buzzment Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 Whats more important to you?....to have a great career,or to have a great loving relationship.Or are both equally important to you as the lucky ones have both?Can you get by with a good career and no love or have a loving relationship with a so so job?.. Link to comment
TheLegend Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 I think having a great loving relationship and an ok job would do it for me..I'm not saying a job I hate would be ok though. I don't think you can get by with a good career and no love because that'd be just too boring, noone to share your life/success with. But a loving relationship with a so so job would be ok in my opinion.. Link to comment
xmrth Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 I think that even while having a not so good job, being in a wonderful relationship gives you a higher spirit in a way. It kind of makes everything bad or not so great more tolerable. Link to comment
princessdi75 Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 I need love. lol. My job is my job, and I only want to make enough money to support myself. I wouldn't work somewhere I hate, but I don't need to work somewhere that I love. What gets me through a stressful workday is knowing that I get to go home to people that love me, and I love in return. Link to comment
Spawn Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 career for now....if love happens again will like to work it out. Link to comment
shes2smart Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 Over the course of my life, I've had times when I was working a job I loved but had no relationship or a crappy relationship. I've also had times when I've had a strong relationship and work wasn't so great. Somehow, having the career satisfaction with no relationship is the most preferable of those "one or the other" options. Fortunately, I've managed to get to a place where I have a job I love AND a good relationship. I think the turning point to have both at the same time had to do with believing I was capable and deserving of having both. Link to comment
trident Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 Love. A job is just a job. Not matter how important you think you are to the a company, you're just another cog in the machine. They got along fine before you got there & they'll get along fine after you're gone. Link to comment
DN Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 I don't think these things are necessarily mutually exclusive. Everything that is important in your life should be balanced with each other. If you are unhappy in your job it could very well impact negatively on your relationship and vice-versa. Link to comment
princessdi75 Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 If you are unhappy in your job it could very well impact negatively on your relationship and vice-versa. DN, You are SOOO right. That is absolutely the truth, and I'm living proof of it!! It never even crossed my mind though... Link to comment
buzzment Posted April 14, 2006 Author Share Posted April 14, 2006 I don't think these things are necessarily mutually exclusive. Everything that is important in your life should be balanced with each other. If you are unhappy in your job it could very well impact negatively on your relationship and vice-versa. Yup agreed with all that is said here....the key to a happy life is balance....but having said that if u are not particularly career minded then an unhappy relationship isnt gonna interfere with your job if its a so so job or career to you.. Link to comment
whitefang Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 I agree, with me im not the best when it comes to relationships and now rather not having anyone at my side im concentrating on my career to get myself in good stead and have some sort of foundation and then try and balance them both out. Link to comment
chai714 Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 I don't think these things are necessarily mutually exclusive. Everything that is important in your life should be balanced with each other. If you are unhappy in your job it could very well impact negatively on your relationship and vice-versa. Bingo. DN = Wisdom Link to comment
bobo85 Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 It really depends. I think people need both career and love to be truly happy. But for me, i choose love. Link to comment
CharLit Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 It would be better for my career to go and work abroad, but my partner has a good, non-exportable job where we live. I'm not choosing love over career, just love over the optimal career I could have - there's plenty for meto do here, too. What we have is so wonderful I would never put it aside for my career: if things ever go wrong between us i can always go ahead and move abroad then, but if i were to leave him for my career now it would be for good and i'd regret it forever. Link to comment
NJRon Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 If you are unhappy in your job it could very well impact negatively on your relationship and vice-versa. I can vouch for that having happened to me. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 14, 2006 Share Posted April 14, 2006 Relationships come before my career. It works out though, because my career is relationship-based.....so they are intertwined so deeply that both support each other. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 16, 2006 Share Posted April 16, 2006 Nope, but that sounds like an interesting idea.... Link to comment
Caldus Posted April 16, 2006 Share Posted April 16, 2006 The way I see it, you kinda need money to survive unless you find someone to depend on (which I do not think is a very good idea). And since you're going to be at your job a lot, if you aren't doing something that makes you happy, you're screwed. You're just going to get miserable after a while. You will be working almost every week for the rest of your life so you ought to figure out what you want to do career-wise. Relationships come last in my book, but that doesn't mean that you can't have both. Although I have to agree with DN. A bad job can easily screw-up your relationships anyway. And a messed-up relationship can hinder your performance at a job as well. And you can be happy without either, given that you have some method of surviving. Link to comment
xmrth Posted April 16, 2006 Share Posted April 16, 2006 How can jobs mess up a relationship? You mean more along the lines of a bad job putting you in a bad mood, right? I have always thought that you should be in a tolerable job unless you're on the verge of being homeless... right now I need so much money, but I'm not in a bad place like that. So I'm still picking and choosing. My options aren't so great and I'm a little worried of being unhappy in my next job before my career. I'm a little afraid of being "complainy" to my boyfriend if my next job makes me crazed. I agree with Caldus on how they can effect eachother; that's very true. Link to comment
itsallgrand Posted April 17, 2006 Share Posted April 17, 2006 Well, a career can interfer with relationships if you are a workaholic. Or if you constantly put your career goals before people. Or if you refuse to support yourself at all. It's nice to be able to spend time with people who we care about. My thinking is: I work to eat and live my life the way I choose. Soul-rotting jobs are like soul-rotting relationships: it's not worth what you pay for. Sometimes ya gotta do things to survive, but that's desperate measures. Of course though I agree that they all affect each other. It's simply personal priorities, eh. Link to comment
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