.. but hey, half the 18 year olds out there have your back.. tey just dont pay for it.

 

take it your a virgin? not exactly the best way to go... but could be the most fabulous experience (i just dont know)

[Spugly Fuglet]

I have a hunch that it wouldn't only be women who would want to hire him. "Hehores" tend to called upon by more than just women for their "services".

 

Unless his sexuality is "flexible" - he probably would have a hard time keeping work. And then there's the whole pimp problem.....

 

 

I think he should refrain from both buying hookers AND becoming one.

 

BellaDonna

 

Sorry bad Spugly, one of my bad jokes, But what I was trying to get over was I have never payed for sex becouse I just could not get out of my head the idear that the woman (if your a lady then man) would be thinking all the way throw, when will this end so I can move onto the next one.

 

Time is money

 

puts me right off,

 

Sorry just trying to do it in a lame but funny way

[Carnatic]

I wish I didn't live in California... even though it's one of the better states to live, it's a cesspool of popularity contests and needless materialism. Almost everyone there thinks their crap doesn't stink and they're so insecure about themselves, they drive at least 100mph in their fancy sports cars and brag about how many times they've been laid and how wasted they were at that party last night. They live lives of overt shallowness and stupidity and belittle anybody who doesn't do the same. Despite it being described as artistic, I've been playing guitar for 4 years; supposedly, women LOVE guitarists. Well, most of the women I've talked to think I'm a geek for being a guitarist. California sucks.

well you don't need to be sucked into this materialism, when you're older you can choose where you live and if you don't like certain things about California you can choose to live elsewhere. You don't seem to agree with all of this materialism of Californian society so why try to fulfil feelings of inadequacy it puts onto you.