Alaska69 Posted January 4 Share Posted January 4 Hello.. I would be glad to receive some advice. Thank you. Me (31) and my boyfriend (53) 3 years together. I knew before he wanted theesome while he was married. He said, probably he wanted because he lost sexual desire for his wife. When he met me — he said that he happy about our sexual life and he doesn’t need 3 person. And I told to him clearly — I’m against 3some. Period. Now I have few month when I was luck of attention from him. Luck of intimacy with him. He started to find excuses to not come to me (we leaving in different county of Europe, before we met every month). So he left me alone to celebrate NW while he knows it was important for me him to come.(I can’t come to him because of visa). But he says that he loves me. So cherry on the cake: Yesterday we had talked about sex and he wrote about my 19 years old friend: “It makes me hard to think that you ask me to satisfy her. And you watch and kiss me while I’m doing it“. Because he saw my photo of her. It was light nude for my photography exam. So… I don’t know how to react. I was in completely shock and hurt by this and I said “it gives me discomfort”. Especially he knew my thoughts about 3some. And she is my friend… His answer “you always bring some negative. It’s just fantasy”. He apologized, but said things like “I thought I could trust you”. So now he is offended and we are not talking and looks like it’s the end. And I blame myself. After lovely NW, after for month questioning myself about his love… Im just confused. Am I too sensitive because it’s just fantasy?… Or… I don’t know. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 4 Share Posted January 4 Why would you show a naked picture of your friend to your bf? Did she give permission to show her body around ? Nah, it isn’t just fantasy. My bet is he is fooling around and he wants you to sanction his fooling around . 1 1 Link to comment
Alaska69 Posted January 4 Author Share Posted January 4 6 minutes ago, Seraphim said: Why would you show a naked picture of your friend to your bf? Did she give permission to show her body around ? Nah, it isn’t just fantasy. My bet is he is fooling around and he wants you to sanction his fooling around . Please read carefully: I study photography and those pictures for my exam. So of course I have her permission to post it. But the fact he knew it will hurt me he said me his fantasies. Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted January 4 Share Posted January 4 8 minutes ago, Alaska69 said: Me (31) and my boyfriend (53) 3 years together. we living in different county of Europe, before we met every month. I told to him clearly — I’m against 3some. Period. Now I have few month when I was lack of attention from him. Lack of intimacy with him. Sorry this is happening. How often do you see each other in person? Please stay true to yourself and your values and feelings. He seems to want permission to cheat and explore others. Please save yourself a lot of headaches and heartaches and consider cutting your losses. You're not compatible and he isn't affectionate or respectful toward you. 1 Link to comment
Alaska69 Posted January 4 Author Share Posted January 4 3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Sorry this is happening. How often do you see each other in person? Please stay true to yourself and your values and feelings. He seems to want permission to cheat and explore others. Please save yourself a lot of headaches and heartaches and consider cutting your losses. You're not compatible and he isn't affectionate or respectful toward you. Before every month. But for last 6 month just 2 times. And in fact he being here with me last time for 10 days we had sex just 3 times. So I was wondering what’s wrong could be since I don’t feel his sexual interest in me anymore… But probably yes, he just want permission to cheat. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 4 Share Posted January 4 2 minutes ago, Alaska69 said: 1) It’s not naked. It’s nude. Please read carefully: I study photography and those pictures for my exam. So of course I have her permission to post it. But the fact he knew it will hurt me he said me his fantasies. Naked and nude mean exactly the same thing. I know you said you study photography. I am a native English speaker and have a university education and can read. Thanks. However, if your bf isn’t in the photography class I am sure she didn’t give permission to be ogled by him. If he is hurting you on purpose he isn’t a great bf . 1 Link to comment
Alaska69 Posted January 4 Author Share Posted January 4 2 minutes ago, Seraphim said: Naked and nude mean exactly the same thing. I know you said you study photography. I am a native English speaker and have a university education and can read. Thanks. However, if your bf isn’t in the photography class I am sure she didn’t give permission to be ogled by him. If he is hurting you on purpose he isn’t a great bf . For me — naked sounds a bit… like in erotic or porn or homemade photos for bf. Nude could be with light dress, or just bra and panties. Or just panties. Something… gentle, beautiful:) Sorry, so why I corrected. She gave me permission to post it in my insta. So all in fine with that. Link to comment
Seraphim Posted January 4 Share Posted January 4 1 minute ago, Alaska69 said: She gave me permission to post it in my insta. So all in fine with that. Okay, great. Link to comment
MissCanuck Posted January 4 Share Posted January 4 Raise your standards and dump this clown. This is barely a relationship anymore and he's behaving inappropriately after you clearly stated he was making you uncomfortable. 2 1 Link to comment
Alaska69 Posted January 4 Author Share Posted January 4 18 minutes ago, Seraphim said: Why would you show a naked picture of your friend to your bf? Did she give permission to show her body around ? Nah, it isn’t just fantasy. My bet is he is fooling around and he wants you to sanction his fooling around . Thank you for your answers. Link to comment
smackie9 Posted January 4 Share Posted January 4 He tells you he loves you then in the same breath he tells you he wants to boink someone else. Deal breaker. Boot him to the curb. 1 1 Link to comment
shouldhavelearned Posted January 5 Share Posted January 5 Gross Get away Don't get caught with an std or pregnancy He just wants the young women and will dump you right after the threesome 1 1 Link to comment
NighttimeNightmare Posted January 5 Share Posted January 5 9 hours ago, Alaska69 said: Me (31) and my boyfriend (53) 3 years together 9 hours ago, Alaska69 said: Yesterday we had talked about sex and he wrote about my 19 years old friend: You’re not young enough for him. This is disgusting. He sounds pedophiliac what attracted you to a 53 year old man? How old was his ex wife? 2 1 Link to comment
Popular Post Kwothe28 Posted January 5 Popular Post Share Posted January 5 Ok, since nobody mentioned I am going to say it: age difference is weird. He can be your father. He can almost be her grandfather. He is a perv with a fetish for younger women. Its weird and gross. He is just showing you who he is. Get rid of the perv and find somebody age appropriate who would commit to you instead of talking to you about wanting to have sex with barely legal women. 2 3 Link to comment
MrMan1983 Posted January 5 Share Posted January 5 He's a dirty older perve and doesn't respect you or the relationship, plus it's long distance = get rid. 3 Link to comment
catfeeder Posted January 7 Share Posted January 7 I'd be thankful that he's in another country, and I wouldn't waste another minute on him. Head high, and walk forward. 2 Link to comment
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