MrHorizontal1234 Posted January 13 Share Posted January 13 I spoke to the samaritans last night, and they basically said they think I'm inactive because I had strong feelings for a girl I worked with during my Master's course and I didn't tell her. Years later, I'm feeling pretty broken up over photos appearing on fb of her and her bf at Christmas. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 13 Share Posted January 13 If FB is bringing you down why not deactivate it ? 3 1 Link to comment
boltnrun Posted January 14 Share Posted January 14 Why torture yourself? Stop clicking on her FB profile page. Are you still going out with them socially? Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 14 Share Posted January 14 18 minutes ago, MrHorizontal1234 said: I spoke to the samaritans last night, and they basically said they think I'm inactive because I had strong feelings for a girl I worked with during my Master's course and I didn't tell her. Years later, I'm feeling pretty broken up over photos appearing on fb of her and her bf at Christmas. It's great you reached out for help and talked to someone. Do you have health insurance? Please see a physician for an evaluation of your physical and mental health and get some tests done. Ask for a referral to a qualified therapist for ongoing support. Please try to get regular support and healthcare as well as cutting down on depressants such as alcohol and weed. Link to comment
Capricorn3 Posted January 14 Share Posted January 14 After reading your threads it comes across that you're depressed. Maybe time to look into therapy to help you with depression and mental health issues. You can't fix this on your own (imo), but start by closing your FB account. 1 Link to comment
ShySoul Posted January 14 Share Posted January 14 There are plenty of studies linking social media to depression and anxiety. If using it is causing you pain, then cut the proverbial cord and stop. No good comes of looking up pictures of someone you can't be with. It only serves to keep you stuck in the past, reliving the very moments that are holding you back in the present. It won't make everything better, but it's a start. 1 Link to comment
MrHorizontal1234 Posted January 15 Author Share Posted January 15 If I could see my therapist I would, but she's booked up for the year. I am trying everyday. My feelings regarding this girl are very complicated and I'd appreciate some compassion and understanding on this forum. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 15 Share Posted January 15 Okay but do you want understanding or commiserating ? Commiserating only does so good for so long and then it is enabling . 1 Link to comment
boltnrun Posted January 15 Share Posted January 15 We would be happy to support you in your efforts to remove yourself from this situation. If you choose to continue to look at her FB profile and to go out socially with her and her husband, it's hard to be supportive of those choices. I do hope you choose to leave her behind you and move forward in a more positive way. 1 Link to comment
shouldhavelearned Posted January 15 Share Posted January 15 Why do that to yourself? Don't do damaging things Link to comment
MrHorizontal1234 Posted January 15 Author Share Posted January 15 I don't go on her profile, nor do I go out socially with her or her bf. I haven't seen her in a few years. These are photos that came up in my fb timeline. Link to comment
ShySoul Posted January 15 Share Posted January 15 I understand complicaed situations with a girl. It's never easy and is something you take day by day. Some days will be better then others. So realize it's okay if you don't always feel strong or at your best. The key is keep pushing forward, a little at a time. It's about taking the small steps where you can. I think we are all sympathetic to what you are going through, but are limited in what we can do for you. So we are suggesting the one little thing we see that would save you a lot of heartache. The problem with social media is that it's all connected. Even if you aren't trying to see something, it can pop up when you least expect it. Seeing it, especially if you aren't prepared, can bring back a tidal wave of feelings and thoughts that you weren't ready for. That brings on one of the down days and can stop any momentum you had. If seeing her brings out these feelings, it's best to cut out any possible way of seeing her, Facebook included. Is there anyone else you can speak with? If your therapist is booked, maybe they can refer you to someone else? If you feel you need that level of help, it's probably best to talk to somone as soon as you can. In the meantime, for what it's worth, know that you do have support here. I'm thinking about you and hoping you are okay. One day at a time, little by little. It does get better. Link to comment
boltnrun Posted January 15 Share Posted January 15 1 hour ago, MrHorizontal1234 said: I don't go on her profile, nor do I go out socially with her or her bf. I haven't seen her in a few years. These are photos that came up in my fb timeline. On 1/13/2024 at 3:53 PM, MrHorizontal1234 said: I'm feeling pretty broken up over photos appearing on fb of her and her bf at Christmas Do these photos somehow appear on your feed without you two being "friends" on Facebook? I don't see photos of someone unless we're "friends". Is this a different woman than the one with the boyfriend you were interacting with a couple of months ago? Link to comment
Kwothe28 Posted January 15 Share Posted January 15 Samaritans? Also, if her with somebody else brought you down that means you didnt get over her. Which is kinda silly considering its a crush. For example, one of mine got knocked up and married. I didnt act on it because I was a mess back then. So cant really blame her for finding somebody. Its a natural thing to do. Same with you and yours. You didnt act for it so she isnt obligated to wait for you to try anything. In fact, you should be glad that she is probably happy. And that you should maybe find somebody else to be happy as well. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted January 15 Share Posted January 15 OK so you had a triggered situation. I suggest you delete your FB account and start a fresh one eliminating any old photos from popping up. Or completely get off that social media platform. Find a different app and make a new start. It's all about changing your habits to move forward. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 15 Share Posted January 15 17 hours ago, MrHorizontal1234 said: If I could see my therapist I would, but she's booked up for the year.. My feelings regarding this girl are very complicated and I'd appreciate some compassion and understanding on this forum. See a physician and get a referral to a qualified therapist. Please understand that unrequited crushes are not uncommon. However this situation seems to magnify a lot of pain and loneliness you're having. She is not the cause of that. 1 Link to comment
Cherylyn Posted January 16 Share Posted January 16 Quit social media. You'll be amazed at how much clearer your brain will be not to mention you'll become far more industrious than you could every imagine. Screens are a huge time trap. ☹️ Link to comment
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